it has messed up my self esteem, men have harrassed me, i've been looked at as if i were a piece of meat, i've started to smoke to fit in, and my once soft hands are all blistered and callused. i dont see why everyone thinks it's so much fun.![]()
are u new to dancing? sorry u have experienced so many bad effects though![]()
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Dont know if the job is fun. Maybe only when I get to mess with dumb things men say.The perks override any negativity about our occupations. Besides, dancing is not for everyone. Furthermore, dancing can change you for the good or for the bad. It is always your choice how you want to feel.
you live like an ivy vine
you can only survive by clinging onto trees
that's your flaw
put down some roots so you can stand on your own
-Kenpachi
We all hate dancing some days. I don't think many experienced dancers would describe the job as just "fun." Some things about it are kind of fun, I guess -- like having money and free time, meeting interesting people, and occasionally (very occasionally) having a good connection with a customer whose company you enjoy. Lots of things about the job are not at all fun, though, so if you were expecting fun, it's no wonder you're disappointed.
I don't know how long you've been dancing, so I don't know whether to tell you that you'll get used to it in a few weeks, or to tell you that maybe you should consider taking a break or getting out all together. I'd say if you have strong negative feelings about it all the time for more than a few weeks, you may need to look for something else to do. Anything that makes you miserable is going to be bad for you in the long run. It's also harder to make the good money when you're hating the job, so it might not be worth it for you even monetarily. Good luck.





I think anyone in any profession with one day off per week would feel the same way....tired and pissy. Is there any way you can cut down to 3-4 days week instead to save your sanity?
you live like an ivy vine
you can only survive by clinging onto trees
that's your flaw
put down some roots so you can stand on your own
-Kenpachi



CHILD PLEASE!!!Originally Posted by Cameo
Girl, go find another club!
Pls explain the "smoking to fit in" thing. I don't understand that at all.
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Not trying to be a bee-harch, but after looking at a few of your threads on here, you seem pretty down on yourself. Maybe you should talk to someone about it. In one of your threads you said something like, "maybe I should slit my wrists," or something to that effect. If you're really thinking like that, then you should be getting some help.
I mean everyone has their blah days and all that. But maybe you're depressed and need help. And if you hate dancing that much...............quit! There are a lot of other jobs out there, that I am sure you won't have to work 6 days a week and smoke.
No matter how much anyone on here reassures you, I'm pretty sure it won't change how you feel so I would consider talking to someone whether it be a doctor or a friend.
Good luck!
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What are you on about?Originally Posted by Cameo
3 girls? i hope you r making damn good money there, if not get the eff out.





Sure it does.Originally Posted by Cameo
Maybe we can help you figure out to give you the opportunity for a little happiness.


Why not just move to a better/bigger club with a good reputation from the dancers? Try a lot of different clubs and see how much you make and what the environment and girls are all like!Originally Posted by Cameo
Originally Posted by Cameo
Eek. Seriously, get help. Not saying people on this board don't care about you, but there's really nothing we can do for you beyond telling you to cheer up and find a new club. You sound like you need more than that.


I'll really have to agree here.Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo





Yea, honey you seriously need to try a new club, or maybe like you said it just isn't for you - you have to put a shell on at work so you dont take things personally - Yeah, strippers get looked at like they're a piece of meat - its pretty much understood. Maybe take a break and try something else while you figure some things out for yourself and feel a little better. We're always here, too, when you want to talk! Good luck with this.
Dancing can destroy those who are sensitive and feel emotions deeply. Get out now, before something bad happens.
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!
Just remember,they may be looking at you like a piece of meat but all they are is a big ole dollar sign. You control the situation and you can take all there money if you really put your mind to it. Get yourself out of the rut your in and try to make a game out of work, go in knowing your gonna have a good time AND make cash..not worrying what some drunk guy who won't even remember you tommorow is thinking or saying. cheer up sexy![]()
Ok all you girls have been nice. I'm gonna be the big meanie(but I still love you Cameo, this is for your own good) STOP trying to get attention! It will NOT make you feel better and it will NOT improve your life. You absolutely have to figure out what makes you happy and work out your personal issues on your own or with a professional. I understand wanting a little sympathy, but you are doing it for attention. And it's going to become a habit(if it hasn't already) and it will have a HUGE negative impact on your life. So QUIT IT!! People are not going to like you more because they feel sorry for you(common misconception). People will like you better when you are happy and feel good about yourself. And as far the whole slitting you wrists thing. I used to counsel suicidal people, I"m not falling for it. It's another ploy for attention. If you were really going to do something like you sure as hell wouldn't tell people on an online forum about it. Seriously you need to quit. People will get really sick of it and want nothing to do with you. Is that what you want?? Ok tough love is hard sometimes. *big hugs* and cheer up
^^ Nodding.....
Everyone somewhere doesn't like some part of their job, their life, themselves...but you work around it, get over it, grow with it. it's part of life.
It's a terrible thing that you are depressed. So fix it.... You, and those around you, will be much happier when you figure out what it is that you need to make you happy. No one is going to find that one thing for you, or tell you what it is...so get on the ball girl and find it!
~B
Originally Posted by Cameo
YES IT DOES MATTER!
Ok, now that I have your attention, it's not about the club, it's about you.
You can only do this job for so long before you have to quit.
You need to get in, make as much as you possibly can and then get out.
Maximize earnings, and minimize drama.
You severely need a new club if you hate it there, you have to work 6 days a week, have started smoking to cope, and only have 3 girls working there.
(Ya know, there are probably only 3 girls there for a reason....)
I am working on my last few years (maybe 10+ if I am VERY LUCKY), so I have become much more money motivated than I was in years past. So trust me when I say this; you do not "owe" the club anything, the club "owe" you to be there.
If it were not for us girls, 3/4+ of the clubs today would be out of business within 6 months.
Girl, find a new club fast, make your money, and don't feel bad for ditching that club.
And as far as men looking at you like a piece of meat, etc.
I am a very sensitive person. And yes I feel things deeply. But what has helped me & what you have to remember in this business is that if someone is an asshole to you and you did noting to deserve the bad treatment, IT IS A REFLECTION OF THE KIND OF PERSON HE IS , NOT A REFLECTION OF WHO YOU ARE. You need to be a very positive person to succeed in this business and you do not sound like you are in a positive frame of mind. Nobody is holding a gun to your heade to work at your club. Try a better place where you will make more $$$ in less time, take good care of yourself, and don't smoke or do anything else "to fit in".
From what you have posted, it sounds like you don't like yourself very much. I think you need help and, until you have a good healthy self esteem and positive self image, a different kind of job. Or do some charity volunteer work. Service is soothing balm for the soul.
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