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    I've recently moved to L.A. and though I love it here; the sun, the dry air, the scenery, etc. As I acclimate though, there are two things that continue to mystify me: earthquakes and....the people.
    When I write this, in no way am I trying to offend any Angelinos, and I am asking this question because I REALLY don't "get it." Now I come from the east coast (Boston), where us New Englanders are described as "gruff," "rude," and/or "impatient." I guess if you are comparing us to southerners like maybe Texans, perhaps that is true because southerners exude sooooo much lovely, warm, hospitality. However, compared to Los Angelinos, New Englanders are a picnic!
    I seriously don't get the people in L.A. To me, so many of them seem....oblivious? I cannot count how many times I've let someone go in front of me in a line at the store or held a door for someone, etc, and NEVER received a "thank you," much less an acknowledgement! People just keep on talking on their cell phones and ignore you. It's so strange to me! It's like this air of : "Yup! It's all about ME" here. Like (metaphorically and literally), people EXPECT to have doors held open for them without so much as a thankyou in return to the insignificant little peon -me.
    I've been pushed in front of and cut in lines by people on their cell phone, more than I can count without a simple, "excuse me," or "oh, I'm sorry." Driving is a joke as well. Compared to Boston, the street signs are great here, but people are even oblivious on the road; turn signals are missing, people stopping in the middle of the road with no direction, and when you let someone go before you, do ya think they give you a wave of "thanks for letting me go?" HA! One of many instances, the other day while I was shopping , this woman was standing in the middle of the aisle, blocking me from passing. I politely excuse myself: twice. She slowly looks up slowly and stupidly with no recognition of the fact that she's blocking the aisle. She tucks her cell into her purse and takes her sweet ass time moving out of my way. No "oh pardon me!" or "I apologize, excuse me!" She just rolled on by, obliviously wtf? I don't get the lack of manners here!! I'm not looking for lollipops and balloons but a simple "thanks" is always nice. Some of these people have their heads right up their asses, and sometimes I'd like to stuff their Chanel glasses coach bags, and cell phones up there as well. LoL
    Seriously, anyone whose lived here for awhile, what is this? Why are the people like this? What is it called? I would like to know so I can, I don't know, fit in better? Do SOME (I am trying soooo hard not to offend and overgeneralize here) people in L.A. come off as super-oblivious and rude?

    Granted, these may be construed as overgenerlizations, and if anyone has some about new englanders, throw them back at me. I just am having a hard time vibing with the "IT'S ALL ABOUT ME ME ME" air here, without the manners. I'm almost craving to be driving in Boston and have someone cut me off and give me the finger as I curse out my window at them. At least they notice you there.

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    Hahaha, I think I got thanked ONCE in the entire seventeen years I lived in Los Angeles. That's when I bought a bum a happy meal.


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    oh man, I grew up and live in the South...that kind of stuff makes me nuts when I see it happen, which is rare down here but getting worse and worse as more and more people move to FLA...

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    Lilith, that is nuts! A bum thanked you, and all these pompous turds with money lack are the ones lacking in manners.
    Good to hear it doesn't only happen to me. Still, I wonder, what causes people to be like this -is it the environment? Just an "I'm-too-good-to-'thank YOU'" kinda thing? Like so many people want to be treated like movie stars here so they expect people to extend thankless favors to them? Drives me f*cking crazy.. So snotty.

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    Don't believe the California Brochure. That place SUCKS. I was plenty glad to move out of there. (I lived in the San Francisco/Bay Area.) When my job was outsourced to India, I moved back to Texas - and I had a lot of chooices, as I have lived all over the US (including Philadelphia on the east coast.)

    Get this, the worst experience. I am camping out in the Santa Cruz area and I go into town to buy a drum from a local store down there. One dude there, who had been around the country, he was pretty cool - small talk led to learning I was from Texas. This other dude, who I found out ran the store, he finds out I am from Texas and he makes some smart ass fucking joke about Texans to impress the two hippy chicks he is talking with. I'm like - WTF? A George Bush fan isn't exactly going to be in your drum store and do you make it a habit to insult your customers? Thats the last fucking drum I will buy from there I can tell you that.

