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    I have a general question for you all, how many of you were in long and strong standing relationships before you became dancers? How did it effect you boyfriend and or girlfriend and how is your relationship now?
    I am very in lve with my boyfriend and he is a good country guy who's says he dosent mind but he kinda freezes up a bit.

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    I have been with my dude for over 2 years. He was raised Catholic and had issues with it at first but now he is over it.


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    My boyfriend was actually the one to open me up to strip clubs in general! I used to be very uptight and insecure about their very existence. It took a few years, but he wamred me up to the point where I was comfortable visiting them with him, and, well, just look at me now!

    Interesting thing, though, is that he hasn't come to see me dance yet . . . we'll see how he feels after that!
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    I have been with my man for almost 12 years Nov. 29th and married 11 years Dec 1st. He is totally fine with me dancing.

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    My boyfriend took me to my first strip club, with a group. He understands how repressed I was when I was married, and he likes encouraging me to be my sexually-liberated self! When I was considering dancing, he encouraged me to try it, and now that I am dancing full-time he is 100% supportive. He knows it's just a job and I'm lucky to be able to do it. When he's not working (he does freelance work and has time off between jobs), he stays up all night so we'll be on the same schedule, and he is there when I get home to rejoice in the good nights and hug me on the bad nights. I don't know that I could do it without his support.

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    I was with my fiance for about 6 months before I started stripping. It was something I always wanted to do and he helped me by being supportive and rubbing my feet for the first few weeks (man, those shoes sucked at first). He understands that it's a job, as good significant others should, and has only come to see me dance once, under duress (he finds it comical that the PLs actually buy the fake me that I project there). It is entirely possible to have a good strong relationship and strip.

    I guess the point is, if you have a guy that accepts you and supports you and (most importantly) realizes that it's a job, just a job, simply a job and nothing more, then you're golden. He may not want to see you dance. It's hard to see your better half naked and flirting with other guys, even if it's an act. If the lines of communication are open, everything will work out fine.

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    togerher 4 years, dancing for 2. He supports me doing it 100%, but sometimes gets jealous that I make in a day more than he makes in 2 weeks. doesnt mind hearing stories about stupid customers touching me and shut like that when i have a bad day. I dont let him come in the club, cause I would be embarassed. Overall, the relationships stayed the same, we're just much bettet off financially.

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    Basically the same as Pinkkitten...we've been together over three years, married for almost one. I started dancing about 6 mos after we moved in together.
    He knows it is just a job, and a fun job that gives us the flexibility to live our life the way we enjoy, weekend trips, spontanious nights at home together and the the financial advantages can not be beat. It was hard for him at the start to accept that I would be the one making most of our family income....but once I explained to him that it didn't bother me at all, because he DID contribute, then he relaxed about that as well.
    He has come to the club to see me, but rarely. I rather him not, because where we have an open relationship in the sense that we are flirty and free spirited with other people...seeing me that way at work, he would know I am faking it with customers, and that makes me uncomfortable.

    Rylee, if your hunny seems to freeze up when talking about you dancing, you need to have a good sit down with him and hash it through. Especially if he is a good man and you two have a strong relationship.

    After a year and a half of dancing I had to have a sit down with my hubby and explain to him that I needed more out of him than just "it's kewl if you dance" I needed support, a shoulder to lean on at times and a friend to bitch to at times...all without judgment. Not an easy task for a man. But he pulled through. So you two might want to really talk about it together if you plan on being around eachother for a long while!

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    My husband (who was still my boyfriend then) had been together a year or so when I started dancing. He never cared. Although the man doesn't have a jealous bone in his body. A lot of people used to give him shit about it- how could he "let" me work there? But it didn;t faze him.

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    My fiancee is fine with it. We've been together 2 years, I've been dancing for 4. He's very supportive, and even bought me a stage to practice on @ home, and will hang out with me sometimes while I'm workin at my club. He would be a bit iffy with contact clubs though. I work no contact/full nude.
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