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    Default After dancing on stage..

    After dancing on stage do you approach the man that tipped you the best or the man that payed most attention to you (eyes followed you the whole time)

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    When a man tips me I say "Heey thanks sweetie whats your name" I then tell them mine and give them a little personal show.

    When I get off stage to go back and change I say "Thank you so and so" OR when I return to the stage and the man is still there I say "Oh hey soandso I'm glad your still here"

    Is that OK? Is that a good start for being friendly?

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    Default Re: After dancing on stage..

    Well...it's all about club etiquette. For example, it's not polite to approach men who are sitting at the tip rail. So, even if he tipped me alot, I will not approach him UNLESS he leaves that stage area.

    But, if both the tipper and the eye follower guy are available ie. sitting alone then ummm I'd probably go sit with the one who stared me down.







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    Default Re: After dancing on stage..

    If a guy comes up to tip me on stage, I will say "hey how's it going, up for a dance when I get off?" This saves time if in fact he's not buying, you can just thank him at the stage, and move on to another customer.

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    The ones who stare aren't necessarily buying. I go for the one who asked me to come over, the one who tipped the most, or the one who tipped AND stared googly-eyed. In that order.

    Whether or not it's appropriate to talk to guys at the tiprail depends on the club. In some clubs, that's what you HAVE to do and it's common practice, but in others it's a no no. Find out whether hustling guys at the tiprail is ok at your club.

    And, even if you're not allowed to "hustle" guys at the tiprail, since when is it not ok to merely THANK them for their tip? I wouldn't ask them for dances, but just going and saying THANKS is cool as far as I'm concerned. If they ask you for a dance at that point, it's fair game.

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    ^^ Agree. Even if they are sitting at the tip rail I still walk by and give them a lil thank you. And I always say thanks when on stage tipping happens. If a guy DOES decide he wants a dance when he is at the tip rail, I say "Great! Well LET'S leave a tip for my girl up there and then we'll go find a spot to dance!" I never dance for him right at the stage...grrr, I can't stand that!




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    At my Phx club it's all cool to dance for the guy at the stage so it's common practice. Usually if we had to try and find another spot we'd be outta luck. Place is too crowded.

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    The biggest tipper. I tap him between girls and say, "Hey you wanna talk somewhere more private? Leave a dollar!"


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    Default Re: After dancing on stage..

    EXACTLY what Lilith and Bridgette said.

    The funny thing about unwritten rules is not everyone has had a chance to read them.

    Many customers, especially new customers or just casual SC customers, don't know about the "tip rail" rule. I remember when I first started visiting SCs I'd sit at the tip rail thinking it was good to show that I was an interested customer who was willing to spend some money. I originally thought the guys just sitting back at the cocktail tables were cheap and benefitting from a free show. It was confusing to see the dancers on the floor approach the guys who were sitting back and not tipping while basically ignoreing the spenders at the tip rail. What was I to do? I wanted to get a dance from someone, but I didn't want to appear cheap by sitting back from the stage and not tipping. ... After a few visits I finally figured out how things worked, but like I said not all customers are aware of this.

    The best advice is like Bridgette said, first find out if it is okay in your club to approach the tip rail, then as long as you thought the guy had an interest in you, go and approach him. In general, would certainly not just try to "cold hustle" the tip rail ... that's a NO NO, unless it's required at that particular club. ... As far as just saying "thank you" that's cool, but try to read their body language. Some customers, especially the new ones and the casual ones, are shy about asking directly for dances. They like the SC because it's a place where they don't have to make the move and attractive women approach them. Read their body language, which may be their non-verbal way of asking you for a dance. ... Lilith's sugesstion is great. A good time to approach is between dancers, and ALWAYS if you are sucessful in getting a dance from the tip rail, be sure a tip is left for the girl on stage. Yeah, if the guy doesn't get it, or is too cheap, you might have to pony up the $1 yourself, but hey, you're going to get a dance.

    Even better than leaving this all to chance is to have your little convo while on stage. You say that when a customer tips, you already say, "thank you", and introduce yourself. Well why not take the next step. Many times when I've tipped a $20 on stage, the dancer will ask if I'd like some company when she gets off stage. She might even point to an open table and say that she'll meet me over there. That way she'll have moved me away from the tip rail and they'll be no issues later on. Just a thought.

