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    Hello all,

    I realize that what I'm about to ask is probably very taboo, but here goes anyway. I was visiting a club the other night with my girlfriend (I'm a guy,) and we seemed to be getting a lot of attention from many of the girls. Some of the girls weren't even asking to give us dances, they were just sitting and chatting. I always assumed that a dancer was working, therefore it would seem pointless to just sit and chat (for 10-15 minutes at a time) without some form of compensation.

    Anyway, my question is this. Do any of you ever go out and party with clients as friends? Did you meet clients at the club that are now friends? I don't know what to make of this odd amount of attention, and if I'm just being lured into more visits or if there is a real chance to get to know these women as friends. The club was pretty busy and I almost felt guilty that some of these girls were being so friendly and yet they weren't expecting anything in return while they seemed almost to ignore other clients. I don't think I missed any signals and they certainly didn't ask for anything.

    So am I reading too much here?

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    personally I never ever girl or boy see a client outside of the club... its work.. and only work I'm not there to become friends with the guys there.. sometime if i don't feel like working I'll spend more time at a table just having fun and talking with who ever and that ends there for me
    but I'm only talking for myself

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    When I sit and talk with a customer, I am trying to sell a dance. Most people want a little conversation first, so I chat before I ask. That's all it is though. Sometimes I genuinely like the person but I NEVER take anything outside the club and I don't appreciate being asked.

    If she wants to meet outside the club, she'll make the offer. It probably won't happen and you should accept that, but if it does happen, it'll go best if she's the one who brings it up.

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    Yeah, I hate it when I'm talking to a customer and when I'm having a nice time they then ruin it when they ask me for my phone # and want to meet up outside the club. We dancers get hit on and asked that same question a thousand times per night. If you want a dancer to like you and think you're cool, do not ask her for her # or ask her out, let her initiate that because if she was truely interested,she'd make the first move on that. Nothing turns a dancer off more than asking her out and thinking it's going to go further when she's either hustling you or really having a good time talking to you and taking a break to talk to you.

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    This Senerio sounds odd to me. Were you drinking expensive champainge? Were you tipping gernerously on stage? Did you tip a bouncer to send girls over to your table?

    Maybe the club looked busy to you, but I've been in a packed house of a bunch of people that were simply there to party, not to see the dancers. If you and your girlfrined were unfamiliar in this club, you might have looked like the only potential sale in the place.

    None of the girls asked you if you wanted a dance? You may have been in a club that does not allow the girls to directly ask the customers for dances.

    Do you or your girlfriend look like someone famous (or are you famous?). I could go on guessing forever, but I'd say take it for what it was, enjoy the memory of your pleasent evening, and return to the club because you did have such a good time while there.

    I have never met up with folks that I've met (strictly) at the strip club. I have run into customers in other locations and enjoyed a drink and a short conversation with them, but mostly those days are waaaaayyyyy behind me. That was back when the clubs were mostly just stage dancing, so it was more like I was in a band, and not a sex worker per se.


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    Thank you ladies for your candor.

    To answer your questions, it was busy enough that all the chairs were occupied. And yes, there were two dancers that were obviously hanging out for dances (which we did buy,) but a couple seemed just content with coming back to us during their breaks. We don't resemble famous people, but my girflfriend is pretty hot, if I do say so myself. I'm just your average guy, no Brad Pitt here. Perhaps we just had nice faces?? heh

    Thanks for the suggestions, and I think we'll just leave it where it stands and go back again and see what happens. Otherwise it was just a great night out for the both of us.

    Thanks ladies.

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    Dont feel guilty just soak up the entertainment. Just leave it as a great night out. If you feel that guilty you can tip them for their time with you. Go to have fun and we'll go there to work.
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    Sometimes I'll hng out for free for a while, to look busy and if the conversation is decent. And even if there's a lot of guys its still possible that they are not spending money. But even if I am having an amazing converstion with a cutomer and I do genuinely like the person, there is still no chance I'll be leaving with them or meeting up with them later on the outside.

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    Some dancers like to find what I call a "home base"...a table to hang out for a few minutes if custie traffic softens or they just need to take a break and recharge their batteries.

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    I've never gone out and partied with customers, but I'd sometimes pick a home base as FBR described above. The home base table was a good place to sit for a few minutes when business was slow. If you and your girlfriend were pleasant, and especially if you were buying drinks that may have been you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nuts
    I don't know what to make of this odd amount of attention, and if I'm just being lured into more visits or if there is a real chance to get to know these women as friends.
    The "odd amount of attention" is the core appeal of the SC atmosphere. It is an illusion, but a strikingly beautiful one.

    You need to make a mental adjustment when you walk into the club to allow for this, particularly if you are new to SCs, or you are going to be in for a heap of mental turmoil.

    In virtually all cases, the club is a safe haven for the dancers to earn money from this little erotic flirtation, and for you to make sure they are well compensated for it. Please make sure they are.

    In the very few cases where dancers really want your friendship or anything else beyond that, they will make it so abundantly clear to you that there will be not even the slightest shadow of a doubt. It happens, but when it does, there are no questions to be asked.

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    Thanks to everyone for helping me to realize that this was nothing out of the ordinary. I'll be certain to have my head in the right place next time.

    I will say this much, my opinion of exotic dancers has changed drastically with this recent visit. I guess that goes to show you the difference between a good and a bad club. We will definitely be going back.

    Thanks again.

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    The strip isn't like the pet store. You can't take the strippers home. It's more like the zoo where you go to admire but leave with only the memories until you next return

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    The strip isn't like the pet store. You can't take the strippers home. It's more like the zoo where you go to admire but leave with only the memories until you next return
    LOL


    How much is that stripppper in the window?

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