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    Angry Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    Ok piggyback from the "pawning you off thread"

    Does this ever happen to you? At my club on countless occasions I'll have a guy who wants to BUY his friend a dance but the dumb ass friend doesn't want one?! And I mean the friend is like pulling the money out and all!

    Why do they do this?! I'm thinking, "dude it's a free dance" but they aren't trying to hear me....
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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    Yep. Last time I worked I got it.

    Guy 1: "Dance for my pal"

    Guy 2: "No no, dance for him!"

    Guy 1: "No really, dance for this guy I mean it!"

    Guy 2: "Nah man, you get the dance."



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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I have a good story about this but it turned out good for me. There was a guy with his freinds from work ther and he was bragging about how he never has to buy a dancer a drink that his buddies always do it for him and then he asks all his friends infront of me who turn him down and then I looked him dead in the eye with a smile and said while i guess you have to buy a drink now your friends made you look like an ass. Out of that i got the drink 2 dances and a good friend that was a good night.

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    ah, this could be part of my "i hate students" thread

    this whole week has been like that. groups of young guys who call you over to their table to tell you,

    "greg wants a dance"
    "nah, it's actually tom who wants the dance" says greg
    "ha ha no, dance for jim" says tom

    and so on, and so on. it's soooo fucking frustrating. none of them ever end up buying a dance.

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I friggin' hate that! It's happened once or twice now, and I can't figure out why they would refuse a free dance either... except that I'm just totally repulsive or something?!?!

    I love it, on the other hand, when they graciously accept. I can usually sock them out of another twenty to buy another dance on their own.

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    OH do I ever hate that. I've had $200 waved under my nose for a friend and then, since said friend really really didn't want a dance (actually I think he was dude's client) I got nothing. The guy was very apologetic and embarrassed, but c'mon. After making me listen to them argue over the guy not getting dances, he could at least have given me a twenty for pulling me over and teasing me. Damn.

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    happens all the time....one of the banes of being a dancer nowadays.

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I know! It's sooo annoying. Come on, you get a free dance. I wish I knew what to say to convince the guy to get a dance.

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    Just wink, smile, lean in and say, "That's all right...just give me the $20 and I won't tell anyone you're a loser." *wink, wink*

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    That sounds like something I'd say, after that they usually buy a dance either to convince me or maybe themselves...

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    Even worse is when a guys friend buys him a dance and then he is a freakin octopus....it isnt even YOUR money asshole!! I've even had guys say something about getting their friends moneys worth....ewwww.
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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I'll usually say something along the lines of "What's wrong with you? You've got a hot woman here ready to get naked for you and you're having a hard time with that?" And the whole time shaking my head with dissapointment and disgust, they'll get the dance when you say that, they don't want to look like an idiot!

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I hate when that happens. A guy wanted to buy his friend two hours too! I always feel unwanted the MOST when this happens.


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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I just shrug and tell the guy paying "I guess your friend will just have to miss out" as I lean in with my cleavage to the one who's paying. It works 99% of the time I'd rather dance for the one with the money anyway And then when I'm done dancing the guy always tells the one who turned me away what a dumbass he is. HA!!

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    Yea, I've found they're usually shy or they just think they're being funny. All the advice here was great! I would just look at them, ask them if they were crazy, and start rubbing their arm ligtly. If that doesn't work, I just take them by their hand and pull them up.
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    I've never had a guy outright refuse the dance, though I've had some act reluctant and nervous. I just go over and start acting over-the-top seductive and make the guy's nervousness part of the fun for his friends. Don't know what I'd do if the guy REALLY didn't want to dance and was a jerk about it, though.

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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    I got a lot of those this summer. I talk and talk and talk! I speak in a conspiritorial tone with the payer it encorages him to give me the money. Then I go seduce his firend. 9 times out of 10 I talk him into coming back. I say "I won't get him into trouble" or "I promise to get him into trouble" or I say his friend told me "if I'm reeeeaally nice you'll show me your anaconda!" One of these usually get a smile, some trust, and some lust out of him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
    ...Why do they do this?! I'm thinking, "dude it's a free dance" but they aren't trying to hear me....
    Unlike the "Pawning you off" thread, Cinnimon's question seems to be why the friend would turn down a dance that was offered and already paid for....well there have been a few times when I was that friend.

    I don't claim to say these are the reasons why others turn down the "free dance" but just why I did at the time.

