that I joined match.com? I absolutely refuse to meet guys at work and I don't go to bars or whatever on the weekend. So I figure what is a single gal in LA to do?
that I joined match.com? I absolutely refuse to meet guys at work and I don't go to bars or whatever on the weekend. So I figure what is a single gal in LA to do?
"I love little girls they make me feel so good" -oingo boingo
I've been on match.com for awhile and went on a few dates from there.
But yeah, it's pathetic. Everyone on there can't wait to get off.
I always thought it was, until friends of mine have turned up with some great catches from there. I know two very well matched couples who met on match.com, and when you ask how they met it's always the shameful *coughmatch.comcough*. But you can't deny results!





I wish peope would stop denying that they met off the internet these days. I dont think its pathetic although I think chances are youll find what youre really looking for offline.
I was on a few sites a while back (erm 18-19 yea so long lol I know) and guys kept messaging me about their good on paper lifestyle. I swear if guys think that good on paper is what we girls think is a catch.... they need to think again.
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yeah, I remember I went on a 2nd date with a match.com guy (which going to be around some of my friends) and he goes, "so, where should we tell them we met?"
it's a little shameful, but not as bad as it used to be. I'm convinced every single person that has considered online dating is on match.com.
Why not just pick some hobbies and meet people there?
But, if you think you'll find someone off match.com, then do it. I don't think there is anything wrong with. Its much more accepted these days than when it first came out.



<Giggle & Snicker> "Everyone on there can't wait to get off."Originally Posted by Emily
On one level (be it a low one), Isn't that the point?
[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
true! But I mean, I'm looking forward to my membership expiring. I want to get rid of it. I have a date this weekend with someone I was set up with (who, coincidentally, has a match.com account.)
It like a a bad drug. You want it and hate it at the same time.
Unless my set-up this weekend is perfect, I'm sure I'll end up back on match....grrrr
God I hope it's not pathetic.
Who knows - you might even be dating me and neither of us will know it! (Till we check the history bar on our computers!)
I suffer the same problems though - I don't drink so I have no interest in hanging out at bars full of obnoxious drunks.
I do like theater and stuff though - use to work in that industry. Met a lot of interesting people in that biz. I am sure there are some amateur stuff around LA - I KNOW they would be a bit more open minded than the local bible club.
My Husband and I met off Match.....ya know, I think with as much as people are on the net these days, you have as much chance as meeting someone online as you do off.
I know for myself, after having been married once I did NOT feel like going through the routine of meeting at bar, taking the chance that they are looking for a one nighter, and trying again and again. My time is precious!
So, chin up, I don't think it is as pathetic as it used to be. At some point peole will begin to admit that we live by our comps...
And I agree, meeting guys at work is basically out of the question...it's hard to go on a first date when he's allready been to second base!
~B
Nah, its not pathetic. Who knows, you could meet a great person on there.
It's like a trainwreck, you can't stare, but you can't walk away.
I just focus on my goals. I've met A-Quality people in that vein. I think if you put yourself first, then if the dates come, they come. Who cares where from?
Shrug, maybe I'm too patient? I don't know. I have fun with the women I meet though! Regardless of meeting origin or sexual potential.
People are not ruled by their memories.
It beats the Casual Encounters section of Craigslist.




I used to think it was pathetic, but my Mum met her partner of the last 5 years on an online dating site. They love each other so much![]()
Fools laugh at others. Wisdom laughs at itself...Osho
if you were to say this comment a few years ago then ya im sure everyone would have said it was pathetic. But with the Internet being such a major part of everyones life now-a-days and with all the online communities everywhere it is way more accepted.
Dont feel bad, hell you cant not try to find that one person just cus they are on an internet dating service.
just my 2 cents
-R-
I wouldnt worry about it.I hope you find someone.


What could possibly be pathetic about getting to know someone without the smoke, loud music and obnoxious drunks usually found in a bar? If I was single I wouldn't hesitate to do something like you're doing. It would be so cool to learn a little about someone without the pressure usually inherent in first dates. I would think it would help weed out totally incompatible people too without the hurt feelings.
I posted earlier about whether or not it was pathetic to be a part of this site. Lo and behold I check my messages after a couple of days of not thinking about it and I got 3 messages from guys I have danced for in the past couple of months. Haha the picture I put up was a little old before I got boobs but geez they couldn't recognize me. I knew that by the nature of their e-mail. Sorry, just thought that was pretty funny!
"I love little girls they make me feel so good" -oingo boingo




It's not pathetic. The problem with online dating is that you may struggle to find someone you're attracted to. Since "high calibur" people think its pathetic to use online dating sites, they refrain from it(especially if they can get dates offline). So I think your success has a lot to do with your age. As you reach an age where people are done partying, you'll have a lot more success. The hot young men and women who get laid or meet people whenever they want just by going out aren't going to waste their time online. But I think for people in their early 30s(or looking for that group) you'll have great success as they'll be less interested in meeting people in bars, be more stable and ready for serious relationships, and will see slightly diminishing returns offline even though they're still great people.
With regards to how pathetic it is. I've never used match(solely because I'm too cheap to pay). But I'd much rather tell people we met through match than through the other sites where I've people. Saying, "we met through match.com" has a lot less stigma attached to it than, "We met through stripperweb/craigslist."
hahahahaOriginally Posted by Yekhefah
nothing beats those photos though
A LOT of people meet online. Fuck every single guy iv'e dated for the last 3 years I"ve met online.
Every single one of em'.
and im currently in a long relationship thats serious
now it was't match.com it was more myspace. But with myspace its who knows who and mutual interests as far as shows etc. So they aren't complete strangers and at least with myspace you can get a feel.
BTw I didnt go on there seeking to meet or date. it usually went from friendships to hanging out to dating.





This is just another way society is changing just like being on SW . Years ago who woulda thought, I like this part of technology because I dont have to leave the house for a good read and people are actually communicating here . Except I do need a hug on occasion and thats hard on the net . I hope you guys find the person you have been looking for.





I finally crumbled recently and have a (free non-paying member) profile on www.rsvp.com.au
I've de-activated it for the time being as I am not looking nor have the time to go on dates. I will re-activate it when I do have time again ... maybe next year.
As for meeting someone online... nah... not pathetic nor shameful.. just another avenue in how you can meet people. It's one of the only ones for me since I do not want to date someone from work nor do I go out to bars all that often.
As for MySpace.. it is definately on the bottom of my list of places to find potential partners/boyfriends. Granted, it is high up on my list of places to seek "hook ups" (aka lovers, one night stands etc)... just my take on that website.
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I don't think it's pathetic- I think it makes a lot of sense! The few guys I've met online haven't been the greatest, granted, but in theory I think internet dating is a fantastic idea.
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I've given up on online dating.... maybe it works better in a big city than it does around here
I signed up for mate1.com, after my friend recommended it to me. Turns out we were both talking to the same guy! She met him before we figured it out, he was a dud too. LOL...there are so few decent guys in Austin that we both were talking to the only semi-cute one, and he ended up sucking.
One other problem with these online dating services is getting messages from guys all over the country EXCEPT my city. Also, getting requests from married guys. That shit pisses me off....
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