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    BrunetteGoddess
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    Sad Im Desperate!

    Wasnt sure if this would be better suited in BB or LO....

    Ok, I just got home from school. I had to drop all 4 classes I was taking, and I'm sooo bummed. I really liked them, but I missed most of them since I've started. I'm so behind and today I went in and felt like death. So I'm going to get Incompletes so I can at least redo them.

    This is bumming me out majorly. School was all I had, I can't work, and my body won't let me do anything. I have sinus problems, stress, IBS spiraling out of control, chronic pain problems, migraines, and sinus headaches. No health insurance yet. I know I need a septoplasty, but we don't have the money.

    I really don't want to go dance again; I don't even have the energy to get out of bed most days so fat chance I could even make any money dancing.

    Add to all this I'm depressed over how much my health is affecting my life; I can never know how I'll feel, can never makes plansand stick to them, and people get mad at me a lot for it.

    I also found that I'm lactose intolerant, so no more dairy for me (All my favorite foods have dairy, so I feel like I cant eat anything so I walk around pissed off and hungry.Makes for a pleasant CorsicaFire...)

    I'm just so not ...me anymore. Out of shape, tired all the time (even though I sleep a lot), crabby,depressed, sick, unreliable me now and I hate it.

    So I already take a heavy duty multivitamin, fish oil capsules, garlic pills, echinacea, and vitamin B12. I take way too much sudafed and headache meds because I just cant function; I have built up an immunity to most meds I can take and I have to take more, thus making me dopey a lot of the time.

    So this semester is going to be my regrouping semester so I can go back next year. The only thing I have going on now is getting our disaster area of a house clean. Doesn't help that it's huge and overwhelming ,and I already have no energy.

    Most of my clothes dont fit me (even my bigger clothes) because I've gained weight. It was nicewhen I gained gained 30 pounds and it looked great. But i dont want anymore gained, but it just keeps adding onto my weight because I cant get myself to be active because I always feel sick and I feel flabby.

    So basically I need support, a gameplan (no doctors for now, no dinero.) for self help... Just basically ANY help from any area thats going wrong and I need help on. I need me back!

    I'm begging you all. Anything you can think of to help.

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    I totally want to respond to this. I feel I am in the same boat. I don't have time to get into it now, but maybe I'll PM you later!

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    Wow, I'm so sorry. I'm no Doctor, but this sounds like an allergic reaction to something that you are either eating, drinking, or inhaling in your house, perhaps some unknown toxin. Many people have an intolerance to synthetic substances, or it could be something natural. When did these symptoms start?

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    I am with you on that, smoothcat. I was thinking, I just found out that I am gluten/wheat intolerant. CorsicaFire, maybe you should look into that. I am lactose intolerant, too. But you know, you can get those lactaid pills and still have the dairy you love!!! You don't have to give up everything.

    But I have been there where I am so tired that I cannot get out of bed. I remember when I was in school, I missed alot of classes because I was so exhausted, I just wanted to sleep. And this was night school!!!

    Don't worry about dropping your classes. You can always take them again when you are ready. Your health and well being is more important. Sounds like 4 classes was an overload for you. Don't feel bad. It took me 3 years to finish a one year cosmetology license.

    I am going to sound like a broken record, but being a massage therapist, I have to tell you that massage will help you get out of the funk you are in. Since you are broke, maybe your boyfriend can do it or you can go to a school where interns do it half price.

    When you clean your house, only tackle one area a day or so. This makes it not so overwhelming. My mother taught me this trick. And it actually gives me a sense of accomplishment to feel like I at least cleaned out one closet today.

    See if you can get a couple of big shirts, maybe some cheap ones from Wal-mart. I did this since I gained 15 lbs. and I feel better because my clothes aren't so tight and it doesn't give me the same depressing reminder everyday that I am fat and need to lose weight. You still need to work on losing that weight, though. Slowly and healthy.

    I think school obviously got the best of you. I have learned in life never to let any job or school take such a stressful and emotional toll on me as to affect my health. It is not worth it. When I think how I let employers work me to the bone for chump change, it angers me. And I think, "Never again". You should take things on your own time, your own schedule. You can't deal with the world if you are not ready for it yet.

    Also, I am thinking of turning my webcam on as a way to make money while I lose the weight to get back in a club. Maybe you could consider that. There are always alternatives to dancing while you try to re- group and re- focus.