    I can say, that was one of the moments that made me really question so called peace loving liberals (aka the California Hippy) being something more than angry and self-aggrandizing.

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    Wow im surprised Yek hasnt commented on this yet lol. She HATES LA! Sorry your having such a shit time People are assholes... I find Toronto to be very much like that as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaiyla
    Lilith, that is nuts! A bum thanked you, and all these pompous turds with money lack are the ones lacking in manners.
    Good to hear it doesn't only happen to me. Still, I wonder, what causes people to be like this -is it the environment? Just an "I'm-too-good-to-'thank YOU'" kinda thing? Like so many people want to be treated like movie stars here so they expect people to extend thankless favors to them? Drives me f*cking crazy.. So snotty.
    I think it has to do with nobody teaching their children diddly anymore. I went to Arkansas once and those kids were fucking POLITE AS HELL. But since California is the heaven of OMGISUEDADDYCAUSEHESPANKSME, kids run wild and free while parents hide in terror of their four year old suing them because the kid was smacked for shoving other kid's down a flight of stairs.

    I fucking HATE children and when I was in Arkansas a nine-year old little girl came up to me while I was making something and said, "Excuse me, may I please sit down with you and help? I would like to learn and I would appreciate it, thank you."

    Holy shiiite I was blown away. Of COURSE that kid can do whatever it goddamn pleases since it was so polite!!

    Maybe if I hadn't grown up in California I wouldn't hate the little crotchnuggets so much.

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    Where is Yek on this one. I wanna read the funny stuff she'll most likely post. Thats why I like to visit LA. I could never live there. I mean living in SD isnt so grand with me never being able to buy a house unless I sold my left kidney and my 1st born.

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    Funny you say that. One of my Cali transplant clients worked for CPS. She was actually allowed to carry a GUN for her job! She was ordered that if she were to hear an adult threaten a child with a spanking, even off-duty, she was to arrest them!!

    I've felt this same way about Californians since I got screamed at and threatened by a lady in Disneyworld when I was a kid. I don't even remember why, but it was more traumatic than the Jaws ride, hehe!

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    I despise LA, but I'm pretty OK with what I've experienced of the rest fo California.

    But ya, LA= Hell.

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    Jeez, guys, sometimes I go to work.

    Anyway, yeah, you said it all. I wish I had something witty to contribute but I don't. I was raised Southern and I am still disgusted with the people out here after living in Hollywood for two years. Oddly my boyfriend is a native Angelino and he has manners, but he certainly is the exception to the rule. The only time people would notice you is if you get in their way or DON'T hold the door for them. Welcome to the Land of the Self-Absorbed.

    Been to Beverly Hills yet? Have fun driving.

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    I've lived in the LA area for my whole life and yeah, everyone's lack of manners just fucking sucks. I hate it how everyone seems to only care about themselves and what's convenient to them regardless of its effect on evryone else. And I cant stand how everyone's always on a damn cell phone. And if people cant handle driving and using a turn signal at the same time then they are just not fit to drive. I never knew that it was different everywhere else in the country. That makes me want to leave. Most people like California for the weather and I personally can't stand it so theres not much of a reason to stay besides my family.

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    Amen, pinkkitten. I hate the weather here too because there *is* no weather! I miss seasons. I love to see the leaves change in the autumn, snow and fireplaces in the winter, flowers in the spring, sunshine in the summer... argh. In L.A. the only seasons are fire season and mudslide season.

    I always liked to travel, but ever since I move here, I have to take at least three trips a year. I get depressed if I have to stay here more than a few months. The weather is awful, I'm dying (literally) from the smog, the people are assholes, the traffic induces murderous rage... why, oh why, does anyone EVER want to live here?!

