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    Hello ladies,

    I've been working in a club in NY for about 3 weeks now. I'm ready to give up working there. It isn't that busy, I feel like there are too many girls booked for the night compared to the number of guys that come in. I could probably stick around for longer....get a different dresss, try my hair a little differently, etc...but I'm getting very discouraged. There have been a few times when I walked home with just about zero after tip-outs and house fee. There have been some days when earned only 100 to 200. I'm pretty sure there are busier clubs out there.
    I just am not sure how to tell the manager that I quit. At my club, they fine you 100 dollars for each day that you miss. I already missed 2 days, haven't told the club yet that I quit. Should I just call? I really don't want to show up to tell them, because then the manager will make me feel guilty etceter. I'm thinking of coming up with a story, such as "stripping isn't working for me...I can't do it anymore" instead of saying "I don't like working at this club."I want to avoid burning any bridges, you know what I mean? I'm booked for the rest of this week and into next week. They can't fine me and somehow charge me for the days I haven't come to despite the fact i'll tell them I quit tommorrow? I'm worried that they'll send a bill to my address or something like that. Could that happen?
    Any ideas on what you'd consider the "best" way to let a club know you quit? I'm just worried about getting insulted over the phone or whatever...i've been so bummed out by the low earnings i've had on some days that i'm feeling hypersensitive (and the funny thing is, the first 3 days of working there, I did better than I did after that...but it never went over 400 dollars, which sorta sucks considering it's NY). Thanks so much!

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    can't you just never show up again? That's what most girls do that unless they like the drama of officially quitting.

    They won't send you a bill! You're an independent contractor. They shouldn't be charging you anyway. Screw it and call them to laugh at them if they send you a bill..

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    Thanks Emily for your reply. I could never show up again, but i'm worried that if I start working at one of their sister club's (the one that has much higher earning potential), they'll find out and try to squeeze out the money for the 2 days I already didn't show up at. So I guess to avoid that icky situation, I just shouldn't audition at one of their sister clubs, and instead find some other non-related club to work at.
    Plus, I'm worried that if I don't call and tell...I don't want them to not hire a girl just because they feel like they have plenty of dancers because i'm also on the roster...but if I officially told them I quit over the phone, they'll feel like they have more space for hiring...Plus, if I see a manager or housemom on the street, it'd avoid a weird confrontation.... Eh, I guess I'll just call on the phone, and not ask for the manager, but the cashier, or even the housemom, and tell them to please tell the manager that I quit, tell some bullshit story like 'this job isn't for me...strippign isn't for me. i've tried it and i'd rather get a regular job." And that'd be best...but just wanted to hear what others though I should say...

    Oh, and by the way, I finally moved out of my mom's house (I posted a few months ago about hating living there...and how I was thinking about traveling on weekends to the city to earn some money...how to keep it secret, etc). Thanks everyone for their helpful comments on moving out. I'm sooo relieved I just got my act together and moved out. But then there are the responsibillities of paying for my classes and rent (my mom wouldn't co-sign a private loan, and since i'm taking classes as a non-degree student, I figured it might be hard to get a loan...but I think I was just too lazy to fill it all out! so now with quitting, i'm on edge because I have bills and feel a bit insecure...well...i'm working out, exercising...get my butt into another club...the club i've been working at definitely is a "2nd tier" club...dirty greasy mirrors..not fancy at all, small...doesn't attract many big spenders I guess..and stage tipping rarely happens just because of the way the stage is designed.
    And thanks SW for being such a great resource overall. It has definitel been a big plus to my life, personally and dancer-wise.

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    That's gotta be the Flashdancers chain...if it is, they're not going to insult you over the phone, they won't take the time. They're not going to want to talk about it very long, they're not chatty. If you're honest about why you're quitting they might move you over to another club. Or if you're not trying out one of their other clubs immediately, just tell them you have to take a leave of absence, they won't care why, trust me, especially if you've only been there for a few weeks. But stop letting the fees build up, you're limiting your options by doing that. Get off the pot, so to speak.

