In my opinion, those girls are huge hypocrates.. Im not saying what you did is right, but look at them.. they have absolutely no room to talk..
In my opinion, those girls are huge hypocrates.. Im not saying what you did is right, but look at them.. they have absolutely no room to talk..



See! Everything turned out fine!!! A lot of times, it's all in your head. I know there have been plenty of times I have gotten drunk and remember saying certain things to girls in the dressing room and I feel way to embarrassed to come in the next night. Then when I do, everything is fine. It's all in my head cuz I think about it too much. The girls who were being dirty while hating on you are hypocrites!!! It's most likely cuz you are kinda new and they feel that only THEY can be dirty and get away with it. Just make sure you don't do it again or you WILL be labeled "the dirty girl".
So, the dirty girls didn't like new competition, eh? Was that the reason for the hissy fit? Or maybe they wanted to bring attention YOUR behavior and use you as a distraction so they and their bad behavior wouldn't be in the spotlight! They tried to make themselves look like little angels to management when, in reality, they are anything but! Bitches!
Only THEY can be dirty and noone else?
What hypocrites!
Stay a clean dancer, and stay sober. Ignore these girls. Karma's a bitch and they will get theirs!
Glad it blew over.





Ilovetodance, you alluded to the REAL problem these girls have with what you did in your original post: That they could see it. We ALL know there are other girls who do similar stuff or worse at work. I would bet anything that the girls who make the most noise about it are the ones who are 'dirty' but are more discreet - much like in high school the bitches who called anyone a slut who had sex once are usually the REAL sluts, they just keep it a secret. Chics are weird. It's perfectly ok to be a slut as long as no one else knows![]()
Anyway, as others have said: don't make an issue at work, keep going to work, ignore the other girls and keep yourself busy, keep your stuff locked up, and avoid getting drunk at work. If you are not comfortable doing that kind of activity for money, then make sure you keep your head on so you don't do it again. Stick to your boundaries.
This reminds me of some bullshit at my current club. Mgmt has decided to crack down on some dirty girls, and have started lighting up the main lapdance area more as well as warned us they will be sending in spies to buy dances and report to mgmt how we behave. So suddenly several girls are loudly bitching and yelling about dirty girls in the dressing room. But the ones who are doing the bitching and yelling always seem to be the ones who ARE the dirty girlsI guess they think if they bitch loudly enough, they will convince everyone it's not them
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I think you all are right. It kind of pissed me off to know how hypocritical they were all being. But that’s their business. My dances are clean and they’ll stay clean. I’ve always been that way. It was a slip up and one that won’t happen again. I think maybe it’s because I’ve started really making a lot of money there. And they were just waiting on me to make a mistake and pounce on me. But it’s all over now, I was really surprised how quickly it blew over. I figured it would take at least a week or so.
You know I really strive to stick to working only and stay out of the gossip and the drama whirlwinds. I thought it would be so easy before I started. It’s so easy to say, “go in do your work, don’t socialize and get your $ and go home”. But it’s not so easy when your placed in the middle of it. I didn’t care for that at all.
My drinks will be kept to 2 a night and never any more. I know you all say if you can’t do it sober then it’s not for you. But I am a very shy person. I take xanax for anxiety (prescribed of course) If I didn’t take a couple of shots I wouldn’t be able to have the nerve to ever approach anyone. I really like dancing, I love the attention, the power trip, the $$$. I like being able to buy new outfits and get all done up. I have always done okay on a 2 drink limit before. That night of my mistake I can’t even remember how much I drank. It was bad. One drink to get started and one ½ way through the night will get me by just fine.
Ladies, thank you all for your comments and advice. You made me realized I wasn’t the only girl to ever make this mistake and how to get through it and ensure it doesn’t happen again. I love having you all to turn to when I need advice.
Thanks again
Amanda



Obviously they just LOVE to cause drama if there doing the same thing! But when there sober! Stupid fucking bitches man!
Be careful with where you put your drinks too hun. Customers have been known to slip things into drinks.
I know what you mean about being dragged into drama when you don't choose to be. The best thing to do when you find yourself in the eye of the drama storm is to continue to ignore everyone and just focus on yer own business. Be strong. People will talk shit or whatever, but as long as you know who you really are in your own heart, then whatever everyone else is saying about you behind your back doesn't matter. They are only making themselves look bad by gossipping about you anyway. Take the high road and show respect for yourself by ignoring them, keeping quiet about the situation, and tending to your own business. Respecting yourself will lead you to many rewards. These girls will eventually self-destruct. I've seen it time and time again. Good luck to ya!





Girl, every one of us has gotten drunk or high or had a stupid moment and done something dumb at work. We wouldn't be human if we didn't. What separates those who become (and stay) the top earners from those who languish in mediocrityis how well we learn from our experiences. Learn from your mistakes; don't keep making the same mistakes, and you will be golden.
As far as needing a couple drinks, I think if you work on your self-confidence you can overcome that need too. I liked to get my drink on for a long time too, until I was basically forced to work sober due to moving to an area where drinking at work is illegal. At that point I was experienced enough that it didn't matter much, but I had still used it as a crutch for a long time and it was a habit. Maybe if you force yourself to do it, you can overcome that. It will be hard at first and you may make less money for a while, but once you get used to it you should see your earnings actually increase because you can think better sober.
Anyway, good luck. Good for you setting boundaries for yourself![]()
Ha ha,I worked last night and the girl that started it all walked by me and said Hey girl, how are you with a big smile on her face? I just smiled and said good, how about yourself?
Honestly I really don't think she even remembers any of it. That's absolutely hilairious.![]()
Things were completely back to normal last night and I did great. Was kind of a slow night, but I still did well.
Again, many thanks to all of you who posted.
Amanda
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