so i've run into a problem at work. i've noticed that i sell the most dances when i get off stage, or when i was just giving a dance to someone else. the problem is, the club i'm at right now has a long rotation, so i don't go on stage often. when i haven't sold a dance yet, it seems to be that much harder for me to sell one. i've noticed that the vast majority of guys i sit down and talk with, turn me down for dances. this was not the case at my old club. i would talk with a guy for 30minutes or so and then he would buy 10-20 dances in a row. it seems like i'm getting a lot of the "you're too smart/nice/whatever" bullshit. i have a feeling that most of it is due to my fairly boyish personality. i don't look like a boy, but i can come across as one in conversation. i've tried to act a bit more femme recently, but it always comes off as uncomfortable or fake. i also tried "dumbing myself down" but that's not easy for me either. (note: i know i don't use capital letters... it's on purpose) this didn't tend to happen at my old club, but recently i feel like guys are picking the super fake type girls over me. i've also been told that i'm intimidating. i'm not doing anything different! it's like night and day with the reactions since i changed clubs. i want to know how i can talk less and make a sale, or get out of there quick if it's obviously not going to happen. guys either seem put off by me or they really "get along" with me.. laugh/joke/etc and then they get a dance from someone else. i also get lots of the "i want to see you dance first" shit at this club. i've been reading some of the threads on how to deal with it, since i never got that at the old place (shorter rotation). anyway, sorry this post rambled on. any help you can give would be great.
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) this didn't tend to happen at my old club, but recently i feel like guys are picking the super fake type girls over me. i've also been told that i'm intimidating. i'm not doing anything different! it's like night and day with the reactions since i changed clubs. i want to know how i can talk less and make a sale, or get out of there quick if it's obviously not going to happen. guys either seem put off by me or they really "get along" with me.. laugh/joke/etc and then they get a dance from someone else. i also get lots of the "i want to see you dance first" shit at this club. i've been reading some of the threads on how to deal with it, since i never got that at the old place (shorter rotation). anyway, sorry this post rambled on. any help you can give would be great.
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