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    Default Early signs a guy will be grabby?

    Hey ladies,

    I thought it would be helpful to start a thread for us to know what the early signs are that a guy will be grabby or will touch you inappropriately? The one sign I know is when you first meet a guy and he instantly puts his arm around you and puts his hand on your ass. You know right away that he's going to be grabby and cheap. But what about other signs that might not be quite as obvious? Does anyone have anything they'd like to share to help us prevent it from happening? Anything would be great! Thanks!!!

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    He tells you he's from a state or area where contact clubs are a lot more common (florida, detroit, SF).

    He asks you what "really" goes on in the VIP room.

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    Default Re: Early signs a guy will be grabby?

    Just from the name of the thread I was already thinking, he's the guy who puts his hand on your ass as soon as you sit down. It's really not hard to spot those guys at all. They are rude from the get-go almost every single time. Just follow your instincts and excuse yourself right away.
    If the night is slow and you have to tolerate this kind of prick, be sure to collect money after every dance--this type is the guy who will run off and not pay. If a dance turns into a wrestling match don't be afraid to end it early and demand payment. You are not obligated to be nice.

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    Default Re: Early signs a guy will be grabby?

    Placing one's hands on your ass does not always mean a guy's cheap



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    Default Re: Early signs a guy will be grabby?

    Quote Originally Posted by sol_de_pr2
    Placing one's hands on your ass does not always mean a guy's cheap
    Agreed but I believe she was asking for signs of a "grabby" customer not a "cheap" one.

    I almost always avoid (er...run from) custies that immediately start touching my ass, rubbing my legs, etc. It usually just gets worse

    Touching my arms and my back lightly, however doesn't usually bother me and some of the best customers (and most well behaved) have done/do this.

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    He tries to bargain the prices of a dance, and says that for the price, this better be worth his while, or that he'd better give a good lapdance.

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    "what do I get to do during a dance?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by carolina6
    He tells you he's from a state or area where contact clubs are a lot more common (florida, detroit, SF).

    He asks you what "really" goes on in the VIP room.
    Yup, thats what I noticed. Customers I get that are from TX are the worst!







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    Ew, I hate thinking about these guys. One tip: fend the hands off during the first dance with, "Ooooh, baby, wait 'till the next dance, I will blow your mind!!!!" Then collect for the first & take off without doing a second. LOL

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    He tries to haggle the dance price or asks what he would get if he paid you more than what the dance costs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876
    The one sign I know is when you first meet a guy and he instantly puts his arm around you and puts his hand on your ass.
    omg. I see RED when this happens. I seriously want to punch the presumptive, arrogant, cheap asshole in the face. Who the fuck do you think you are? What the fuck makes you think you're entitled to touch me, stroke me, grab my ass or kiss me...FOR FREE? Hell no! You want to touch? BUY A ROOM, motherfucker. Then I'll be happy to let you. But there's no such thing as a free lunch.

    Same with the ones who act like $20 is their life savings, and that they should get to molest me since they paid such a huuuuuge sum "What, I don't get a happy ending? But I paid you a whole $20! wah wah wah! moan bitch whine!" Give me a fucking break. Come back when you've got more money and less of an exaggerated sense of entitlement.

    But what I usually do is smother my rage, refrain from punching them, and move their hand off me while suggestively saying "uh-uh...that's only for the back" and nodding toward the couch-dance area.

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    Default Re: Early signs a guy will be grabby?

    he insists on you sitting on his lap, he starts rubbing your bum, he starts trying to pry off your g-string, he tells you (yes I had this happen) that he is like "an octopus" and likes to grab. he tells you how so-and-so went to vip and did such and such. usually down right rude, if you're takling with another guy he'll come over and interrupt rudely.


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    What about the ones that don't give you those clues? I took 2 wks off and my first night back, I just got up on stage and my first customer that had approached me was tipping me and putting money in my garter and w/o any warning grabs my kitty!!!! I immediatley got off stage and he grabbed my hand and kept saying "I'm sorry, I'm sorry..." and wouldn't let go of me!!!! Finally, luckily the waitress saw what was going on and got the bouncer and he was immediately kicked out. He of course tried to lie his way out but our bouncers are good about kicking guys out, no matter how much money they spend in our club.