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    IMO, LA is the giant stinky turd the rest of the country shat out but can't flush because it clogs the toilet. Maybe someday that earthquake theory will come true and the place will just fall off the continent and quit clogging the American toilet.

    I have never had a good experience there.

    It's the worst kind of liberal. They're so liberal they've gone backwards and are more oppressive than the friggin hard right wing nuts. Nothing worse than a liberal fruitcake.

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    dude, lighten up on the "l.a. is the capitol of hell" talk.

    maybe i'm crazy, but i lived in l.a. for 20 years and i adore it.

    and not because i don't know any better; i lived in northern california for 4 years and now upstate ny for almost 1. i've driven across the country and up and down both coasts, so i have some concept of what else is out there.

    i'm sorry, but the people here in ny have been much less friendly on average than the people in l.a. most of the time, if i make brief eye contact with someone i pass by on the street and smile, they look at me as though i've shouted an obscenity at them.

    and the thing that really gets me is how so many people here feel so free to say, "oh, you're from l.a. hah. what a piece of shit place That is!" one guy gave me this whole speech about 40% of the l.a. population is addicted to crank. that you can't go a week without having your house broken into no matter what part of town you live in. that any kid raised there is destined to be a drugee and a social failure. he said he'd lived there for 11 years, so he knew. i asked what part of l.a. he lived in. "plamdale." that is barely in the County of l.a., let alone the actual city.

    honestly, i don't like the town i'm in now, but i would never tell someone here that their home is a shit hole. yeah, maybe it's not for me, which is why i'm leaving, but, if you're happy here, then good for you. but, since i'm an l.a. native, that must mean i'm the rude one, right?

    maybe i just got lucky for 20 years and happened to run into the few nice people who apparently live there. or, no, wait. they weren't genuinely nice. they were being fake and as a superficial l.a. ditz, i must have been too stupid to know the difference.

    and yeah, i've come across some rude people too. but it never seemed even close to the majority. ever...

    anyway, if you hate it so much, why stay?
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    Just a quickie,

    I could do with please, thank you, thanks, excuse me, but I dont' need that sir/mamm BS, and please no more polo shirts.
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    LOL, all I have to do is watch how people drive around here, especially in the expensive cars. There are a couple places in Tucson that act like they're too good to even acknowledge your presence.

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    Thank you for your rant.

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    Thank you for the quick laugh d

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    I had to show my husband this thread. He lived in LA for 8 years, and worked at one of the 'Big 3' Hollywood agencies (how LA of me to mention this) but anyway..he hates LA so much, for this reason. Everyone is SO self absorbed. No one indicates for turns, they throw open their car doors in the middle of traffic, yakkin' on their cell phones instead of watching the road or instead of talking to you when they're 'talking' to you. Every one is so damn 'entitled'. Sad.
    I always miss the place until i get there. Give me a week and i can't wait to leave.

    I like San Francisco though. I haven't found it like that there.
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    I really don't think that rudeness is something that permeates itself in a particular region of the country. I do tend to think though that you see it more in larger cities because people who are rude can tend to get lost in the shuffle, and the hustle bustle of urban areas tends to bring out the rude side in all of us. When you live in a smaller community, you don't have that kind of luxury, at least not without enduring some sort of consequence for it.

    Of course, surprises abound me everywhere. When I flew out to Vegas for the first time, I was really fearful that I was going to run into this rudeness considering that Vegas is California's playground, and while I certainly did find some, I was rather surprised by how many friendly people I saw. But then again, a lot of people I saw in Vegas are often from somewhere else too, often from a place not unlike the one I came from.

    And everthing is relative of course. Growing up in a small Nebraska town, I can't count the number of people I knew who hated to go to Omaha because of how "rude" people were there. I'm sure people in rural California feel the same way about the "big cities" there, even when those cities aren't so big (Fresno for example).

    In the end, its all about where your comfort level is at in how personal or impersonal you want your surroundings to be. People flock to larger cities because they find small town life too intrusive and nosy. Others flock to small towns because big city life is too detached and stressful.

