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    I am wondering how many strippers have stable relationships. Be it long term, marriage, boyfriends, girlfriends whatever. I’m sure there are some people that just couldn’t handle being with someone that has a job like this.

    Also how about your children if you have any. How would you tell them? Would you tell them?

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    I dont have stable relationships. I hardly have any. I get tired of guys who dont accept what I do. I'd rather count them out.

    I'd love to have kids. If I have kids later on I would not be dancing and wouldnt feel the need to tell them about the past.
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    I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year now, and living together for about 6 months. I've been dancing about the same amount of time.

    Our relationship is very strong and stable... I'm 20 (he's 19), but I know I'm going to marry him someday. He's not jealous or insecure, and he's very supportive of my dancing. We just share so many interests that dancing is really just my (rather profitable) night job, but not my main focus in life. It's not a problem at all.

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    I'm also kinda sworn off any sort of 'serious' relationship at this time as I realise it takes a special sort of guy (they're out there just not widely available) to see me as more than "a fine piece of ass" who will also have no problems taking me home to meet their parents. I'm the girl you fuck not take home to meet mum and dad as such. I realise it is due to my business (work) ... so I just don't really go looking for it for now and stay single alot. I just concentrate on my business more and making a success of it.

    As for children. Not going to have any of the human kind. Will always have plenty of the non-human kind and they don't give a shit really as long as they are looked after (lol)


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl

    As for children. Not going to have any of the human kind. Will always have plenty of the non-human kind and they don't give a shit really as long as they are looked after (lol)
    Does that mean you will eventually mate with an alien and create a hybrid Alien-Human race that could be both the savior and/or the downfall of the world?

    If so, I'd like a little heads up first, GCG, so I can prepare the bunker.

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    I have been with my boyfriend for a year. I'm in love with him. What we have is great and I'm excited to see our love grow deeper. He accepts me for who I am and what I do. He thinks it is sexy that I am a dancer, and he knows I am not an extras girl or a hooker. I hope to marry him someday.Would I stay a dancer if I married him? Probably not for long, because I have other career goals and life ambitions that I need to accomplish.

    I have a 5 year old son. I tell him that Mommy works at a place where people have fun. I make people laugh & have a good time. Mommy also cheers people up when they are sad and I help them feel better. As an entertainer ( I'm also an actress/writer) that is what I do.
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    I'm in a stable relationship. We were together before I started dancing, while I was dancing, and are still together now that I'm retired.

    I'll never say anything to my daughter. Unless she asks sometime down the road. She was too little to know anything more than I was going to work...and she was usually in bed before I ever left (she was about a year old when I started and I quit when she was a little over 2).

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    I have a great relationship. Don't want kids. If I did want sprogs, I'd tell them. Being ashamed is agreeing there's something wrong with what you do.


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    Just me, myself, and I........ (Pulling out of eighties hip hop memories). Anyway I am single, and have only been in one relationship since I started dancing. That relationship did not last as he could never get over the fact that I am a stripper, and he idealized his ex- girlfriend. Oh well!! I have some really good friends that are like family. I have a cat that loves me, good health, and a vibrator. While I find myself thinking at times that it would be good to have a boyfriend, especially when I see couples everywhere, I do try to not let it bother me. What is meant to be will be, and if I do what I need to do( with university, savings, and other goals) I know I will have all I need. Boyfriend or no boyfriend I am glad for the pleasant life I have and am continuing to work on. It took me a long time to get here. I had to do it myself with God, the Godess, and my ancestors help so I know that although I may be without a partner I am never without help.
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    I'm in a very stable relationship of 4.5 years, No kids. We met at a club while I was dancing. If you have the right person who is mature and trusts you, theres no reason why you can't maintain healthy long-term relationships while dancing.

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    I'm engaged and I've known my man for 2 years and we've been dating over a year. I've lived with him for a year as well and he completely understand what dancing is... he treats it like a normal job and because of that we've never really argued about the job. I trust him and he trusts me...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John
    Does that mean you will eventually mate with an alien and create a hybrid Alien-Human race that could be both the savior and/or the downfall of the world?

    If so, I'd like a little heads up first, GCG, so I can prepare the bunker.
    oops... I meant the non-human animal kind as in being a native wildlife carer/rehabilitator and/or foster carer for cats and dogs from the local shelter (to help them out).... that's my dream... that's why I do what I do...


