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    Just wondering what everyone's tolerence level is when it comes to dancing or interacting with customers?

    The reason that I ask is that I remember seeing one situation that happened at one club frequently visited. It happened in the VIP room while I was getting dances from one of the ladies there. While there, I saw another customer with a dancer walk by to go to a different section of the VIP room. After a couple of songs, I saw the customer stand up, give the girl he received dances from a hug, and he turned around. All of a sudden, right when he turned his back, she had a scowl on her face directed at him and shot him the finger as he marrily walked away with a smile on his face, completely oblivious to what was happening. Anyway, I never saw what happened between them, but he must have done or said something very inappropriate to her to cause her to react that way. It had me wondering if she was so upset...why did she put up with it?

    So this brings about the question, what is everyone's tolerance level? How much can you tolerate from a customer before you are unable to take anymore from them?

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    Once they go for my PRETOLD NO TOUCHIE places, they're dead in my eyes and I treat them like dirt.

    Sadly, some like it.


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    She put up with it for the money.

    None of us apprecates having to babysit an octopus customer but it happens from time to time. A very grabby customer, dreaded licker, or guy who reaches for my "private" areas would have the dance ended right there. For a guy who was less aggressively handsy, I may have done something like what you witnessed. Excuse myself, but not be rude to his face. That way him and his money stay in the club and he's there in case some other girl with higher tolerance levels is willing to put up with him for the money. No point in chasing cash out the door. I'm in TX where the dances have higher contact and some grinding, in a no-contact club area it would be different.

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    The lecher PL is a master of the passive-aggressive. His behavior throughout the entire interaction makes you want to punch him. BUT, he's paying for dances, so we do our job.

    Draw a parallel to a waitress at a restaurant and her high-maintenance customer. She has to serve that table. They are paying for food. When they leave and she sees her tip, she is pissed off, but doesn't want to cause a scene or get fired.

    Why did she give him the finger in front of everyone? Her cust probably pushed too many of her buttons, she was drunk, and/or burnt out to even care who saw.

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    Remember how sensitive women can be and how clumsy guys can be -- he could have said something like, "All these girls are skinny, but you're healthy!" or "I would love to eat your pussy" or "If I give you a hundred dollars will you meet me at my hotel?" Any of these could or could not be finger-giving offenses depending on money spent, customer attitude, and the rest of the night. But yeah, doing it in front of other customers, she must have been pissed.

    Our tolerance levels are of course dependent on the variables stated above . . . the same behavior coming from different customers with different personalities is received and interpreted in different ways by different dancers. I think by now we all know how subjective the strip club experience is.

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    Some nights I'm tough as nails, other nights I'm made of porcelain. I have in fact given guys the finger behind their backs, or maybe not but imagined myself doing so. I've definitely scowled when they've turned and left. Never in front of anyone else though. It's just something I do to make myself feel better when I feel like I've been insulted or whatever. Some guys just rub me the wrong way, and swearing at them in my head is a comfort. She probably didn't realize you or anyone else was looking.

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    I will give them dirty looks to their faces... when they close their eyes.
    or when my back is turned.
    I get pissed when the guys treat me like a prostitute. Just coz they're paying money for a dance does not give them any right to do whatever they please.




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    Even prostitutes don't deserve to get treated like "prostitutes." Keep in mind, we are all sisters in sex work. No one should be spoken to like a sub-human just because they provide some form of sexual excitement for a living.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    Even prostitutes don't deserve to get treated like "prostitutes." Keep in mind, we are all sisters in sex work. No one should be spoken to like a sub-human just because they provide some form of sexual excitement for a living.
    The problem always begins when we actually believe we are better than someone else without sufficient proof.
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    it depends entirely upon my mood. some nights i'm in a good mood and i'm pretty tolerant. other nights, i don't have patience for anything. no matter what, i won't put up with guys who insist on breaking the contact rules; i don't want to get in trouble for their bad behavior. i like my job way too much to lose it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    Even prostitutes don't deserve to get treated like "prostitutes." Keep in mind, we are all sisters in sex work. No one should be spoken to like a sub-human just because they provide some form of sexual excitement for a living.
    In particular not by the people who are availing themselves of that service.

    What actually makes me nuts, even more than direct insults (which are pretty easy to dismiss somehow. I mean, you're shocked that someone would talk to you like that, but it doesn't really get under your skin) is this new thing that guy have been doing over the past year - which is either implying or directly saying that they are going to buy a dance and then reneging, or implying or directly saying that they will spend a certain amount of money and then reneging. I had one customer who said that he was having "so much fun talking to me" (entirely one sided, by the way - he was one of those guys I just freaking hated after 35 seconds) that he didn't even need to buy dances, blah, blah, blah, and that he would pay $x for talking to him (I'm not saying how much because it is a paltry amount. But still). 20 minutes later, he wants to go for dances after all (surprise. Talking to me wasn't as much fun after all). He buys 1 dance (that is one) and then says that will be all, and declined to pay what he offered for the conversation. Not huge, but it was $20 instead of $70 (which is like 10% on a good night, so maybe it is a big thing). He is then surprised and offended that I am unhappy, and "turned it off" as he put it. When did it become so generally acceptable to jerk us around like this? It's making me insane. And guys wonder why so many girls just "wanna dance?" At least you don't get that kind of crap.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    The problem always begins when we actually believe we are better than someone else without sufficient proof.