    What's important now is you. Not dancing, not school, not your house or your weight. Remember that there are divine forces in this world and there is a plan for you. Take a deep breathe, reach deep down inside of you and realize that you will get through this. You have had plenty of experience getting you through life so far, why should this be any different?

    Definitely PM me if you would like to chat.

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    Also see thread-

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=73452

    I posted a couple of links you may want to check.

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    Important advice on lactose tablets- Wal-Mart's brand (Equate) works the best for your money, Rite-Aid's is not good. (I was lactose intolerant for 6 months from food poisoning.)

    Can't you apply for medical aid? Depending on your state & county, some places have sliding scale clinics & doctors where you can get the help you need for a small payment. There's no guarantees but it's worth a try.

    If you have headaches & sinus problems, you should invest in an air cleaner- especially if you have pets in the house too.

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    We try to replace out air filters frequently, but with 4 animals it's horrendous. I started getting sick on a daily basis like this around February. Just fucking sucks so bad...
    I have been drinking Lactaid milk, I'll try the pills. The milk doesn't taste the same though.

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    For a while I'd take 2 lactaid ultra's before any dairy..somehow now I don't need them anymore. But they did work.

    Try and cheer up. I went through a mood like this when I found out certain things about my health..and then everything goes in a cycle making you feel worse and worse.

    Stress will make IBS ten times worse also..I used to cry from stomach pain everyday..now I have it under control.. what foods/drinks do you consume? This is a HUGE part.. IBS is not something that just happens all it's own. Take a gooood look at what you are eating and drinking, and also the medicines and vitamins you are taking.

    I don't know if the same applies to garlic pills..but anytime there is garlic in my food.. I get the worst stomachache and gas, I cant handle it at all.. I can't imagine taking fish oil capsules..the thought grosses me out... And also I dont know if you have IBS w/ constipation or w/ diarrhea..but certain types of calcium, and also iron (both of which are in your multivitamin) can be very constipating..

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    Man, that sounds like my life a few years back. I am so sorry you're going through this, hon.

    *Hugs*

    As for air filters, do you have HEPA filters?

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    I have IBS with alternating stool consistencies

    But I did take the Lactaid pills and eat a big cheesy chimichanga- and felt fine!

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    How much Sudafed are you taking? Is it the kind with pseudoephedrine? If so, that could be making your body freak out. I found this out accidentally once as a teenager. Took two allergy pills when I should have had one, and I felt sweaty, clammy, and spiked a decent fever for a few hours. Perhaps you're sensative to it....or maybe this is a shot in the dark.
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    Best wishes.. I have IBS w/ the um.. constipation.. I was in such pain for so long. Finally, when things started to normalize again.. I would get SUPER excited if I went to the bathroom, number two...I would even announce it to my family and do a little dance. Hahaha.. They say fiber is the cure for both. Fiber (in the form of metamucil, and some other brand of fiber pills) made me sooooooo much worse!!!!!!!!!!! I will never take metamucil again in my life. It is made with psyllium husk..which is actually one of the hardest fibers to digest (not sure if they are actually ever digested) but it is the most difficult on the system... But try to get more natural fibers in your body like fruits, some veggies (be careful w/ which ones) and even whole grain breads etc... Also I find, if I eat something fried, heavy or greasy...it makes my stomach hurt too.

    You should DEF check out www.helpforibs.com .. there is so much on there that will help you figure out what's going on with your body and what messes you up and what doesnt.
    It gets better I promise!!!!

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    If you want fiber that helps, go for Citrucel btw Viviana. Metamucil gives you gas, Citrucel does not.

    Hey, I just had a big glass of NORMAL milk! Wheeee!

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    Thanks, but I am problem free 95% of the time now! And usually, if I have a problem with *that* it's because I didn't drink enough water!

    Glad you are feeling better!

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    Getting there..slowly...

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    Hey babe, Ive felt like this too, especially since I started running the girls at work. That and uni AND the lecturing I do is so much.
    Ive stacked on weight, like nearly10kg, in the 7 weeks of term, since Im only dancing 2-3 days a week, and the rest of the time Im sitting writing papers,or doing study.

    Ill be interested in seeing how YOU get out of your funk, maybe I can steal a few hint!

    Luv =C=

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