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    This isn't usually an issue, but my personal thought is that drinks tend to be a waste of money. I get no personal enjoyment from buying a dancer an overpriced drink that may or may not be water and I don't like overdrinking myself. I usually only have a beer or two for myself and lots of times am not even drinking when talking to a dancer. Waitresses invariably come up and I usually tell them I'm not thirsty (which is true) and they go their merry way.

    Well, one night, I am sitting down with a dancer talking and ask her for a dance (they have back rooms). For some reason, she isn't too hurried to close the deal. Her waittress gal pal comes over and asks for a drink. I tell her I'm drying out from the concert I went to earlier so I don't really want anything. I also don't want to buy any drinks for her because I'm ready to get a dance and you have to go off to another room for that. Well, she doesn't pick up on this and orders a drink anyway. I'm annoyed b/c SC waittresses take FOREVER. So, after eons go by, the waittress comes over with her cocktail. I pay. She chugs, literally chugs it down, and then we go to the dance room.

    Why do girls do this? This was a georgeous, classy girl. I don't understand the huge emphasis on drinking especially since you are at work. If a customer doesn't want to drink, why hassle him to? I may come across as a cheap ass, but I actually bought a ton of dances that night (but only one from her). She had no idea the reason I stopped buying dances and moved on.

    Oh well. Typically this isn't a problem, but I just thought I'd run it by the ladies and see if they have any thoughts on it.

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    There's a few reasons:

    1. The dancer felt like getting a little buzzed. Not a good idea, and yet it happens...frequently.

    2. She didn't realize the damage she was doing to the sale. She just didn't think it through.

    3. Her club had a "drink hustle". In other words, they make her go out and sell drinks on the club's behalf. If she doesn't meet her quota, then the club makes her pay for a higher house-fee in some capacity. On a 1-10 scale of annoying club policies, I'd rank this as a clear "10" and most clubs jump over dollars to get to dimes by doing this. They see the immediate money rather than groom customers to want to spend more in the bigger picture. Worse yet, they make their dancers...the independent contractors working in the club to sell dances to do their dirty-work and sell booze. Most likely what happened to you was this item plus a combination of #1 or #2 listed above or even all three.

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    How odd that you had to pay for the drink anyway! At the club I work at the waitress will ask the customer if he wants to buy the lady a drink.....we split the cost of that drink with the club, and sessnetially get 5 bucks for sitting with the customer for a little while. But to ask the dancer if she wants a drink? No way!

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    I've worked at clubs where they told me, upon hiring, not to refuse a drink if ordered. I could always get a fake drink or bottled water, but not to say no. Personally, I just did what I wanted, if I had to pay the club to work there, fuck it.

    She probably needed to get a buzz on to do dances. Its not that pleasant an experience for some girls. Also, in my own case, sometimes I would be in some mild pain after hours dancing in those heels and posing in awkward positions. A drink would help numb a bit of the pain. So would an Advil, but alcohol hits the spot quicker.

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    I've worked a few places where I had to sign an agreement stating -- among other things -- that I would never refuse a drink if offered. Then again, you didn't offer. Silly girl.

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    My club sells no alcohol but we are required to sell a minimum of six drinks per shift. Or we pay for them ourselves at 9 bucks each at the end of the shift. IF the guy seems to be enjoying my company when the waitresss is on her way over I will ask him if he wants to buy me a drink. If he says no, I respect the answer and drop the subject immediately.
    If he says yes I get the drink and actually drink it, since the guys say they hate it when they buy the girl a drink and it just sits there untouched. The dancers et no money from this at all but if you dont meet your quota you lose money. And even if the quota is met, you do get fired for refusing another one.

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    Most dancing hate hustling for drinks but the clubs make us sell a certain number or pay at the end of the night for however many of the required drinks we didn't sell. I personally hate selling drinks and find it embarassing but I will do it rather than pay for them out of my pocket at the end of the night. Although I won't wait on a dance to try and get a drink...usually I try to get someone to buy a drink that has already refused to buy a lap dance by asking nicely and explaining that we are required to sell them. Usually they don't turn me down, since after the price of a dance a drink is much cheaper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SC_dude
    ... She chugs, literally chugs it down, and then we go to the dance room....
    My own personal opinion is that all the reasons previously stated are valid, but I lean toward the need to calm her nerves a bit.
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    I would NEVER refuse a drink, and no girl ever should. Although, this guy did not offer to buy a drink, and she should not have forced the guy to buy him the drink. She probably did not realize or care about the long term effects of her decision. I personally think the gentlemanly thing to do is to buy the lady a drink if she takes the time to sit down and speak with you. Though I would never beg/force any guy to buy me a drink or get pissed because he didn't.
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    ^^^I refuse drinks all the time though, and it never seems to bother them. I mean, I am courteous and gracious about my refusal, but honestly I'm just not that thirsty all night. I don't drink anyway, so I feel bad getting guys to spend $6 for a cranberry juice that I can't finish anyway. I just say "oh, I'm taking a break, drank enough already, haha", or "Oh, I got to pace myself, thanks. I'm here for a while"- IF they look askance at my refusal.

    RARELY do they insist, and those who do (from my experience) just want to either get me drunk (when they do, I order a 'cranberry', and by the price they assume it's got vodka in it too...you can tell when they want you drunk when they take you for dances and say "finish your drink- and let's call the waitress for another"...then keep on buying until they realize to their annoyance that your mileage does not increase) or sit around and waste my time without dances. Refusing a guy's drink never seems to impact his decision to buy a dance from me or not. Of course, as stated, the key is to come off as gracious.

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    I frequently refuse drinks; if I feel like not getting drunk, for example. I could not imagine a situation in which I pressured a guy to buy me a drink instead of a dance unless I was a) working a commission or b) had to hustle the drinks. If she has to, she has to and that is why she is doing it. I would say that your remedy is to complain to the club, and make clear to them that is an issue for you if you find a new club. If not - I would imagine that she didn't realize how strongly you felt about it.

    I'm of the opinion that the strip club is social/business interaction; thus, if you want a girl's company, want to "test drive" her, as it were, it is courteous to buy her a drink. Notice I say "courteous." I would obviously rather sell the dance than drink, and I have said no to drinks sheerly because I suspect the guy won't buy a dance and I don't want him hassling me about sitting there while I'm drinking it regardless. Yes, guys do it. As well, the club demanding that YOU drink is perfectly reasonable. They can't demand that you drink alcohol, but they can and generally will demand that you consume a certain amount of SOMETHING per hour you spend in the club.
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    As a dancer i can appreciate why this girl wanted a drink before the dance! Lap dances are always going to be funny things, 2 strangers in a room, 1 is naked. If you were the naked one wouldn't you feel the need for a drink? Loosen up, relax with your customer and find it easier to talk to a perfect stranger in an intimate setting! However, i do think girls can cross the line of politeness when blatently hussling you for payement of that drink!

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    Seems silly to me; I only hustle drinks from customers that are obviously write offs, in clubs with drink comm. Sounds like the former wasn't the case, so maybe she was just a lush?

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    im pretty sure the club was making dancers sell drinks and maybe needed to get drunk to dance...but she was definitely discourteous in getting a drink and expecting you to pay without her asking you.

    my club say we can't refuse drinks, but if dont feel like drinking, i could care less what the club thinks.
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