    Perfectly put! In fact....

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    Tolerance level......it really is hard to say. I give off subtle hints about what you can and can't get away with with me...and then if subtle doesn't work I am blatent "You can't touch me there." I think once I have been blunt and to the point, and he STILL persists then I have reached my limit. It is harder in VIP though, because it's usually a LOT more money and the guys thee seem to be more passive agressive about it. "You're so pretty, and such a cool chick, I really like you!" (as his hand is trying to fight mine so he can cop a feel of some boobage)

    And like many other girls said, it really depends on my mood (the wonderful thing about chicks and thier moods!) Some nights I can handle fending off the human octopus, other night's he'd better be careful, I might accidently land a knee on his crotch.




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    i have no tolerance level. they try to do anything, i tell them they'll be kicked out if they do it again. or if they were really aggressive i stop dancing and get management. if i'm stuck on a small podium and can't get managements attention i climb up the pole and wait until the 15 minutes is over.
    if a guy asks me for sex or talks to me inappropriately i make it clear to him that that's not what we do there, and it will certainly never happen with me, and i walk away. if it was really inappropriate, i tell the EC.

    maybe i sound spoilt or brat like, but i really just have no tolerance. because all this usually happens from guys who aren't tipping or booking!

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    My tolerance level is pretty high compared to you girls. I just don't want to lose money...but I also am agressive if the guy gets agressive. I actually now carry cloth ties to tie a guy's hands up with. Suprisingly, most guys like it and end up buying more dances. I will forcibly hold them down or give them a light smack like I do to my puppy if he is doing something bad (haha, treat him like a dog). Or I will just move far enough away so he can't lick me or grab me. However, if he gets waaay out of line, ie, moving towards me to lick, that is when I will call it off and go get management.

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    My favorite moment of all time was looking over at another dancer as we were both facing away from our customers, we both rolled our eyes at each other at the same time. Sounds trivial, probably happens all the time, but in that brief exchange, I felt a little bit better. I'm always out for the mutual eyeroll now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by avacheetahs
    My favorite moment of all time was looking over at another dancer as we were both facing away from our customers, we both rolled our eyes at each other at the same time. Sounds trivial, probably happens all the time, but in that brief exchange, I felt a little bit better. I'm always out for the mutual eyeroll now.
    heh, i know Exactly what you mean... hehe

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    In one sense, my tolerance is incredibly high, probably from working so much with children. (In some ways, it's not that different: redirecting behavior, giving attention for positive behavior, not negative, etc.) I don't like to be grabbed, licked, or touched in my bikin areas, but as long as a customer is spending money, I have almost infinite patience with how many times I will tell him to stop. On rare occasions, the hassle truly isn't worth it, but I hate to walk away from money.

    I will usually simply dance in such a way that customers can't quite reach where they're trying to touch. If they don't get the hint, I will gently move their hands. If they still don't get it, I'll tell them directly that what they're doing could get us in trouble. If a customer is completely out of control, I might switch over to being a dominant bitch, because surprisingly, a lot of these guys respond well to the kind of mild BDSM that papillonluvr describes.

    I stay pretty much in character the whole time I'm at work and don't really roll my eyes or make faces...as we see from this post, someone is always watching. If I'm really mad about something, I'll go back in the dressing room, but a lot of the time I seem to have this weird psychic shield up at work so that things only upset me once I get home and start to unwind.

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    ^I love it. "Super-Stripper"

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    These days I don't put up with even a little bit of B.S. from customers. If one crosses my personal line in some way, I'm done with them.

    I did however put up with some minor things during the first several years I worked in clubs. I put up with it because I had a monetary goal. But thanks to many years of working 5 shifts a week + a part time day job and some good real estate investments I no longer have to put up with things I don't like from my customers anymore.

    Now I dance because I like to perform and the hustle game is fun. As soon as a customer stops being fun for me , that is it.

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    "if she was so upset...why did she put up with it?"

    M.O.N.E.Y

    as for my own "tolerance" i will put up with a lot if a guy is spending money, esp. since sometimes the more of an asshole i think they are, the more of their money i want. it sounds stupid, i know. on a few occasions that a guy has said something really hurtfull or out of line.. i've waited till the end of our meeting (after i had a lot of his money) to tell him how i -really- feel. there are times when i walk away earlier, even if the money is good. it just depends on my mood at the time and what exactly happened. take my word though, i'm generally very honest and easy to get alone with. the line is pretty far away, but once you cross it, you're done for. it always boils down to "is the money i might get worth putting up with this..... and am i capable of doing that today?"
    sometimes the answer is yes, sometimes no.

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    and what do you do once your breaking point has been reached?

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    You just never know what a stripper who has reached her breaking point is liable to do. We're loose cannons I tell ya- it's best to behave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by avacheetahs
    You just never know what a stripper who has reached her breaking point is liable to do. We're loose cannons I tell ya- it's best to behave.

    give me an example.

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    Tolerance becomes intolerance when:

    1. They keep grabbing after stern and repeated warnings.

    2. They try to jam in a finger. One time and its OVER.

    3. They won't stop asking you about going out with them, and begging you to prove to them you aren't about the money.

    4. When they are insistant about OTC sex and won't just enjoy the dance until you say yes, with a time, place, and phone number.

    5. Passive-aggressive predator. Need I say more....

    6. When they won't stop playing with their peener.....

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