Ok the latest thread titled "sex" in the lounge here. I was wondering how do you go about std testing and that whole talk when you start to date someone new?
Yes, I do before we have sex of any kind.
Yes, but after we start having sex.
No, I just believe them.
No, I dont even ask even after we've had sex.





Ok the latest thread titled "sex" in the lounge here. I was wondering how do you go about std testing and that whole talk when you start to date someone new?
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"Man, condoms sure are a pain in the ass."
"Yeah, they suck."
"Wouldn't it be nice if we didn't have to deal with them?"
"Oh man, yeah!"
"Why don't we both get tested so we don't have to mess with them anymore?"
This is pretty much how I've handled it, the... um... two times it's been an issue.





Get tested AND use condoms... until the relationship is stable enough. I even wait three months (for sex) before the testing.
I had HPV that becamse cancerous once. I am NOT fucking doing that again.
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Ha ha... actually I just remembered how I made my ex-husband get tested. I had only had sex with one guy before him, and that guy was definitely a virgin, so I knew I was okay. I'd been sleeping with #2, my eventual ex, for a few weeks when he showed me his scrapbook and there was something in there about his visit to a Nevada brothel. I was 17 and fairly uneducated about these things; I heard "prostitute" and screamed, "WHAT HAVE YOU INFECTED ME WITH?!" We were religious about condom usage but I didn't care. I made him get the full workup, and they shoved a Q-Tip inside his urethra to swab in his dick. He was clean, and I was on the pill and extremely diligent with it, so we went off condoms after that.
I'd forgotten that story. It's a funny one. Thanks for bringing back the memory.
With my current guy, #3, it was a conversation something like I described earlier.




I don't talk about it and get myself checked when I have a physical. I've usually gone after innocent guys that had no xperience past second base before me. And also, I refuse to have sex without a condom. Or I just don't have sex at all.
Protection isn't just in the wrapper, pill, or test. These are after thoughts. "Just in case" testing. Protection in the matter of health should be passive in the mind of the sexual individual. The only person you have to hold responsible to this is yourself. Therefor, if I am sexual with someone, I have a responsibility to myself to develope an air of safety about this person that I can accept the consequences of. Her saying "I'm clean" or showing me "testing papers" isn't enough for some, yet saying "I'm clean" with no proof works for others. The denominator, is that I don't have sex without understanding that I'm responsible for my actions. The honesty, openness, and quality of the individual will speak more than any test whether she be infected with something or not.
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Of course Joe and I have been together for 7 years.... so...... um.... yeah, we don't do testing anymore....



My ex had to be AIDS tested annually for his job (he is a firefighter) and my current partner is tested for life insurance purposes. I have been getting tested every 6 months since I was 16. Just remember testing isn't the end all to be all. Some diseases don't show up for years, and others, like HPV, can not be tested on males.
"That's why I never kiss 'em on the mouth!" ~Jayne
I just use condoms. There always comes a point where the guy doesn't want to use them anymore. That's when the testing happens. But um... lol, I haven't had to think about that for a really really long time.
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