OK ladies, I know that there’s been hundreds of these posts in the past, but I’m not a newbie and I need dancer help/confirmation please. First here’s the background and I apologize for the length.
I’ve known my ATF for more than 4-years now. I’m an out of town reg and I visit her club like 3-4 times/yr, but usually 2-nights in a row.
I’m always respectful, pleasant, a gentleman and I always tip after her dances or when she goes on stage. I’ve never asked for her phone #, never tried to ask her out or any other type of personal information. She volunteered her “real name” to me a couple of years ago. I knew that she had a b-friend, but the relationship ended about a year and half ago.
Well the last couple of times, she’s dropped some minor hints such as asking me “if I have a girlfriend now or if I got married yet.” She would ask this almost immediately after greeting me and asking how I’ve been. My response has always been “no”. Or while giving me dances in the VIP room and telling me “you’re cute or you’re the cutest and kind of giggling”. (I took this for good SS.)
Forward to this past weekend, after telling her that I was still single, she proceeded to say "well maybe we should go out then." However, she quickly put in a disclaimer of "oh I guess we shouldn't cross the line." Plus it was all of the above and telling me “you’re exactly my type” and asking me “what’s your type.” I told her that I preferred petite brunettes. She’s petite, but a blonde, so she took it as a compliment since I’ve been such a good custy over the years. (BTW It wasn’t meant to be a compliment.) Both nights, I only asked her to dance 2-sets and on the 3rd set to just cuddle and chat. While cuddling, she continually gave me little kisses on the side of my cheek and near my ears. It was more than a handful of those little kisses. Also during the dances, she asked if she could unbutton my top buttons which was a first. I said “sure” and she then proceeded to kiss my chest and lick my nipples and continued to rub my chest and lower stomach while she snuggled next to me.
At this point, I decided to take her little hints and ask her if she would like to have dinner the next time that I visited. She immediately said “yes” and asked “you’re not just saying it right, you mean it?” I told her that I was serious and she better not flake and then told her next time that I go to, it would be for New Year’s, so we kind of made a “date” for New Year’s Eve already. I proceeded to ask for her number (1st and only time that I’ve ever even mentioned telephone # in 4-years). She immediately offered it to write it down for me, but didn’t have a pen and we didn’t want to arouse suspicions by asking for one, so I gave her my cell # and she called and left a v-mail with her number while sitting facing me. I picked-up the v-mail the next morning, since I don’t take my cell into the clubs. She also told me to call her by her real name in the future, if I wanted. She asked me if I remembered her “real” name which I did.
It’s funny. This weekend we actually talked about the kind of movies and food that we liked. It was more of a get to know each other conversation then the usual “hi, how you been and how’s business?” kind of conversation. It was nice.![]()
OK now to my question, I know many of you ladies have said “if she’s interested then she’ll let you know.” Would you consider these obvious signs to let me know that she is interested in something other than a custy relationship?
She really has no incentive to SS me, since I always ask for her, spend money on her and am not going to be going anymore than I already do, since I am from out of town. I would have continued to buy dances from her, even if she said “no” to dinner. BTW she’s always told me that she didn’t really like Regs because they all ended up falling in love.
Next question is how soon should I call her? Call in the next couple of days since I just got her number and try to firm some things up as to where she might enjoy going to for dinner and maybe additional calls to just chat or wait until it gets closer to the end of the year? I’d have to make reservations early for NY Eve’s anyways, since most places would be booked in her city.
TIA and taking the time to read this long post.![]()



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And normally I'd agree with TOO that you should wait and see if she calls you, but she kinda already put the ball in your court by initiating the convo and by leaving you a VM in the first place. So I say call her, but not too soon. If I were the girl in this story and I were interested, I would expect you to call next and I would NOT call until you did.




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