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    Ok here's the deal, Im dating a dancer that travels on and off from montreal to windsor to work. Most of the clubs in montreal are contact and those that have no contact dont get as busy. So she works in windsor where the money is good and the laws are more strict.

    She's been there for about a week now and was planning to stay another, but last night I got a call from her at about 1am. She tells me that she's hardly made any money. She's been a bit sick the last 2 days and that she got freaked by by bumping into some guy that used to stalk her a couple years ago. Now tells me she just feels like coming back home even tho she the trip will end up costing her money (train fee and staying at the crack house fee).

    She feels she's not making much money and that its because she's feels like she has lost her "mojo". She doesnt feel sexy nor does she feel like being flirty. A friend of hers told her that she isnt being aggressive enough in the hustle with the custies. Now my girl has been dancing on and off for years now so Im sure she knows how to hustle, but I think now she's just lacking a bit of motivation.

    I told my girl that its ok to have a FEW drinks (she's had to cut down in the past) just to loosen her muscles up. And to imagine a time when she felt sexy to get herself in the mood. After reading some of the tips here I mentioned to her that she should talk to any man with the idea that he ALREADY wants a dance so just assume it and act accordingly - meaning dont ask, rather just say it and take the lead.

    So to all the dancers in the house who have had similar experiences of temporarily losing their mojo, got any tips on how to get it back?

    Thanks to all the sweeties that answer!

    Alex
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    Default Re: My girlfriend is a dancer and....

    "I think I lost my Mojo"
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=55931

    "Ack! I've lost my hustling mojo"
    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49004

    Does she have access to a cyber cafe or any place to get online? If so, tell her to come to SW for some tips and motivation.

    Why did she have to cut down on drinking before? If there are issues with alcohol I wouldn't suggest telling her have a few. Obviously you guys are the best judge of that. I dunno, just my opinion.
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    Default Re: My girlfriend is a dancer and....

    Thanks for the info. She doesnt use internet at all and wouldnt know how to navigate unless I sat down one day and taught her some internet basics... and even then she has a short attention span. But, I will at least show her around this site as I was telling her that the internet pretty much as all the answers you would ever need.

    As for the drinking, she has been able to limit herself to 3 drinks per work shift in the past, so Im sure she could manage again this time around.

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    I go through spells where I feel yucky, and don't want to talk to guys at work, and basically yah, lost it. I usually go buy new outfit for work, or I take a day and make myself happy, do anything to perk my spirits up. If I am low on money (that can always cause a spell) then on night, I go into work, and work for me....I go and have fun, hang with the girls, dance the way I want and for who I want, not thinking all night long "I need to make this much". I usually wind up having a very fun night, bringing my spirits back up, which in turn makes me not want to vanish from the club so much.....

    In fact, I had one of my "spells" tonight...and I probably should have followed my own advice and gone in and had fun....I stayed home and watch Law&Order re-runs! Heh!

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    I just wanna say Milachku i think it is so sweet that you are so understanding and supportive of your chika. We need more guys like you out there. Maybe even try reading some advice to her out over the phone from this site if she doesnt do internet. Also maybe suggest her to get her nails or hair done one night before going into work sometimes that make me feel sexy and it can get me in the mood to flirt better.

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    Default Re: My girlfriend is a dancer and....

    When I'm REALLY not feeling it, I will simply take some time off work. Then I can go back in a week or two feeling refreshed and excited to work again, and it benefits my pocketbook.

    Also, if she happens to have a good night at work, her mojo will automatically come back

    If she's feeling that down, and can afford to take the loss on this trip and take a little time off, tell her to come home and chill out. Then read through Hustle Hut with her to give her ideas on how to sell more and how to get herself in the mood. In a week or so she'll probably be feeling better and ready to try out some of the ideas.

    I second Truce's comment that we need more guys like you.


    As an aside, how long have you two been together? Sometimes girls feel less "into" stripping when they're distracted by a new or deepening relationship. That usually subsides but it could possibly explain her loss of mojo....

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    Default Re: My girlfriend is a dancer and....

    "I just wanna say Milachku i think it is so sweet that you are so understanding and supportive of your chika. We need more guys like you out there."

    "I second Truce's comment that we need more guys like you."


    Thank you sweeties,... but I dont take dances. Hell, I dont even go to titty bars. I met my girl at starbucks about 6 months ago and things have been going pretty good since then. She was open early on about her job and I was cool with it, but I draw the line to when there is contact.

    I see dancing as a form of expression and art. Talking and converstion is also a form of expression and art. But, it changes when things get physical. For others the line is a little more blurry and thats fine, I wont judge them. But, if she was to let other guys touch her when Im not around then I would have to let other women touch me when she is not around and as a result, we wouldnt be able to have as serious relationship together I think.

    After having talked to my girl about her issue, it does seem that she makes more money when she is single than when she is in a serious relationship. Other factors such as just having a bad week, working in the same place for a long time, low on money, etc. can all add up and dampen anyone's motivation.

    When she comes back, I will have her sit on my lap and read thru the hustle hut. You girls are slick, I will give you that!

    "Now make lots of money dancing tonight so you can buy me dinner!"

    Alex

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