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    Default Baby books for single mamas - do they exsist?

    I'm a single mama (well, I have a bf but we dont live togather and he isnt her biological daddy) and I'm looking for a baby book for my daughter that doesn't have things like a family tree with the father's info and spaces for the father to fill in stuff. I have a baby book right now with some info about her "father", but I'd rather have just my info in there for her becouse he wont be part of her life anymore since I've gotten a restraining order becouse of his continued abuse - both too me and in front of her and his other children and while I was pregnant with her.

    Blah, blah, blah - boring details but I'm just looking for a baby book like this if anyone knows where I can get one. Thanks!


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    Default Re: Baby books for single mamas - do they exsist?

    I've never heard of anything like this.

    My suggestion is this. You could make one yourself. Go to any craft store (Michael's, Rag Shop etc.) and get scrapbook making stuff.

    Layout and print pages on your own computer adding only what you want her to know. There are beautiful paper choices out there. It would also be much more sentimental if you created it yourself.

    I'm heavily into the scrapbooking thing. If you have any questions, feel free to PM me. Good luck!

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    Default Re: Baby books for single mamas - do they exsist?

    He sounds like an asshole, and i wouldn't want his influence in my daughters life either, though are you sure it's healthy for her to think she doesn't have a father? I don't think so myself.
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    Default Re: Baby books for single mamas - do they exsist?

    Quote Originally Posted by MishaBliss
    He sounds like an asshole, and i wouldn't want his influence in my daughters life either, though are you sure it's healthy for her to think she doesn't have a father? I don't think so myself.
    I wasn't going to get into that, but since Misha brought it up, I'm going to elaborate.

    My youngest daughter was fathered by the biggest, most abusive, scum sucking pig I have ever been involved with. He denied her very existence, leaving me while I was pregnant, which was a blessing. But there was always a hole inside her and she recently found him (she's 19), based on info she was able to glean from me and other family members.

    She met him once and he all of the sudden wanted to be Daddy. Know what she did? She blew him off! She just wanted to know where she came from and to be able to tell him off. She is now much more adjusted. Working and in college.

    In other words...don't hide him. Don't put him in the baby book if you don't want to but be prepared for a lot of inner hostility from your child later on in life if you don't give them a sense of their background. The not knowing seems to eat at them.

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    I haven't heard of anything like this either. I think it'd be a great idea for single moms. I second what Dylan said though--make your own. It will have only the things you want in it, and you can make it your own style, all that.

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    I prefer scrapping to anything else. The so-called baby books are all generic and ask a lot of questions that I think aren't needed. Besides...I think its more personal when you hand your child a baby book of something that you put your love and heart fully into creating.

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    Default Re: Baby books for single mamas - do they exsist?

    Same thing, scrap book it. It's very easy to do too!

    But the girls have a point.
    I left my husband when my son was an infant. He also was an abusive loser. But having grown up with a single mom who pretended my Bio Dad didn't exist, I can relate to what the girls are saying about the not knowing.

    Ofcourse it is YOUR child and always YOUR choice...and this is going to get a little deap here, but maybe you should consider talking to a professional about this? I had so much hate and anger towards my ex for what he had done, I was ready to make him invisible...but the truth is they don't ever really go away. I went and spoke to someone who could help me see all sides of this and found the solution best for us.
    I wish the same for you!

    One thing I did learn that I think applies to everyone.....we all have good and bad times in our lives, but that just makes us more of the person we are supposed to be. And maybe you can use your experience to help teach your child how to be strong, and what NOT to do?
    Anywho.....good luck to you! And good luck with the scrap book (if that's the route you take)

    ~B

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    Default Re: Baby books for single mamas - do they exsist?

    thanks everyone - i think ill do the scrapbook route, sounds fun and it should be something she will treasure more.

    i dont want her to think she has no "daddy", when she is old enough i want to tell her but there's no point in ruining something sentimental with a buncha info about him right now. the man i am seeing wants to be the father figure in her life, so she will have that.


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