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    I'm a native Angeleno and need to 'xplain a few things.

    Driving: There are two places in this country with good drivers: L.A. and New York. Yes, the pros drive like they are self absorbed. Don't look for anyone to notice you want to switch lanes until you start to move - at which time they'll leave you the 2" clearance needed at 90 miles an hour.

    Get used to it, or leave.

    Acknowleging people: The native Angelenos are used to throngs of people moving there from other parts of the country/world who feel they are the most special f**king person in the world who is going to be the next great star/writer/producer/director/artist. And they're all reall a**holes.

    So yes, we ignore you unless we know you. We drive 90 miles roundtrip a day to and from work, will meet dozens of new people every day who we'll never see again in our lifetime. Life in LA is all about hustling and getting what you want done. Politeness in LA does not require acknowlegement, a thank you, or a smile - just getting out of your way and keeping everything moving/flowing is our form of politeness.

    Now, for those who wonder about the difference between Northern Californians and Southern Californians, and the rift between them.

    Northern Californians are still peeved that So. Cal. gets all it's water from water rights they secured from the base of the Sierra's located in Norther California long ago. During droughts, Northern Californian's are subjected to water rationing. I can't remember Southern California ever getting any restrictions. If you are in Northern California, you'll hear about hatred of the Southern Californian's, particularly Angelenos. What pisses them off even more is that the Angelenos are generally oblivious of this hatred and if they do know about it, they just ignore it.

    Northern Californian's just take themselves and their environmentalism/activism too seriously. They consider Southern Californians to be shallow.

    But hey, I'm a shallow native Angeleno... and proud of it.
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    And everthing is relative of course. Growing up in a small Nebraska town, I can't count the number of people I knew who hated to go to Omaha because of how "rude" people were there. I'm sure people in rural California feel the same way about the "big cities" there, even when those cities aren't so big (Fresno for example).

    In the end, its all about where your comfort level is at in how personal or impersonal you want your surroundings to be. People flock to larger cities because they find small town life too intrusive and nosy. Others flock to small towns because big city life is too detached and stressful.

    Personally, I need a happy medium.
    Yep, I get real uncomfortable around people from smaller cities and towns who feel the need to ask a whole lot of very personal questions. Hey, yes you seem like a nice person, but we just met. So why do you feel the need to ask me how much money I make or if I've ever tried pot. And don't start in with your rant about the gays/druggies/unamericans/etc. Hey, we're all here on this planet for a short time, so don't waste mine with your prejudices and preaching.


    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    I've felt this same way about Californians since I got screamed at and threatened by a lady in Disneyworld when I was a kid. I don't even remember why, but it was more traumatic than the Jaws ride, hehe!
    Um, Disneyworld is in Florida

    And the Jaws ride is at Universal Studios.
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    The price of living is ridiculous in L.A. and the people are some of the most self absorbed and oblivious. That being said, I kind of like the hustle and bustle of big cities. People tend to mind their own business, which I appreciate, as opposed to small town gossip.


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    PS Fresno sucks too. I grew up in the middle of NorCal & it's a mash of aggies, druggies & tacky suburbanites. I do love San Fran but the cost of living is astronomical. & LA sucks. azcustomer reminded me of their stealing water from NorCal......screw you, LA!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paisley
    People tend to mind their own business, which I appreciate, as opposed to small town gossip.

    Yeah, that's pretty cool in my book.

    I hate LA everytime I have to be there. It's a big ugly city. It's like NYC but far less cool.

    And about the rudeness, you wouldn't believe how fucking hard it is for people to let a pretty young girl borrow their damn cordless phone for an emergency after 8 pm.

    San Diego sucks. It's a neo-conservative, overcrowded, overpriced sonuvabitch and I want to move. SF seems tolerable, but preferably I'd like to move out to VA or GA or SC or something of that persuasion.

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