Thats right. I no longer want anymore kids. Its so odd because a week ago you could have asked me if I wanted anymore children and I would have said " oh god yes I want at least one more "
FUCK NO. I have two already an 11 year old and a 6 year old. Both are boys. So naturally it leaves me with the desire to have a girl. However, I babysat my niece who is a very very tiny lil' infant and ..um no. I think there comes a point in life where you simply dont have time or room , as selfish as that sounds ...to have another. Both of my kids are in school full time. I'm busy with working full time. Im just now able to have some sort of life where I can get to know me . I mean I had my first at 17. So in babysitting her, I thought...no way would i have the patience to do this again. I seriously just dont. Never even mind the 9 months of carrying a child.
I was around my 2 year old godson this week as well., and he was my full on push to getter done. Its just so much work and effort and I would go insane if I had to do it again.
I have given this more thought then you can imagine. But again im 28, Im dancing. I rent again. I have an 11 year old and a 6 year old. Im in no position to get pregnant and at least not for the next 5 years unless of course i win the lotto. The man I currently am dating doesnt want any children period. He's of course accepting of me and my two but doesn't want any of his own. Although him and I could part one day, I dont think it would change the way I feel about not having anymore kids.
And just to throw in about the birthcontrol. i went off of it 2.5 weeks ago. And let me tell you I have never felt more sane, happier and easier to get along with in my LIFE!! I truly didnt ever realize how much those hormones fuck with you. Now i do. I have done every birthcontrol method out there outside of the ring and IUD. I just dont think Im cut out for BC. Now im just on the sponge with crossed fingers and pull out methods.
So now comes the hard part. At least its looking hard to me. I can't google for the life of me a clinic in Chicago that provides sterilization for women . I did go to PPhood and it has a toll free number. Im not sure if I should call them for this or not.
Has anyone here had tubal ligation? If so what was the pain like before and after ...the down time and how much was the cost and where did you go.
Thank you for the info!


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Definitely call Planned Parenthood. The PP's in some areas can do tubal ligations--but even in areas where they don't do them, they can point you in the direction of a non-PP doctor who can. Are you set on a tubal, or would Essure work for you? ( in case you're not familiar with it). If you are considering Essure, there's a link on their homepage which lists all the doctors (with contact info) by area who are able to perform the operation.



Each month I have excrutiating cramps followed by 2 long days of hemmoraging, then 3 days of an almost normal period. My doctor tells me (after the procedure) that alot of women begin having "complicated" cycles after having a tubal. My mother, my aunt and several co-workers said they experienced the same thing. And if for some reason if you should ever want to reverse it-$6000. Your recovery shouldnt be bad at all though, I was able to vaccum the house 3 days after my C/tubal. Talk with your doctor, and do whats best for you!GOOD LUCK!

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