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    My friend is 35 years old. She stripped in her early 20's for about a year, then got out. After her divorce is finalized, she wants to strip for about a year or three until she can take care of debts from her horrid divorce. She thinks she's WAY too old, and she says she'll be embarrassed to get up on stage because she'll feel geriatric next to the young girls (she looks awesome- she doesn't look a day over 24). So, if you could offer your opinions, that would be cool. I think it would help if other dancers gave an opinion rather than me. If I get enough replies, I'll show her this thread.

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    I'm 39, and still going. It's certainly more difficult (I don't look my age, but don't look 24 anymore either), but I still make good money. I think it's worth a shot!

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    I'm 33 and still going. I still look hot and thanks to experience and sales skills I generally outsell most the younger chics

    There are lots of girls over 30 and over 35 making good money as strippers. There's even plenty over 40. It's not so much about age as it is about whether you look good and know how to sell.

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    I'm 33 and have been dancing for 14 years. I work out like crazy, guys guess me from 22-26 (i'ts dark in there) and I make more now than ever.

    Looking great gives you an advantage, sure, but it sounds like her biggest hurdle will be confidence. You can't do well in this business feeling subpar, whether it's in your appearance or social skills etc.

    Maybe if she checked out the girls at her club/s of choice she would feel differently. Or she could do the big fish in a small pond thing (crappier club where she would feel like the hottie etc) till she finds her mojo. I've known girls who do this after having a child.

    And of course, you can keep telling her how great she looks.
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    She thinks she looks okay, but she's not "enhanced" and she's somehow got it in her head that now that she's older, she has to have a certain look to "make it." I disagree. I think as long as you look great, that's more important than having a specific look.

    I keep telling her she looks great and I'm very sincere.

    Isolabella, you look aboslutely hot in your avatar. I wish I had your abs.

    I understand the part about having confidence and sales skills. Definitely, that makes or breaks people in any business.

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    I'll be dancing when I'm 35, and making more than I do now, I reckon.

    35 is nowhere close to 'too' old, esp if she looks 24. Most dancers are waaaay older than they look- she probably won't even be the oldest one there.

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    ive never dance bofore and i was nervous cause of my age (30). i stlii look great for my age and the customers have no idea. i have found that when i do answer the age question they are quite surprised and tip extra. that is a great confidence boost for me

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    I retired last year at 39 by choice, not because I was too old. It's not about looking in your 20's, it's about looking good and healthy no matter what your age.

    Granted, it's a little harder to get outta bed in the morning (those aches and pains) but if she looks good, she should go for it! I miss it like crazy.

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    i dont think it's too old. my mum is 35 this year and she strips she makes a lot of money

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    Personally I think she'll be great! If she's a returning dancer she'll already have been exposed the possible pit falls and she'll be much more mature about things. She's likely to be a focused, and also more likely to approach dancing like a job rather than a party.

    I've known plenty of dancers who were well into their 30's and even some in their 40's. They still looked great and they banked!

    Not all customers are looking to go hang out with the barely legals. There are many customers out there who will appreciate finding an attractive mature woman who they are better able to relate to.

    LOL - She may also find plenty of youngins who are into the whole Mrs. Robinson thing.

    (Btw - no one has to know her actual age unless she wants them to. She's gonna pick a stage name, and she can pick any age she wants to go along with it!)
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    I don't think 35 is too old. I am 29 and if 35 is too old, then I guess my career should be ending soon??? I think not. I think it's true, it doesn't matter what age you are, so long as you are hot. And I think men prefer a mature hot lady to a young hottie. I have been told they feel more comfortable and feel they can relate more to a 35 year old than an 18 year old. Heck, I don't think I could have a discussion with an 18 year old for too long. My life is different now and it's something that a younger crowd would not understand. There is wisdom with age, and there is definitely beauty. Just look at some of these older women out there like Madonna or Demi Moore.

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    Okay, I have a bit of a differing opinion here. I think 35 is too old to be getting back into it - even if she is great, her shelf-life is EXTREMELY limited at 35, and it is a bad time to re-dependasize yourself on the proverbial lifestyle. At 35 is when even the hottest most successful dancers are/should be considering how to exit the industry, not get into it. Plus, even if you don't look your age, you ARE your age. Everything is a lot less easy to deal with when you're a grown up.
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    I'm 30...I gave myself another 5-7 years before I think I'll be done with dancing. I don't think 35 is too old, to get back in or to still be in. If you look good, feel good, and want to do it, go for it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny
    Everything is a lot less easy to deal with when you're a grown up.
    I thought everything is a lot MORE easy to deal with when you're a grown up, what with the agency, wisdom, hindsight, life lessons, and generally decreased tolerance for bullshit that age brings. I mean, think about your own club... don't the older girls generally stay out of dressing room drama? Don't they usually spend more time on the floor and less time on the cell to the baby daddy? Don't they usually sell more dances, even if their stage shows are sometimes a little less impressive (because upside-down pole tricks can get harder as you age, I imagine)? Aren't they the least likely to be puking in the bathroom after a few too many Jaeger bombs with the weekend college custys? I automatically associate older dancers with increased professionalism, for any number of reasons, and increased professionalism while at work ultimately means an easier time at work. If SW has taught me nothing else, it has ingrained in me that mantra.

    Or did I just way overrespond? Do you just mean physically harder?

