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    So, I'm taking some online classes, and for Personality Psychology, the first assignment is to write a quick bio, with our goals, interests, hobbies, etc. Everyone has written about their career goals, families, hobbies, blah, blah, etc, and their current jobs. I'm torn about whether or not to talk about stripping. I mean, everyone in my life knows about it from my friends and parents, to my co-workers and bosses when I was a social worker (not the clients though), and I'm not used to lying about it. I've been torn on whether or not I'm going to be 'out' as a stripper in grad school - seven years + is a long time to hide it, but academia is, well, academia. I've been tempted to use this class as a testing ground, but also terrified that it might affect my grade, which I need to have be top-notch. I can't meet the professor in person to check her out either. I'm already a little freaked out by the fact that everyone else seems very mainstream, with husbands, fiancees, kids, and plans to be kindergarten teachers or something like that. All fine and dandy for them of course, but I'm a promiscuous (which I feel no need to disclose) lesbian, interested in doing couples counseling with alternative communities (kink, poly, and queer) with emphasis on sex therapy, and I am talking about my career goals. Not to say that all these married future kindergarten teachers couldn't be twisted perverts just as much as the rest of us, but I'm, well, hesitant. Any suggestions on disclosure? Anyone had any experience with being an out stripper in academia?

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    I would keep t myself and I have. You are right once you're out, you're out! People make funny excuses to justify treating others unfairly. You just can't trust how someones going to react. You may become someones personal vendetta if lets say for example their boyfriend goes to strip clubs and they disapprove. That person may make it their mission to tell anyone and everyone who will listen. And I'm not saying we should be embarrassed for what we do, thats just society. Feel superior that you know something they don't and leave it at that. Just my two cents.

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    Rule of thumb: Keep it to yourself.

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    I would keep it to myself.

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    Don't disclose. It certainly won't benefit you, and it might cost you.

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    I would come out, and make it exceptionally good. Everyone else sounds so bloody boring, that must get so monotonous for people to read through.
    You be the judge though, since I have no idea how bigoted your professers are or how you personally deal with other peoples crap if need be. I would hope the professers wouldn't be judging you on their own moral grounds anyway... Good luck whatever you decide!

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    agrreed^^^^^ if its college....they more than likely wont approve, plus, u havent even met ur teacher

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    I think it kind of depends what kind of class and school it is. Did you say it was online? If it's online, and these people are never going to meet you or interact with you in real life anyway, then you might as well go ahead and tell. But, if it turns out that your professor is very conservative it could turn into a problem. Then again, if you also include that you are a lesbian, he or she would probably be careful to not discriminate against you.

    It's a toss up. In my opinion, I would come up with some elaborate lie like I've been caring for my elderly mother for 5 years.

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    I ended up pansying out. I didn't say anything about what my current job is. However, as a compromise with myself, I listed sex worker rights as one of my interests. Mind you, that was partially because without it, I had embarrassingly few interests. Where's that glamorous life strippers are supposed to lead? Being in this business has cut down my social life to no end. I have improved my knitting though.

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    Lol!!!I love my knitting!! I'm happy to see someone else here does too!

    I was going to suggest keeping it to yourself. You can always decide in the future to come out with it if you want. Don't do it unless you're sure. And of course, when/if you do come 'out' with it, they'll understand why you kept it secret...

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