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    i'm the kind of girl that walks up, looks you in the eyes, says hi, introduces myself & sits on your lap. this goes over really well with guys that are alone or if there are only two guys at a table.

    but when there's a group of buddies huddled around a little table, it screws up my approach. i always feel like i'm interrupting. most of the time i'm left standing there listening to the crickets chirp after i say hi & try to introduce myself. what the hell am i supposed to do to get everyone's attention? do i pick a lap to sit on? do i try to introduce myself to each one individually? do i do a loud "wanna dance" while standing by their table? should i do a cartwheel & set my hair on fire?

    i mean, i'm not shy or timid. i just flop with big groups. what to do???

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    First off, your approach is wrong in so many ways but since I'm on my phone I'll let someone else tell you. Second, ask the group what brings them there. Special occasion? Tits and beer? Converse with them. Ask about their day. Then when the time is right say, 'so! Who's getting a dance with me first?' assume one of them will buy. Then go back and sell more.


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    my approach + the intital conversation you mention = working for me.

    except with groups. i have a hard time getting my foot in the door so that i can move on to the initial conversation leading up to the asking "who wants a dance" part.

    should i not sit and try to take on the whole group up front while i'm still standing? or pick one guy to sit on and try to draw his buddies into the conversation, too? either way, my club's so damn loud it's hard to hear or be heard if you're more than a foot away.

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    Ask them if you can sit. Address the whole group until one tries to take your attention and is the most receptive. Talk a minute. Ask. Dance. Then go back. 'Your friend had so much fun! Who's next?'


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    There are a few ways to approach groups succesfully:

    1. Gather your stripper friends and decide who like which guy the best and go there all together. All of you can sit on each guy's lap and take turns talking and asking why they are there and their names, etc.

    2. Watch from a distance to see if someone has a birthday/stag/divorce/whatever and then approach one of the buddies and ask him if he wants to buy his friend a dance (this approach should not be obvious to the other members of the party)

    Both these were very effective for me. In fact, the first one I mentioned is the #1 hustling method at one of Toronto's most "prestige" clubs and it really works!

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    DW has some really great advice about this but I'd rather not give away all his secrets.

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    There are a couple of other threads you can look at at the bottom of this page on this topic. Personally, I don't give groups of 3+ any more than "Hi, my name's Jenna. How are you guys doing tonight? Who would like a dance?" In my experience, if large groups are spending money (which isn't as often as smaller ones) they will call me over, or get a dance right when I ask. Otherwise they are not worth the time. Overall, guys by themselves are the best for money!

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    Quote Originally Posted by spoiledpet
    i'm the kind of girl that walks up, looks you in the eyes, says hi, introduces myself & sits on your lap. this goes over really well with guys that are alone or if there are only two guys at a table.

    but when there's a group of buddies huddled around a little table, it screws up my approach.
    If they're literally huddled around the table, keep moving because they are not ready to buy yet. They are huddling for a reason - to avoid the strippers. Better to focus on easier targets.

    If they are open, partying, etc, then approach and take on the group. I try to get all their attention on approach, but go for either the quietest one or the coolest. Not necessarily the ringleader because he's also the most likely to give me a hard time which screws up the vibe Give initial hot dances and they will pass me around the table, all agreeing on how hot I am. It's groupthink. Then by the time I make it around to the ringleader (ie, asshole) the others have talked me up so much and decided I am just sooooo cool that I don't deserve to be fucked with, and they will kinda keep him in line. Or I've made my money and don't mind ditching the group jerk (and the others get a kick out of their "leader" being ditched by a stripper after she just partied with everyone else ).

    I don't like to approach the ringleader (asshole) first because he will piss me off, I'll have to ditch him, and then his friends will be intimidated by the fact I didn't like their leader, hence I must not like them either.

    Best way to get "in" with a group is to be FUN. They are there to party so you better be in the party mode - not drunk, just FUN. They like a loud, wise-cracking girl and/or one who knocks their socks off with her dancing best.

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    I have found that its best not to approach groups right away. Wait till they have drinks on their table or even better on their second round. Sometimes I wait till one guy has bought a dance,and then approach one of the other guys. They are going to be more receptive to buying once one of their friends has.

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    I always introduce myself to the group, then pay my attention to the most awkward/ shy/ unattractive guy in the group. He'll appreciate me more and probably spend more money in the long run. When you come back from the dance and your geeky guy has stars in his eyes it will make the other men wonder what you did to him. Then you can usually squeeze a dance or two out of the rest. If they are weary you can always say "Well your friend here can vouch that I give a great dance." I find it works.

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    I don't approach the guys that are packed in around one table, talking to each other just yet. (we do only table dances) Once they seem to loosen up, I ask if I could steal someone away for some fun at "that empty table over there, so we can have a little bit of privacy".

    If its a smaller table or they are more spread out, thats when I'll go right up and ask what the special occasion is. If there is a birthday boy or a bachelor, then I dance for him, but if there is no "special occasion" they are just hanging out, I tell them I'm sure we can think of something to celebrate. And once someone comes up wit something, I ask them if they would like to celebrate with a dance.
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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