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    It all depends on her. I'm 33 and feeling it(although I rarely get a guess over 25). I have a lot less patience for idiots, I have a lot MORE aches and pains...my knees alone are feeling the last 5 yrs of dancing!!
    But shes done it before so she knows what she is getting into..although the industry is most likely very different now from what she experienced. It has changed drastically in many places just in the past cpl years..so she may have to deal with pitfalls(more drugs and hookers for example) then she did before....of course this all depends on her area of the world.
    If she thinks she will be too self conscious and wont do well..then she wont. Period. She'll talk herself out of it. But the good thing about this job is she CAN try it for a cpl days, weeks, etc and just quit if she doesnt like it.
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    I turn 36 in November, and I just started dancing a month ago. I have to lie when I tell guys I'm 28, cuz they wouldn't believe me anyway. They barely believe I'm 28!! "Oh, I would've guessed 25!"
    The problem is that so many actresses, models, and other celebs lie about thier age, not to mention the fact that we're supposed to believe that many teen tv/movie roles are played by 20 year olds. We often forget what "30" REALLY looks like!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tmlsuperspice
    I turn 36 in November, and I just started dancing a month ago. I have to lie when I tell guys I'm 28, cuz they wouldn't believe me anyway. They barely believe I'm 28!! "Oh, I would've guessed 25!"

    Ditto, I'm 34, but my stage age is usually "just turned thirty", and no one believes I'm "that old". For the guys who guess 21 or 22 I'll adjust thr stage-age more to mid-20's.

    I started dancing about 6 months ago. If your friend takes care of herself, she may very well be in better shape than the young'uns who smoke, drink, do drugs, eat total crap, and never exercise beyond what they do in the club. EVERYTHING is relative.

    You can show her some of the other threads here that address age, too.
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    I stopped dancing at 21 when I got pregnant and am just starting to dance (in my livingroom, lol) and work out again and i will be 26 next week. I definatley don;t remember being this sore etc. But other than that I see no problem with it. As far as looking to get out not in goes- she had a major issue- a divorce. And she needs to do what she needs to do to get though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teeth_of_the_hydra
    I thought everything is a lot MORE easy to deal with when you're a grown up, what with the agency, wisdom, hindsight, life lessons, and generally decreased tolerance for bullshit that age brings.
    The decreased tolerance for bullshit is what I meant; I found a lot more customers I lot more tolerable when I was a kid.

    I also don't, as I've said before in another context, find that age brings a lot of professionalism simply qua age - like...
    I mean, think about your own club... don't the older girls generally stay out of dressing room drama?
    No.
    Don't they usually spend more time on the floor and less time on the cell to the baby daddy?
    No.
    Don't they usually sell more dances, even if their stage shows are sometimes a little less impressive (because upside-down pole tricks can get harder as you age, I imagine)?
    Definitely not. There are some older dancers for whom a no-nonsense attitude and increased sales ability etc., are reflected, but for the most part a 35 year old woman still in the business is in the business because she doesn't have a lot of other options.

    I automatically associate older dancers with increased professionalism, for any number of reasons, and increased professionalism while at work ultimately means an easier time at work. If SW has taught me nothing else, it has ingrained in me that mantra.
    I think that is only true to a degree - I think that the girls who have the easiest time are the girls who are still able to have fun (which I also think gets increasingly harder as you get older) but also still remember that the end all be all purpose is to make the money.

    Or did I just way overrespond? Do you just mean physically harder?
    It is also definitely physically harder - but no matter what, no matter if you are in fact one of the gifted older dancers to whom you refer, 35 is still the age at which one would be considering exiting - nobody can deny this. Even if you are still making money at 35 it is still the age at which you are making plans to move on - particularly if you are professional, and tough and have other options. So in a time senstive industry like this planning on entering may not be the most practical life decision.
    Sorry. I don't want to be discouraging in a personal way and I don't mean that she is too ugly or old for men to find her attractive (obviously none of us can know that without knowing her, and besides we all know that unattractive women can sell dances through a variety of means); but that if you are already at the "exit age" perhaps "entering" is not the wisest decision to make in your life.
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    Two of my favorite dancers are in their forties. One quit a little over a year ago because she wanted more control over the choice of people with whom she associated, the other I just saw last week.

    There is an appeal to being in a club, when the DJ plays something like the Ramones or the Police and you can actually have a conversation about when that song was new or seeing them in concert. Having an extra fifteen years of experiences over the rest of the people in the room can be a real asset.

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    35 is definitely not too old! Two of the absolute hottest girls I've ever seen in my life are 38 and 41, and I'm no spring chicken myself! Tell her to look at a lot of the very well known features/porn girls out there...most are in their 30s and raking in the big bucks. I say go for it. 30 is the new 20!
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    Default Re: 35 too old?

    I'm a newbie and I'm young .. but..

    Age isn't so much on the outside as it is in your head.
    If the woman looks good for her age, she should definately go for it. If she is too hung up on the age it will definately show through her attitude.

    Heck it could even be rather uplifting after a divorce, knowing that there are other guys out there that really desire her.

    Age is what you feel like! Remember that!

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    You're as young as you feel right? So even if she looks not a day over 24, she will always feel old unless she decides she's really a hot mama...

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    She is not to old at all. Most of the top earners I know are between 28-38. Tell her to go ahead. I am sure that after she gets back into the game she will no longer feel that way. Age is just a state of mind anyway.

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