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    Is it just me, or do you find it unsettling when SC employees visit the club as customers?

    I keep seeing one of the bouncers come in as a customer and it kinda creeped me out...but then even CREEPIER, one of the managers actually came in and sat at the stage.

    Maybe it sounds unfair to judge employees for coming in as customers...but to me, it's creepy when an employee (and especially my employER) comes in to watch me strip. It makes me feel as though they are getting a free show every night they work.

    I dont know. Is it just me, or is this unprofessional, or worse, just plain creepy?

    Edit: Or in this particular case, frustrating??- One night, a new bouncer (who also happened to be a friend of a good friend who I met at said friends party before seeing him at work) was sitting at the bar as a customer.

    Now, the way my club works, is that when a girl gets off stage, she walks around on the bar to all the customers sitting there. It is customary (to the point of being cumpulsory, and even conspicuous if someone DOESNT tip) to tip every girl.

    So when I came to this guy, I talked to him for a minute, joked about his being there on his off night, and held out my garter (since I'd been there for a minute or two and things were getting awkward). He held up his hand to me and shook his head a little (as if to say 'no thanks'!), saying he was only there "to relax".



    I bent down and said "Ok, but since you're new to working here I'll tell you- the girls dont appreciate it when guys come in and sit at the tip rail and dont tip. Yeah, you dont HAVE to, but it's considered pretty rude, especially when you work here. If you are gonna come in as a CUSTOMER, you may want to sit at the table next time if you arent going to tip."

    I mean what the fuck? Just because you work here doesnt mean you deserve a free show. This isnt your fucking rumpus room. If you come in on your off night, you are a customer, and it is conspicuous of any customer to not actually spend any money.

    Just because I work there, I wouldnt expect to come in, hang out, and get free drinks from the bar.

    Sorry, that last bit I just wanted to rant about.
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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    Yes, I -do- find it disturbing.

    Owners should at least have the decency to -go elsewhere-. He should respect you as his employee, he of all should understand that this is work and not fun. Secondly, he should pay you if he's watching. Again, he -knows this is work-.

    I know about an owner that used to go to other strip clubs but would horribly insult the dancers (which were foreign) in Icelandic.
    Thankfully the girl understood him and went off on him.
    Serves the bugger right >P

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    I find it very disturbing. And uncomfortable. Like one time one his day off a bouncer brought his friends and they sat at the tiprail. I refused to go onstage while they were sitting there. They were tipping and all but it just seemed weird to me. I just dont belive in mixing business and pleasure and I dont want a coworker seeing me as a sexual object the wy the customers do instead of as a coworker.

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    I've had male staff come in on off nights to buy dances from me. I think that after watching me give dances night after night they just want some too and I don't mind taking their money They've always been easier to deal with because they know the rules and don't try anything stupid. I've never had a manager do it though, and I might find that a little awkward. I guess I don't take the staff too seriously, so that may be why I don't mind treating them as customers if they come in as customers.

    If any staff came in and insulted me by gawking at my stage and not tipping in the manner described above, I WOULD be pissed and I WOULD let him know the error of his ways. Asshole.
    Edit: I would also be inclined to refrain from tipping the guy when I had the "pleasure" of working with him in future.
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    Some clubs are still fun to go in on your night off once in a while, but I cannot bear to sit at the tip rail, I won't do it.

    I would never, ever get a dance where I worked, or anywhere I might wind up working (or anywhere else, really). It totally ruins the professional relationship if you give them money to rub your crotch. I'll buy a friend a dance instead, choosing one of my best tippers as a present for both of them.

    In the more relaxed, casual places it's different, and a lot of fun once in a while. I used to go get high with one of my favorite co-workers Fawn, since I never get high at work when she would offer, the dressing room there was like a pharmaceutical lab. But in that club they were like my sisters, which is the way I prefer it. I would bodypaint on them in the dressing room all the time (you cannot do this if you act like a perv), etc., and they were very relaxed with me.
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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    I think it's very inappropriate for male staff to watch the show on their day off. And it's certainly a douchebag move to sit there like a f*ckin leech watching for free.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Optimist
    I think it's very inappropriate for male staff to watch the show on their day off. And it's certainly a douchebag move to sit there like a f*ckin leech watching for free.
    The bouncers at my club are like that. Most of the time it seems their eyes are on stage and not on the customers.

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    When they are working? That's even worse...

    What I hate about the guys that act like pervs either when they are visiting (or worse, when they are working) is that it ruins it to some extent for those of us who aren't. The dancers then tend to assume all male employees are pervs as well.

    This does not help me do my job, it can seriously interfere. A good DJ/dancer relationship depends on mutual and equal respect. If they feel you are lusting after them, they respect you less, a very, very bad thing.
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    ^^Of course. This is the whole reason they get a job in a strip club in the first place. So they can ogle hot chics and get paid for it.

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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    There's a floorman/bouncer at my club that came in and brought a huge group of his friends to party at our club and they got the Penthouse and had dancers back there. I was invited back there and I felt at ease with him being back there because I knew he wouldn't allow his friends to get out of line or stiff me. Some of the dancers were dancing for him, I wouldn't, that would have felt weird to me but he went and ordered a lot of funny money and gave a bunch to his friends and even though he wasn't "technically working" that night, he still acted sorta like he was and kept order in the place, I felt that he was acting very professional, so that never bothered me.

    Now, OTOH, if he or one of the bouncers came in and sat up at the stage but never tipped then I'd along with a lot of girls would have a huge problem with that!!!! That's BS that that guy did that. WTF? I would have told him off too! Also, when it comes time to tip him, just smile in an nice but evil smile and shake your head and say "No, tonight I'm just kinda hanging out tonight" and wink at him. He'll get the point right then and there, then the next night I'd act like nothing. Now if the next time he comes in and doesn't tip again, then I'd never tip him again. If he can't respect you while you're working, then you can't respect him while he's working. But I'm guessing that he'll "get it" when you don't tip him the next night but if he doesn't then you need to decide how you want to handle it, and I told you how I would.

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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    Quote Originally Posted by harlequinn
    Is it just me, or do you find it unsettling when SC employees visit the club as customers?
    You mean like...this guy?

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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    God I love threads like this.

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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    One of our DJs was in on his night off a couple of weeks ago and was sitting with some other regulars. One of the other guys wanted a dance from me. Our DJ got up and left while I danced for his friend. I thought that was polite and a nice thing to do, even though he sees me dance for other people every night.

    I think there should be a rule that if you come in when you're not working, you should have to sit at the bar where you can't really get a free show (at least in our club).

    What annoys me more is girls that used to dance at our club who come in with their guy friends, get shit faced, give them "dances", and let their friends act like a-holes, when they're not even buying dances. If you're going to act like an idiot, go to a club where people don't know you.

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    Default Re: Do you find it disturbing....

    i don't find it the least bit creepy. They do it. I even had a lesbian dancer drool at my tip rail. Other dancers told me they wouldn't be able to stand dancing with her ogling there. Call me wierd, but it really doesn't bother me

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