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    I work the room, from left to right... our stage has steps down to the floor on the left. I hit the tippers last usually.... I enjoy making them wait for me. They usually do. and look on eagerly. Looking busy and super important makes them want me more...the more they want me, the more money the spend. Most of my regulars enjoy watching me work the room.

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    V: I think you are one of the few at a mutual old haunt with the classy approach. I believe the convo initiator may be a new coworker of one of your favs from that haunt. I think you need to return to that haunt and offer the 1st class custy treatment to a newbie that she deserves. Really it's because I tip, I spend, and I enjoy while behaving, but not with the V flourish! Mostly if my assumption is correct, you and Annie would give the newbie excellent advice!

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    A very powerful strategy is if your customer on the tip-rail gives you a large amount is to say to first get his name as Collegegirl mentioned. Then, nearing the end of your last song, say, "Hey, why don't you grab a table and hold it for us and I'll be right over." This way, it alleviates the issues with approaching him at the tip-rail and if he's really interested, he'll get the table. If he's not, you've already tested the waters with him and you'll know either way if he's a potentially good target to get dances out of or if he just wanted to sit at the tip-rail and tip the dancers. Either way, it's a win/win for you.

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    Default Re: After dancing on stage..

    All of the abovel I definitely approach the guys who tip me on stage, although I'm not surprised if I find that they don't buy lap dances and prefer to tip the stage. I usually don't try to sell a dance from the stage unless the customer tips me a large ammount or comes up to tip me more than once. I also look for guys who are watching me a lot.

    Sometimes I'll also approach guys who are tipping other girls on stage, or watching other dancers, because often they aren't interested in a particular dancer, just wanting some attention. In my club, the seats closest to the stage are often occupied by the rowdy tables who want to drink more than dance, so I don't bother with them that often. But if someone in that area tries to get my attention, I'll go over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rockie
    V: I think you are one of the few at a mutual old haunt with the classy approach. I believe the convo initiator may be a new coworker of one of your favs from that haunt. I think you need to return to that haunt and offer the 1st class custy treatment to a newbie that she deserves. Really it's because I tip, I spend, and I enjoy while behaving, but not with the V flourish! Mostly if my assumption is correct, you and Annie would give the newbie excellent advice!
    Rockie, as far as the first class custy treatment, I'll leave that to you and Mr. Yoda.
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    Verfolgung,

    I was reading the review of my club and you said it was your favorite in MA!

    I work at Alex's Just started (obviusly) if your cominig in you should tell me I'll give ya a dance so you can give me advise OK?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Collegegirl
    ... I work at Alex's Just started (obviusly)...
    Hey! I didn't realize you were working at my favorite little hole in the wall!

    Well I guess we can make this advice a little more club specific then ...

    At this particular club, most customers have to walk up to the stage to tip the dancer. There is a small recessed area along the sides, called "the pit", only about 8 to 10 guys can squeeze in down there, so the majority of tips will be from guys walking up to the front of the main stage or just walking up to one of the smaller satellite stages.

    In this case, "the pit" is really hard to hustle dances from. Once guys are down in there, they're pretty much locked in, especially on a busy night. If someone from the pit tips you especially well, you should definitelty try to get them to leave the pit area. Although on a busy night, there's not likely to be an open table for them to sit at ... hrm ... You could still ask if they'd like some company, and let them know you can't sit with them while they're in the pit. If someone in the pit says they'd like some company from you, you could let them know to keep an eye out for you and that you come grab them after you're off stage. It's fairly common for dancers to make eye contact with the customers in ther then lean in and scoop up a customer between the stage sets. Unless there is someone who is clearly interested in you, the pit is pretty much a no-hustle zone.

    As far as the other customers go .... yeah since there is really no formal tip rail, it can get confusing in there, and easy to loose track of where a customers are coming from when the approach the stage to tip. It is very common for dancers to have a quick chat with a customer when he's standing there tipping. You pretty much have each other's undivided attention for a few moments. All tips go to your garter so you should be able to see when a customer tips you well. You can say thank you, introduce yourself, ask his name and then ask if he'd like some company after your set. If he agrees you can ask where he's currently sitting and that will help you find him later on.

    Best of Luck!
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