    My question is, do you think there were early warning signs that I missed from this guy or are there just some guys that you don't get warning signs? The only warning was this guy comes in our club a lot and he's always trying to get the dancers to go to his beach house for the weekend and "don't worry my wife won't find out" and I've heard other dancers talk about the perverted things he says. The waitress that rescued me told me that he's always telling her to show him her tits and he'll tip her more. (Jerk!!!) Do you think guys that talk perverted like him are warning signs too? Or are there some that are so sneaky that you'll be taken off guard from? Getting grabbed in the kitty, wasn't that a nice welcome back present? *rolls eyes, shudders*

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    [QUOTE=Picaresque]omg. I see RED when this happens. I seriously want to punch the presumptive, arrogant, cheap asshole in the face. Who the fuck do you think you are? What the fuck makes you think you're entitled to touch me, stroke me, grab my ass or kiss me...FOR FREE? Hell no! You want to touch? BUY A ROOM, motherfucker. Then I'll be happy to let you. But there's no such thing as a free lunch.

    Same with the ones who act like $20 is their life savings, and that they should get to molest me since they paid such a huuuuuge sum "What, I don't get a happy ending? But I paid you a whole $20! wah wah wah! moan bitch whine!" Give me a fucking break. Come back when you've got more money and less of an exaggerated sense of entitlement.
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    Exactly what I was talking about!!!! Ughh, that just makes me sick to my stomach!!! I've had to many times hurry up and walk away so I don't get arrested for assault & battery!!!! Nasty, grabby guys

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    ^^ heh. that reminds me of the obnoxious old drunk guy who tried to grab my thigh onstage. I moved away and made sure to "accidentally" step on his hand, which was still on the stage, with my heel.

    better yet...the guy he was with thought that was the funniest thing ever and tipped me $10.

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    I usually just run away, fast! I went up to a guy standing off kinda against the wall, said hello, he put his arms around me right away like I was his girlfriend or wife, I seriously did not say one more word I just took off.


    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque

    But what I usually do is smother my rage, refrain from punching them, and move their hand off me while suggestively saying "uh-uh...that's only for the back" and nodding toward the couch-dance area.
    Yeah but what do you say if touching is not allowed in the back?

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    ^^ those are the kind of guys that I insist on getting the money in advance from.
    If they try to touch me once, I warn them. Twice? I'm gone...with their $20. I don't feel bad for that kind of guy. *shrug* As far as i'm concerned, he owes me that $20 for being an asshole.

    I really don't say rude things to custys on a regular basis, but sometimes I'm shocked at how I can be really blunt and rude and it gets me dances! I had a grabber the other night, and I wasn't in a shit-taking kind of mood, so I just moved his hand and said very matter-of-factly "you don't touch me on the floor till after you've bought a few dances." and he did

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    Indicator #1 - You sit down and he puts his hand on the inside of your knee and starts trying to slide it upward. Or he starts trying to pull you against him or kiss you, or you're walking by and he smacks your butt. These guys are absolutely NOT worth whatever you'd make off them in a wrestling match.

    Indicator #2 - He starts asking what goes on in the VIP or what you'll do for him back there. Or you offer a lapdance and he asks, "What is that, exactly?"

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    Default Re: Early signs a guy will be grabby?

    When he agrees to buy a dance,he slides in his chair really low and spreads his legs,sometimes straight without bending them in the knee,and keeps his arms inside of the chair's armrest.At least from my experience.

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    The guys who try to pull your top away to get a "sneak peak" of the goods when you just greeted them. "But I'll give you a dollar!!" thanks bud.


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    I know a guys is going to be touchy feely out the back if he tries to pull you down not to sit on his knee but fully pulls you down into his lap making you land fair and square on his package when you approach him. Ewww... i god damn hate it when they do this. I usually try to dig my bum bone in really hard into "it" before i quickly jump back up off them and poiletly say I'm not allowed to sit in laps sorry.

    Our dance room couches have backs on them and if a guy trys getting too touchy with me ina dance i just grab his arms and put them over this head and hold them with one of my hands on the back of the wall over his head. For some reason they usually like this like i am being asrertive but it stops them from touching me so works well for me to.

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    when they ask the question,"So what time you get off work tonight?"

    When they ask "why are you sitting so far away?"

    They tell you that you can sit on their lap.

    When they ask if they can stick the tip in the front

    When they ask what can get if pay so and so extra for dance.


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    What about if they instantly whip out their cell phone and ask for your number so they can add it?



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    When you are dancing on stage and they immediately try to rub your thigh or arm while it's their turn to tip. Or they try to reach out and touch you while you are on the floor in front of them on the stage.

    I had a guy do that the other night. He couldn't understand why I went back to his friends more than once but wouldn't get near him again. It was no more of a touch than something I wouldn't mind during a private dance, but he just acted creepy about it. Later on I saw him doing much more to one of our extras girls. *barf*
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