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    i've been in a wonderful, very stable relationship for a year and a half. my stripping does not affect that in any way, he's mature enough to know that it's just a job and it's not an issue for us at all.

    no kids though. definitely no kids.

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    I don't have a boyfriend right now but if and when I have kid(s), it will be after I stop dancing. If it ever comes up when they are older, I won't lie to them. People always ask me what I would do if I had a daughter who wanted to strip. Well, I personally wouldn't care if she wanted to check it out (but, chances are... as ppl have pointed out... my husband might). In which case, I will tell her no, and why (it's hard work, and it's not necessary for you to stress yourself out like that, guys will..., etc.) , and warn her that I know the "signs" if she's doing it anyways.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cliteekat
    I am wondering how many strippers have stable relationships. Be it long term, marriage, boyfriends, girlfriends whatever. I’m sure there are some people that just couldn’t handle being with someone that has a job like this.

    Also how about your children if you have any. How would you tell them? Would you tell them?
    I have a great relationship. We have been married for over 8yrs now, and we are just as happy as they day we met.

    As for our child, she knows I work in a bar, that's it. When she gets older, maybe if she asks I'll tell her. But for now, it's a don't ask, don't tell policy in our house, lol!
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    Just flitting around and came across this thread.

    As a guy, you always presume that dancers have guys everywhere ... throwing themselves at you. Which I guess happens a lot. I wouldn't have guessed that there would be many single ones though. Who'd have thought it?

    I could imagine guys having a problem if you were in porn or something, I'd think that as being rather different. But there you are.

    But I guess that most men are jerks at the best of times right? So it shouldn't really be a shock to me...

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    Quote Originally Posted by StuartL

    But I guess that most men are jerks at the best of times right? So it shouldn't really be a shock to me...
    I dont think men are jerks anymore just more like highly inadequate. They lack so many things that most arent worth dating...not even once.
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    My BF and I have been together for 3.5+ years, and I only started dancing within the last few months. He is thrilled with my dancing, primarily because I like it so much more than my day job. Plus the hottness factor.




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    Quote Originally Posted by StuartL
    As a guy, you always presume that dancers have guys everywhere ... throwing themselves at you. Which I guess happens a lot. I wouldn't have guessed that there would be many single ones though. Who'd have thought it?
    Random cock is not difficult to find. The problem is that it is about as satisfying as drinking a Red Bull, very exciting and engergizing for an hour or two, then comes the crash.

    Here is the story of the 4 "R's". I went to high school with three other ladies (all of our names start with R). We are all from the same socio-economic background. We are all white suburban girls brought up in christian families and we are all in our mid thirties.

    Our lives were very similar until we hit our mid 20's. R1 got pregnent and married. She was moving on to the next phase and moved out of state to be near her husband and his exciting new career. Her husband was an abusive jerk. She had another child with this man. They divorced, she became a drug addict, lost her kids, became homeless for a while and is just now starting to rebuild her life. Her children are now teenagers, living half a country away, and she never gets to see them but for once a year. She lives in a 1963 mobile home in an old run down trailer park.

    R2 moved out of state to be closer to her parents, as she couldn't find a job that she could support herself with. She hopped from one low paying job to another. Got pregnent and the dad ran away so fast he left skid marks. She now lives with her 8 year old son in a crappy little apartment in a crappy part of town and tries to get by on $13 an hour and no benifits.


    I'm R3. I got married to a jerk, got divorced and moved out of state. I met a great guy who was a male stripper. I started stripping and making mad cash. I'm now married (happily) and living the dream life. I have a couple of businesses I run. I also gained a fabulous step son and couldn't be happier with my life.

    R4 got married, moved away to another state, had a baby, got divorced and is now living fairly close to her childhood home. She is barely getting by and frequently at the mercy of others to get her bills paid. Baby daddy is good to both son and ex-wife, but $12 an hour doesn't get you far in this world. She can't see the future beyond raising her son.

    So in comparison to my childhood friends, my life is by far happier than theirs. I lived my life exactly how I wanted to, and couldn't give a damn what anyone else though. As far as relationships and stripping go, I'd say that the women I know who strip and are in relationships are much better off than those I know who don't strip.

    Look at your friends and see if you can draw a similar comparison.


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