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    Will you be ready to dance again when he leaves you for a younger girl soon? It's only a matter of time. It should be expected in your situation. I've seen it so many times. Enjoy the ride while you can. Don't be surprised and/or upset when it ends.
    Watch the movie "Showgirls". It sends a great message for us dancers: what goes around, really does come back around. Be careful when you make lifestyle decisions. They can change the course of your life forever.
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    All I will sat is that I've had a couple GOOD ones. VERY generous.

    Bottom line is that it's a pain in the ass!!!

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    I totally understand the situation you're in. I'm in a similiar one now. My ex still takes care of me financially for the most part even though we're not together. He told me that he will always be for me if I need "help". He wasn't married, he never cheated, he just wasn't ready for the resposibilities of a commited relationship: like loving and being a shoulder to cry on, and he couldn't open up to me about many things that were personal to him.
    Anyway, let me modify my question then: Will you be ready to dance again if something happens to him? Such as death or lifestyle change or losing all his fortune?
    I know it sounds extreme, but it can happen. My ex wanted me to stop dancing. I did. We broke up and he continues to take care of me. But I can't depend on him because of the chance that something like the examples I mentioned are going to happen. So now I'm back to dancing and it's harder than ever to get back into it b/c of the lifestyle with him I'm so used to having. Like I said before, enjoy the ride for now. Make wise decisions that wont make you dependent on him. You then wont have to worry about the dreadful day this ride will come to an end.
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    This thread is pretty interesting. I've had lots of men ask me if they could be my sugar daddy. I haven't taken up any of their offers, but I could understand why the money would be very tempting but not worth the pain in the ass that Emily was describing. I don't think that I could sleep with the guy for money, though! NO WAY! I just could not do it. Anyone have any new stories/opinions/advice/etc...? I also have a lot of men who want to take me on shopping-sprees that I always politely decline...but it's starting to get harder and harder to turn down these offers!!! I care too much about my safety!



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    I stole a quote to my signature.

    I've only ever had one "sugar daddy," he takes all the girls who agree out to lunch and buys them usually rather inexpensive things. If he were a bigger spender I'd be more determined to keep him but he really isn't. He's OK company if I've got nothing better to do tho. He declared me his favourite girl right before my boobjob and he still technically owes me some jewelry, but he hasn't offered to take me out jewelry shopping again since the boobjob. He's a bit disgusting in that he really enjoys young girls so anything that throws him off the fantasy of a willowy 14-year-old makes him spend less. If you don't think about it he's OK but if you pay attention to the way he speaks about the girls next door you just get disgusted with him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mileia777 View Post
    I haven't taken up any of their offers...
    That is only because you have not experienced the charms of Da Golferman...plus ulimited access to his change jar is quite tempting. I bet there is $80 in there!

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    Quote Originally Posted by maryjaneknightly View Post
    I asked him once if I could go have a cup of coffee with a customer who offered my 600 just for a half hour after work no sex or anything like that, and my boyfriend would have nothing of it. He did not want me to do it, so I didn't. That kind of money for just having a cup of coffee with someone is so hard to resist, especially now that money is going down the drain in my neck of the desert and my borfriend still will not get a job.
    Of course he wouldn't want you to--you're more than your bf's "sugar mama," you're his sole means of support. If you were to get a sugar daddy, it would through off the dynamic of your relationship (and you might then see that there was an alternative to the way you're living).

    600 for a half hour of coffee....If it's a safe, public place, I wouldn't turn it down. I'm sure your boyfriend would gladly accept that amount if some woman wanted to play xbox with him for 30 minutes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maryjaneknightly View Post
    I struggle from day to day and see these girls drive up in nice cars, nice clothes, nice jewelry, nice boob jobs and braces and that envy just creeps up inside me even while I'm trying to stomp it out.
    Maryjane, that's because you're HIS sugermomma. I think you're aware of that since you bothered to post that info. A bit of advice as someone who was in your situation: do it anyways. He'll scream and cry and probably threaten to leave, but he won't... he'd be shooting himself in the foot. Do what you want.

    BTW... braces??
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    A friend of mine has a sugar daddy, her first one. So good that she hasn't worked in about two months. She's never really had a regular customer so she's new at this. I told her to enjoy it while it's there and be prepared for it to stop or to walk away if it gets to be or he expects more than what she's willing to give. BTW, it's a no sex relationship with them.

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    yep, braces. It is pretty common here for sugar daddies to get their girls dental work of some kind or another as a final polisher.
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    For the most part, sugar daddies are too high-maintenance and demanding. I'd rather have a rich boyfriend any day

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    I had one a while go, well, about 3 years ago. It was great, he constantly paid for things, like rent, bills, took me and my daughter out to movies and meals, snow-mobiling trips up North for vacations, bought me whatever I wanted, BUT, he's against unnecessary surgery, so the boob job was out. But it was necessary for me!!! haha

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    I am happily surprised to report I have a guy who wants to "help me out." I'm just being careful about it because I'm so busy with other things....But he actually charmed the heck out of me to where we'd be more like friends.

    To sum it up, we drank a toast to him as "a gentleman, which is a dying breed."

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    i've never had one and it's not something i would ever be interested in. however, i don't see a problem with that kind of relationship if both people are willing and content with it. i -have- seen many of those realtionships go horribly wrong though. i think it's one of those situations where emotions are best kept out of things, and that's something that gets incresingly difficult between two people. people get jealous, possesive, greedy, controlling, etc.

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    Dude, if I'm supporting someone financially, they sure as shit have no say in how I earn my money.

