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    How do you hustle?

    Do you act ditzy like Jessica Simpson?

    Do you act innocent like a little girl?

    Do you act slutty/dirty?

    Honestly what techiniques have you tried and what just all around works best.

    Do you approach differnt guys differntly?

    Do you treat a guy your age differnt then an older man?

    I'm trying to decide how I'm gunna go about it all. I wanna know if I can switch my act to differnt guys. I'm one of the youngest at the club so the "I just started stripping I'm only a 19 year old college girl" seemed to work great.... Like it was a dirty fantasy for the older guys.

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    Default Re: How do you act?

    it depends on the guy-i'll act out, 1 by 1, each of the above until i get a feel for what he likes.

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    Default Re: How do you act?

    I'll vary from guy to guy, e.g., sometimes I'll act a bit more "shy" and sometimes overly-confident, sometimes really "fun" and sometimes really "seductive"... Not everyone likes the same things so I try to "guess" which one he'll like by the way he looks and by the other girls he seems to dance with or look at, etc. This approach seems to work for me.

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    It is important to be able to change your angle for different types of men. I look at a guy's age and possibly what he's wearing first, then as I talk to him, I can tailor my attitude to what he wants, within reason (I don't act ditzy or downright slutty). Examples:

    Older gentleman: Eye contact and conversation are important.. I avoid using the word "like" every other word in a sentence.. I try to project confidence and class, as well as my sensual side.

    Married man with wife who hates sex: I'm well-spoken and not greedy, but I bring out my naughty side and I'm not afraid to talk about it a little.. he misses that sort of thing and wants dances from a young thing who still love sex.

    Group of guys aged 21-25: I joke around, using innocent/ditzy faces while whipping out dollar words that they may or may not understand.. they think this is hilarious. I also do all I can to ignore the alpha male/asshole of the group, and I'll even make fun of him a little (not in a cruel way).. his buddies are used to seeing girls drool over their alpha male, and they get a huge kick out of seeing me "shun" him.. they will like me more and get dances. Alpha boy, if he's spending money (he is usually trying to get phone numbers or free dances instead) may want a dance from me in the end, since me ignoring him makes me more of a "challenge".

    Business buddies: I tone down the crudeness I'd use for the young group, but my sense of humor is important in getting them all comfortable with me. They're usually joking around a lot by themselves, so it's hard to just step in and start getting intimate with one of them while the others are still sitting there. These guys are the most likely to want to pass you around the table for dances once they like you.

    Etc.. there are so many possibilities. You absolutely must treat guys differently depending on their age, background, marital status (don't ask; look for the ring or wait until he brings it up), whether they are alone or in a group, whether he's ever been in the club before.. whatever info you can get.

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    ^^ Good advice. You can also pick up cues each customer's speech and body language. "Mirroring" and "matching" are two sales techniques for getting into your customer's head and adjusting your behavior accordingly. Basically, subtly imitate the way they sit and talk. If they speak slowly and pause to think before they talk, they probably want you to think about what you're saying and have at least a semi-serious conversation with them. If they speak quickly and make jokes, do the same. And so on. When you have matched their speech for a minute or two, you can start changing the way you speak to get them into the mood you want them in, and if you've established good rapport, they will adjust to match you. Sounds much more complicated than it feels when you're doing it. Basically, it's what would commonly be called "being a good listener" or "good conversationalist" but broken down into its basics and used for your own evil ends. Hope this makes sense!

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    I gage my audience and act accordingly.

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    Default Re: How do you act?

    Pixie also likes to find 'fellow geeks' of course.

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    I'm new, but I think my hustle is going okay. I'm generally just working with a down-to-earth, straightforward approach with a good sense of humor - I feel like I might be losing a bit of money by not being more aggressive, but I think it might be worth it to me (for now) to be able to be relaxed and actually have fun with customers, rather than pressure them to buy. I'm making money, so I must be doing something right.

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    I adopt their speech patterns. It makes them trust me subconciously, or something.



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    ^ Smart! I'll have to try that.

    I try to be as sweet as possible. And wide-eyed ditzy, not altered-state ditzy.

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    Also try to look at things from the male POV - our objectives and aspirations are different from a dancer's. We go in to a strip venue to be entertained/fantasise/forget our troubles/etc. You go in to work/earn money.

    Too obvious a work/earn money attitude can be counter productive as it cuts across the male objective of entertainment/fantasy/forget troubles. Nothing worse that seeing a girl with $$$ signs in her eyes - we like to maintain the illusion there's more to it than that.

    The girls that do best seem to have the knack of developing a rapid empathy with a customer and focussing on what makes him feel good. Remembering and using our names is good, as is getting us to talk about ourselves. (Everyone likes to tell a willing audience how wonderful they are).

    As has been mentioned earlier, knowing about body language and making eye contact/flirtation signals doesn't do any harm either. We all like to be liked and sitting there with a dancer who won't make eye contact and is just waiting to pop the "wanna dance" question just indicates you represent $$$'s to her.

    In short, the best hustle is the one that makes a customer feel good about himself and that the dancer is interested in him as a person. OK, at heart we know you're doing this to earn money, but if you make the illusion good enough we can suspend disbelief.

    The best hustle is a very simple one. Focus on each customer as a person and try and make them feel good about themselves. The male ego will do the rest - 'she likes me, I'll have a dance with her'.

    Phil.

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    Default Re: How do you act?

    good advice here!

    for me, i just act like myself. i like to smile alot, be laidback, say funny things, and thats what i do. alot of guys compliment me on my laidback attitude, and my smile.

    i try to make them feel comfortbale. i try to make them feel like im interested, that i apperiate their tips or company and what not. i try to act like im on their level. alot of stripper gals at my club are a little snotty/high matienece...so i act easy going...yet busy, like in high demand so more people want a peice of me!
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    none. i'm not good at "acting" so i'm mostly just myself. fun/sarcastic/playfull. i'm down to earth and i can hold a conversation. i do well, but i -do- lose money when guys are looking for a super ditsy dumb girl.

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    The approach that Phil-W recommends was always my best game. Ask him about himself - he'll tell you what he thinks is important! Pay attention to his replies and ask more questions. To me, the goal was always to make him feel like I would sit there talking to him EVEN IF he weren't paying me. And in return, he's happy to pay.

    It's a fine line to walk, but it only takes a little practice. I started by getting to know people. Anyone, regardless of how much they were tipping. My money went way up as a result and then I could choose to sit with the people who were tipping me best. But I remained friendly with everyone - even those who weren't giving me much money. I'd say "I'd love to sit with you but I have to work, I'll be back when I can take a break." And then - two weeks later - when you finally sit down with him, he feels that its because thats where you want to spend the 15 minutes you "aren't" hustling... and wouldn't you know he tips you too! It' a great way to make money when the club is slow. Instead of sitting in the dressing room, use that to build relationships with regulars -- they'll take care of you in exchange for your attention.

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