    FIRST STORY: The first time I ever went to a SC was on my 23rd b-day. I was on a business trip with my boss and my B-day basically became the reason for 3 middle-aged married guys go check out young naked chicks. Heh. I was even the designated driver that night. Honestly, I had no clue, and really wasn't into the whole scene. In fact, I spent most of the time watching a ball game on the club's big screen. Well out of no where a dancer taps me on the shoulder and tells me that my boss bought me a dance. I really wasn't very comfortable with this, and tried to politely decline. Eventually I no longer wanted to come off as rude or ungrateful so I went back to the private dance area with her. ... It sucked. ... Now I'm sure she was a nice enough person and all, but she just wasn't my type. It was my first time getting a dance and I just sat there nervous and uncomfortable basically just waiting for it to get over with. The whole experience was just really unenjoyable. ... Now later on in the evening, I started to get a little more comfortable, was able to loosen up a bit, and even approached a dancer I actually had an interest in. Then I got my own dance and it was MUCH better. ... So sometimes the decline is just a matter of not being comfortable and perhaps that particular dancer is not the friend's type. Trying to say "no thank you", just seems more polite than saying, "Hey you're not my type, please go away."


    SECOND STORY: Years later, after having been a SCJ, for a while I was out with a buddy and he wanted to go visit a local SC. The place my friend wanted to check out I knew to be a fairly high milage venue. ... Now my own personal morals and standards: being single in a SC is one thing, and having a wife or GF and being in a SC is another. These are my own standards and I don't project them onto others. What another married guy chooses to do in a SC is his own business. At the time I was seeing someone so, really I had no interest in getting any dances. To me, a contact dance would be like cheating. ... I just wanted to hang out with my friend and figured I'd just tip the stage. He knew my feelings, but he still figured he'd try to corrupt me. He called over dancer and tried to buy me a dance. Again, like the above example, his choice would not have been my choice, but in any event, I really wasn't looking to get dances at that time. She was a nice enough person, but I had to decline the dance. Ultimately, I ended up just tipping her the dance price just for putting up with the aggrevation of dealing with us, and offered to buy a drink, which she declined. I tried to be polite about it, but was I going to sit there and try to explain my reasons for turning down a dance, heck no. Besides, why would she care? She wouldn't and it would have been a further waste of her time.

    Anyway, maybe those stories might help to explain why someone might turn down a "free dance" from his buddy.

    I just think it comes down to customers have different tastes and are in different situations and one's friend might not be the best judge of those things.
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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    ^^^I can understand your post entirely verfolgung^^^

    I understand that you may not be every guys type, and thats why guys decline the dance. Then again, it is free!!! We dancers are trying to make as much $$$ as possible, and if you really don't want the dance, go back with the girl and tell her she does not have to dance, you can just sit and chat until the song is over. I wish that is what guys would do instead of making us miss the cash.

    Also, some guys do not want perfume/glitter left on them, so they would not want to dance and risk trouble from the wife/gf. I would suggest air dances.
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    Default Re: Give my friend a dance...He says "no thanx!"

    A dancer won't care if someone doesn't want a dance, but the customer should at least pay her for her time that was wasted. That's what irritates the dancer the most, is being called over to a table, then hearing "no you get it, no you, no you, no you.....", while she could be at another time doing a dance and then someone saying "I'm next....and then me after him...." We don't care so much about who wants a dance and who doesn't, we're there to make money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hot4ablackchick
    ^^^I can understand your post entirely verfolgung^^^

    I understand that you may not be every guys type, and thats why guys decline the dance. Then again, it is free!!! We dancers are trying to make as much $$$ as possible, and if you really don't want the dance, go back with the girl and tell her she does not have to dance, you can just sit and chat until the song is over. I wish that is what guys would do instead of making us miss the cash. ...
    I know what I would do, and that is certainly tip the dancer something for her time, even if I did decline the dance. I think some guys though, turn down the "free" dance because even though it's being bought for them, they don't want to feel like their wasting their friend's money. (Kind of the opposite spectrum of the earlier post where the guy was "trying to get his friend's moneys worth.") Maybe they think after they decline the dance, they could get their buddy to pay for a dancer who is more to their liking.

    Please don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to argue with you in any way. Just giving a little perspective from the other side of the tip rail. As an experienced customer who knows how it works I'd certainly not send a dancer away without some compensation, but not all SC customers are aware or feel the same way.
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    I just take the money and take the guy back there. They get over their nervousness very quickly in my experience. If that money is being dangled in front of me, it's mine. I'd take the buyer if the friend didn't want it. One way or another...............
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    Guy is holding a 10 up, pointing to friend, friend is shaking his head frantically, no no no! You lean in...."Honey if this is your way of trying to prove to your friend that you're NOT gay...you need to work on it...let me help."

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