    I've never had a sugardaddy. I have had generous boyfriends and a generous friend that I would also sleep with on occasion.

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    I had a sugar daddy, a very, very generous one. I made it clear that there would be no sex, and he agreed, sayign he just wanted a companion, but of course, the more he spent, the more he expected somethign in return. Eventually, it just got to be more of a pain than it was worth to keep putting him off, so I dumped him.

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    I'm confused on the actual definition of sugar daddy....

    I have a few good customers that pay me to go out with them places (no sex), but I don't consider them "sugar daddies."
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    I let a customer take me shopping a few times. Not a keeper though! He did pay for what I wanted ($370 worth of vintage purses on one trip, $400 worth of lingerie on another, $800 worth of shoes on another), but he also bitched about the prices! Not someone I could use for long.
    Shortly after the last shopping trip he came to the club and bitched about how expensive v.i.p. was. When I finally dragged his ass back there he tried to finger me. Yuck dude. I wouldn't even kiss him, why would I let him do that?!?!?
    It ended right then and there. No regrets. Hey, I got free stuff and he got precious nothing in return!
    I think the safest way to do this is to meet them on a weekday, during their lunch break. Have them take you shopping beforehand, and then grab some quick lunch afterwards. This way you're in a safe public place, in broad daylight, and his schedule prevents him from spending more time with you. Also, wear a shitload of perfume and makeup when you meet up! I wore dark red lipstick and used this as an excuse to never kiss him, because "I didn't want him to get busted at work". heh heh.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    To sum it up, we drank a toast to him as "a gentleman, which is a dying breed."
    Our breed may be dying, but we're putting up one hell of a fight.

    The litmus test of a true gentleman is that he "helps you out" without ever expecting even the slightest thing in return. Not once, ever. The joy should be in the giving. It's not a transaction or exchange. It's a gift. Always.

    This is one of the prime guiding principles of my life, so I am intimately familiar with it. I also observe the principle that "an anonymous gift is twice blessed." This is a rule we observe here on the site with individual dancers in need so nobody's feathers get too ruffled and everybody is still taken care of.

    I think a very small, select group of sugardaddies may rise to the level of gentlemen and be able to conduct themselves in a way that shows respect, affection and admiration for women rather than thinly-veiled contempt and manipulation. God knows it's rare, but not as rare as Bridgette thinks when she says to me, for example, that "there are no other SC customers like you."

    MM, it does sound like you have found one. Good for you -- you so deserve somebody who treats you with the respect and sensitivity you have always shown others.

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    hell no. The main reason I dance is because I want to be an independent, self-sufficient, empowered, role model of a 3rd wave feminist.

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    The litmus test of a true gentleman is that he "helps you out" without ever expecting even the slightest thing in return. Not once, ever. The joy should be in the giving. It's not a transaction or exchange. It's a gift. Always.
    Amen to this, OO. The problem is that things change. To change Bella's siggy, "Men lie! They lie right to your face!" And putting on the gentleman act is the biggest lie of all.

    Even if they aren't lying, things change. EVER is a long time. The reason such men want to help (usually) is that there is some spark of attraction/caring/feeling/whatever for you personally. If they just wanted to help those in need without any personal connection, they'd give to charity. The fact they want to help YOU means there is something there for you. Might be sexual, might not. But, as the old song says, sparks turn into flame. Even if a guy has great intentions at first, the more time he spends with someone he's a little bit attracted to, the more likely it becomes that that attraction will grow.

    In other words, the chances of a true gentleman staying a true gentleman (that is, not wanting to take things further than just giving altruistic gifts) are low. Not zero, but low.

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    This summer so far I've had two. One that is an absolute gentleman and if he was younger I would totally make him my boyfriend. The second just wanted to get in my pants, so I had to cut it off.

    I get the occasional customer who will buy me things, pay my bills, etc, but you have to understand that sometimes they are super annoying and super draining on you. It all depends on what hes giving you, if hes worth the hassle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Other Owner View Post
    Our breed may be dying, but we're putting up one hell of a fight.

    The litmus test of a true gentleman is that he "helps you out" without ever expecting even the slightest thing in return. Not once, ever. The joy should be in the giving. It's not a transaction or exchange. It's a gift. Always.

    This is one of the prime guiding principles of my life, so I am intimately familiar with it. I also observe the principle that "an anonymous gift is twice blessed." This is a rule we observe here on the site with individual dancers in need so nobody's feathers get too ruffled and everybody is still taken care of.

    I think a very small, select group of sugardaddies may rise to the level of gentlemen and be able to conduct themselves in a way that shows respect, affection and admiration for women rather than thinly-veiled contempt and manipulation. God knows it's rare, but not as rare as Bridgette thinks when she says to me, for example, that "there are no other SC customers like you."

    MM, it does sound like you have found one. Good for you -- you so deserve somebody who treats you with the respect and sensitivity you have always shown others.

    This is so true. I am dealing with a fellow right now who is exactly what you described. Most SD's are going to buy you things and expect something in return, hold things over your head. They are not doing it out of the kindness of their heart, they are doing it as a form of manipulation. Yuck!

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    I had a pretty good deal at one point, It was an old white guy I met at the club and initially i was afraid so i had a guy friend of mine sit out in the car while I met with him but he lived out of town and came every other week on the weeks he was in town he wanted to see me three times in that week on my schedule and he paid me $4,000 a month like clockwork no bullshit but the only catch was i had no way of contacting him he could only call me so when my sprint cut off and i change service providers it was over a good six months though! Not so sure if I could do that again I have a baby now

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