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    So I have been stripping for a couple of weeks and kept my stuff locked in my car so that my parents wouldn't find it. This morning my mom hunted down my car keys(I always lock my doors and bring it with me so they can't get in and found my bag. So she is pissed and I have like 2 days to get the hell out of the house unless I decide to stop stripping. My mom is making a huge deal about the cost of living and health insurance blah blah blah. Is it really that hard? The way she makes it sound I'm going to be worse off on my own because I don't get how much they pay for. She hasn't told my dad yet and when she does I don't want to be here so I've got to make the decision fast. Any advice would be helpful!

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    What made her seek out your car all of a sudden.

    As for your dilemma, I think it depends on what you want to do. I moved out of my sisters house when I was 20. Some people move out younger, some wait it out. I personally LOVE being on my own. It gets kinda lonely at times but I can come and go as I please. The bigger question is this..do you want to continue to be dependent on mommy and daddy or be a grown woman? Some people just dont want to grow up.







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    If you're in school full time right now I would tell her that you're quitting stripping and finish out the semester living at home. Especially if they are paying your bills.

    If you're not in school...I dunno...what do YOU want to do???


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    Two DAYS? That's not enough wanring. I hope you have a decent savings. What the FUCK made her go through your car? You're an ADULT. Shit. That's kinda.. like reading someone else's mail... illegal. She broke into your car by taking your keys without your permission. Fantastic family you got there.

    Anyway, move out. Cost of living is ONLY surprising at first when you realize you need to buy EVERYTHING (a bucket, a sponge, dishsoap, shampoo) at once. Once you've bought every little thing (mop, broom, lightbulbs, household cleaners) it actually ends up where you can live modestly.

    My boyfriend and I are living together off $~400 a week. We have good fresh food and do very well for ourselves and even have a savings. It's the STARTUP cost that's a pain. I've done it 3 times.


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    Default Re: busted! cost of living help

    sorry you got busted. personally, i also loved living by myself instead of with my mom. got out of the house as quickly as i could. anyhow, your cost of living will depend on your area. if you dance five nights a week, there's a pretty good chance you can support yourself and then some from your earnings. have you been making a decent amount of money that past couple of weeks? how much does it cost to rent in your area? is your car paid off? how much of your own expenses do you pay for now?

    living on your own you have: rent (could be split with a roomate), utilities, phone (cell and/or landline), car payment, car insurance, rental insurance, food, health care (are you on your parents' plan now?), gasoline, cable, net access, etc.

    if you stay with your parents, you won't have all these expenses, but, if you can't both live there and dance, you won't be able to make as much money in a civilian job as you would be if you were dancing.

    only you can make the call. are there any friends that you'd want to room with? can you crash with someone temporarily, then look for either apts. or roomates on craigslist? there are also hotels that rent out rooms by the week.

    but yeah...why was your mom going through your car?
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    hey I just read your other thread "wtf please help" and honestly I don't think you are currently in a position to fully support yourself YET. You are brand new to the industry and it doesn't sound like you are very comfortable at your current club.


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    ^ I agree. You just barely started dancing, and are having a hard time of it from what I gather. If you leave your parents right now you are setting yourself up to where you have to do whatever it takes to get the money you need. (This is a very dangerous situation for a newbie in a F/S BJ club in my opinion). If you do decide to go it alone, change clubs ASAP. It is expensive to live in Houston (Esp. in the Galleria area) but you can do it if you put your mind to it.

    Do you have any firends you can stay with? That might be a better compromise. It is really expensive to get established on your own in the beginning . 1st month's rent apartment Deposit/ application fee/ electric deposit/ phone deposit/ cable ISP/ furniture .. etc. Can you really afford to do it?

    If you don't have any friends, you might look on the BackPage section of the Houston Press. They have ads for roomates, and I think when you go online, they are linked to a website called roomates.com, it's sort of a personals type site except it's people looking for roomates. BE CAREFUL THOUGH.

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    uh, it is dirt cheap to live in houston. 400-600 a month rent in many parts of town, including the galleria, 550-750 if you go the all bills paid route (easier to get a lease, but often less safe), plus another 250 for electric and phone and maybe cable (again, less if you go the all bills paid route). and then a hundred a week for food-- it's not that much, especially not for a girl working at treasures. which is a brothel, but there are enough customers that it's possible to not do that and still get money. and alternatively there are plenty of other clubs where money can be found without extras or high contact, even in that town.

    stripping is great because 200 a night 4 nights a week is perfectly attainable without extras and in a town like houston, allows a girl plenty of money to spend on expenses, some frivolity and still save. and anything above that is just extra savings.

    i'm not a fan of girls stripping undercover while still taking money from the fam for a number of reasons, but that is just my personal opinion on the matter.

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    Quit dancing, get a "regular" job, and save every penny until you can afford a month or two of rent and your basic expenses. Then move out and start dancing again.

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    Are you still going to school, pollyanna?

    If you are then I stop stripping so that would at least give your mom a good chance to calm down and think things out rationally. By giving you only 2 days before kicking you to the kerb shows that she's letting her emotions do the thinking instead of good old common sense. If you don't mind me asking, but why is she so against you stripping anyway? Well obviously most parents would go psycho, but what are her reasons for it that she'd rather drive her own flesh and blood out of her house? It's easier to work your way around it all if you know what she's thinking.

    But if you are set on stripping, then I agree with the last post - leave dancing for now while you find a day job you can stick with. Then if once you've gotten the hang of things, you can go back to stripping on top of your regular job if you can handle it.

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    I just signed up so excuse me if it's considered rude around here to jump in and start posting straight away (I read the FAQ etc I promise ) but ....

    Nobody has mentioned maintaining a relationship with your parents! Sure you're mum might have flown off the handle this time around but you were being secretive about what you were doing and it probably came as a big shock to her.

    I agree with the last couple of posts RE: Quit strippping for now and go back to it when you are more prepared to leave home. In the mean time tell your dad yourself what you have been doing - so that he can hear it from you and hopefully when you say "I've been giving stripping a go; I've stopped now but I thought it would be best to be honest with you anyway" (or something along those lines) he will be fairly reasonable (no guarantees though, I don't know you're Dad ) - then when you are ready tell them you are moving out and going back to stripping and it probably won't be quite as much of a shock to them.

    Even if you love stripping and the money is great - is it really worth the effect it would have on your relationship with your parents to leave home on such a low note?

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    ^ My mom was pissed at first because I lied to her, but she got over it. Now she helps me do my taxes.

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    If you're in school, the real question isn't whether they're paying for health care, etc, or not; it's whether or not they're paying your tuition. If they are, then don't mess that up. If nothing else, you can quit for now and figure out some way to go back later in such a way that they won't suspect. Oh, and figure out somewhere else to keep your stuff, like a locker at work. If they're not paying your tuition, well then hey, maybe you should move out. Although, if you don't have to work and go to school, it's kind of silly to put yourself in a situation where you do. It makes a big difference on the homework side of things.

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