I've been at it for 2 months now...and I'm just now realizing exactly how much my confidence level/self-image on any given night matters. It's like customers can sense when I'm feeling fat and ugly, or stressed...and it's like they can tell when I'm inwardly questioning why on earth anyone would drop any real amount of money on me.
That sense of "I'm not worth spending money on" is holding me back more than anything. I make okay money, but if I'm going to be there, I might as well work on this limiting attitude and make more, no?
Especially with VIP rooms...I've had a few, but they've all either been with a) the occasional guy who's infatuated with me, or b) doing a room with another girl, and it's usually HER skills that seal the deal. I look at some girls in the club who are pulling in four or five rooms PER NIGHT, and I think "what the hell is she doing to get all that on a regular basis?"
Plus, my club decides who gets to dance on the main stage based on their earnings, mostly. It sucks to be relegated to the back and side stages on Friday and Saturday nights while the girls who really have it going are getting hooked up on the main stage all night.
Anyone else here been there and done that? how do you change your mindset? A lot of the time this mindset leads to me selling myself short--I see myself working harder during dances and putting out more (within the boundaries of what the club allows) than a lot of the other girls...while they're doing less and getting more $$ for it!
I think some of it has to do with the fact that I'm still fairly new and don't have all the tricks/skills to upsell, to sell VIP rooms, to get more tips from dances, etc. But I suspect that a lot of it is my self-image; the tapes that play in my head at work most nights: "i'm chunky, my hair is hideous, I look awkward, i'm nothing special, why would anyone spend $150 for a room with me?"
Thoughts, anyone? I guess in addition to asking what you do to sell VIP rooms, I'm also asking for advice on how to go from a mindset of "i'm nothing special" to "i'm worth all the $$ i can handle and then some" :p


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