Hey, I just found this site and I find it very informative. I now have a better understanding for the way dancers perceive their job. I wish I found this site earlier. Anyways, I was hoping some dancers (and/or customers) could provide me with some suggestiions.
Here is my situation. I'll try and be brief:
So I go to a club that I have not been to for years. When I get there, an extremely attractive girl quickly catches my eye and when I see her dance on stage, i get hooked. After her stage show, she stops by and asks me for a dance and I immediately say yes. She dances for me (a VIP dance of $100+ which I pay for and of course tip) and after, she sits down and talks with me for a short time (about 10 minutes). I found her enchanting and very interesting. After the chat, I get another VIP and then leave feeling very happy. I actually found an ATF.
So, I return to the club on two more occasions. Both times it is pretty much the same scenario of a couple of VIP's and some talking. After seeing her for the third time, I realize I am actually falling for her. Now, I have never fallen for a dancer before and I know the chances of that turning out well is not good. So I decide I better not see her anymore. Now I didn't just want to disappear without saying goodbye, so I purchase a small gift (not extravagant but kind of substantial to me) and I head to the club for one last time.
When I get to the club, I see my ATF (damn she looked sooo good) and I give her the gift and tell her I won't be coming in any more. She appears understanding and is very appreciative of the gift. She then proceeds to sit down with me and talk.
Now here's the deal, on this night I am there for about four hours and she spends most of that time with me. Now most of it was just sitting, talking, and me enjoying her company. But, during that time, I of course got my usual two VIP's and I did get a few couch dances also. And, since she is sitting with me, I did buy her drinks, but I did not spend much more on her then on my previous visits. I would have loved to get more dances from her, but I am not rich and cannot afford anywhere near the amount of money I see being spent by some of the customers on these threads.
I should also add, that during this time, she did not work the floor like she normally would. She did leave to do her stage set (two of them while I was there) and she did have to go on stage during "all calls" but after each time, she came right back and sat with me. Now she did do a couple of dances while I was there, there was one guy sitting next to us who she did a couple of couch dances with and one guy I pointed out to her that she did a VIP with, but after each of these dances, she came back and sat with me.
Anyhow, after being there for about four hours, I decide it is time for me to leave, I say goodbye, and I leave (happy with the time I spent with her and sad that I won't be going back).
So here's my question, should I have tipped her for her time sitting with me also? Now, after reading some of the threads on here, I'm sure most dancers would say I should have tipped her and I now agree and I feel awful that I didn't (after all, she is my ATF). Also, how much should I have tipped her? Now I realize all dancers are different and all clubs are different but if you can give me an idea of an amount as in x number of dances or something I would really appreciate it. Lastly, is there any way I can give her a tip now without seeming like a stalker or something?
Sorry if this seems choppy, but I tried to keep it brief. Thanks for any suggestions.


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