Tonight I happened to talk to another dancer for a min or so at work while it was slow and I was washing my hands in the bathroom. She said some things that kinda infuriated me, to be honest. She was complaining about how burned out she was from dancing and how she wanted "out" of the industry soon. I told her that I agreed. But before she even started talking to me, I came outta the toilet stall and she initially asked me how long I'd been dancing and notified me(gasp! like this is NEWS to me!) that pretty soon it'll "get to me" and I'll be feeling burned out too. OK I was already annoyed with some customers earlier tonight, and I went through dancing burn-out several times already in my short 2yr dancing career. If this chick actually thought I was perpetually cheerful, then I should win an Oscar for my acting skills!
She then proceeded to tell me that if I stay in the industry, soon I will be tempted with drugs or will turn to drugs. Now this is why her "advice" is completely ludacrous: I DID experiment with drugs, a lot of drugs, BEFORE I was a dancer. So although I am an Oscar-deserving actress, I am NOT as wholesome and innocent as I may look. I told her that I'd experimented in the past and that on the contrary, I actually stopped doing drugs when I started dancing 2yrs ago. She disputed this by saying that eventually I'll start doing drugs again because I'll "have to" to put up with the industry. As if it's a fact. ??? OK if I was gonna get into drugs, it wouldn't be 2yrs after I dance, it would be within the first few months, where I would first be exposed to other drug users in the industry and when I would need drugs to calm my nerves. If I get burned out to the point that I need drugs to keep dancing, I would rather quit dancing because I have other jobs to fall back on...jobs that can lead to a non-dancing career! And if I was naive and never let myself try drugs before(or worse, never had the opportunity presented to me), then maybe I'd be more prone to getting into drugs because it'd be a fun new thing, but for me it's "been there, done that." My overall partying days are pretty much over these days...not just in terms of drugs, but in terms of staying out til the wee hours, binge drinking, raving, etc. I'm "burned out" on the idea of partying or drugs! I don't even smoke pot anymore. I do not like some dancer who does not know me, telling me matter-of-factly that I will get into drugs as if I'm some naive child who just started dancing and has never seen drugs before. Quite frankly, it's insulting.
I wonder why this girl said that to me, did I appear *that* innocent and sheltered?? If only she knew how many guys I dated in the past, I don't think she would think I was innocent at all...and that's without touching upon my partying days. LOL maybe I should walk around complaining about how the world "sucks" to avoid these kinda things!(joking) This girl is only TWO years older than me...I do not want to be talked to in a condescending way from someone my age. I was polite, explained my experiences but she kept disputing what I said. Should I have told her that I didn't appreciate her talking for me and stereotyping me to be so innocent/gullible? What would be the best way to handle something like this in the future? Just because I look young, and I've only been dancing 2yrs(I started late, at age 22), doesn't mean that I'm sheltered. I've seen/done a lot more shit while working seemingly "clean" non-dancing jobs!


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(for example, acting airheadish when I overhear an abusive guy talk shit about one of my female friends, but then I go and tell my friend to avoid him because of what I heard him say...situations like that)

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