    You don't have to bullshit or explain yourself--the most "insulting" thing is that they probably won't ask why. You have to work there for awhile before they assume you're going to stick around, anyway. Girls quit there DAILY.
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    If you simply don't show up, they will not skip another girl just because they think you MIGHT come in. They will hire whomever, whenever, regardless. Trust me, your absence without "official" notice will not make a bit of difference in the world.

    Girls leave one club and go to another all the time. I would be extremely surprised if you have any trouble getting into a sister club just because you stopped working at another. Most likely they won't even know. In fact I'd BET they won't even know. They don't keep track of us like you think they do. This is not like a regular job. You could simply show up for audition at another club and pretend you never worked for them before - they will seriously never know. If they ask where you worked before, you could name some out of state club Lying in this business is par for the course

    I think you really need to quit stressing about this. You're making it a much bigger deal than it is, all in your head. These people couldn't care less if we simply never show up again.

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    Most clubs schedule week by week. If you don't want to work there anymore, just don't sign you rname on the schedule.

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    Sometimes if you want to quit the club for good,you can tell them that you're going on a long vacation,or have to travel out of town for some reson.It's different if it's a chain though.

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    Just tell them that you dont feel that the club is right for you. Say no offence to the club but its just not the right club and you want to explore other options. Quiting a club isnt very hard. Managers dont take the time to try and talk you into staying, all clubs are used to girls coming and going.

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    I don't think you will be missed. sorry thats just how it is.

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    ^^^LOL. that was harsh^^^

    LMAO

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    ^^^^^ harsh but true. Strippers come and go everyday. If I were you I would just be mature about it and call to speak with the manager. Just be honest and tell them that you don't think that club is the right one for you. I am sure they will understand and probably think higher of you compared to the "other girl who just didn't come back one day". Also, be wary of the fees you incurred. Some places will have you sign a contract stating that you will pay all fees and fines. Some places will even go so far that it affects your credit if you do not pay them. Be careful and good luck to you at your new club.

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    Please. Don't call. Just don't go back. That's the way it works. If you actually call to say you won't be back, the manager will just laugh his ass off when he hangs up the phone.

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    Just tell the club you need a break form them for awhile. The will understand since it happens all the time.


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    Quote Originally Posted by The one and only Raven
    Also, be wary of the fees you incurred. Some places will have you sign a contract stating that you will pay all fees and fines. Some places will even go so far that it affects your credit if you do not pay them.
    Fines are illegal. There is no way they will affect a person's credit.

    The only reason fines exist is that we pay them. We could band together, sue the industry, and force clubs to stop charging bogus fines .... in my dreams.

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    I would be inclined to say that your two options are to either just stop showing up and risk getting fired, or treat it like any other job and call in and give some sort of notice, offer to finish up your shifts for the week, whatever. If you've quit in your mind but haven't told them so and are just choosing not to show up then you aren't quitting you're just blowing off work at least in the mind of the establishment. DO make good on your debts and be professional, ESPECIALLY if you want to go to another establishment run by the same owner.

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    If you are worried about "burning bridges", you could just call and tell them you are cancelling all your shows, and just don't schedule any more. IF they ask, which is doubtful, just tell them whatever you want.

    Generally, the fines won't affect you unless you try to go back. They may try to make you pay them before you can work there again, or work off the fines and hand over the money (while also paying the house fees). That's the worst that usually happens, and if you are gone long enough, and want to come back, they tend to have forgotten about it.

    A smaller club I worked at would try to fine me for stupid shit, and I would walk out, a few weeks later they would be calling, begging me back - sans fines. When I left and came back at the bigger clubs, hell, half the time they didn't remember me, much less any fines.
    A girl I worked with at one place would dissapear for a while, then return, she had been there a long time, so they never forgot her, or her fines. They would let her come back, but make her work off the cash. I swear she only worked to pay off the club most of the time.

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    No one calls a strip club to say they quit. Since they operate on bookings, you just don't rebook. Strippers are a dime a dozen.

    I would spend my time visiting other clubs in the metro area as a customer and observing the amount of volume, amount of dancers per customer, and how many dances are being sold each song if any. Then decide where you want to apply next.

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    If I want to quit, I would just tell them youre deciding to go back to school and you need to take a break from dancing. Managments always respect that. This way, just incase that club ever picks up better business, you can come back easily, w/ noo problem.

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