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    i have been several clubs in eastern iowa near where i live. some are topless and some are full nude. i was wondering how dancers handle giving private dances that allow full contact like touching your breasts and your ass. i am a customer and i don't know if i was in a dancers position if i would handle it welll. just curious. when i go to the lumberyard in cedar rapids i am always on my best behavior. i understand that a lot of customers make the dancer's job not enjoyable. just wanted to let all the dancers out there i appreciate their hard work.
    have a nice day ! )))

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    Quote Originally Posted by dancersrfun
    i was wondering how dancers handle giving private dances that allow full contact like touching your breasts and your ass. i am a customer and i don't know if i was in a dancers position if i would handle it welll.
    Those who do allow higher contact dances are sometimes simply not bothered by higher contact. Personally, I don't mind having my ass touched by a customer during a dance. It has never felt like an invasion of personal space to me, and in fact I rather like it (as long as the hands stay on the cheek regions -- no crack diving, plz). But nobody, and I mean nobody, is allowed to touch my breasts. They're off limits. Some dancers, though, don't mind their boobies being touched. Some like it.

    Of course, some dancers hate higher contact and still allow it, but this is because they feel that they don't have a choice if they want to make money. I've been in that position before, and when I realized how miserable I was and how much it was making me hate going to work, I changed clubs and forced myself to maintain my preferred boundaries. I'm much happier now, and I'm actually making more money than I was before. Nice, huh?

    just wanted to let all the dancers out there i appreciate their hard work.
    Thank you. :] We appreciate your politeness and support!

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    Some dancers, though, don't mind their boobies being touched. Some like it.
    I'm one of those girls that do not mind it. For me, hell I know my boobs are huge, and I know men are dying to touch them. I'd much rather let a guy softly massage my boobies then INSTEAD of sitting in his lap grinding his weenie. That's just me though..
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    Well Okay here is my take on it. I do mind. Here is why though. If im getting touched on etc my defenses are up and I can't really get into my dance because Im always wondering where his hands are going to creep too next. Then I get all weird and cant do my job at least not in a way that i'd like it to be.

    I like the control that I have in dancing.

    But being half naked or all naked leaves us a lil' open for bad shit to happen and i can say this , a guy that respects us and doesnt try and touch EVEN in a contact club gets a hell of a lot better of a dance then the guy with go go gadget arms

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tart
    But being half naked or all naked leaves us a lil' open for bad shit to happen and i can say this , a guy that respects us and doesnt try and touch EVEN in a contact club gets a hell of a lot better of a dance then the guy with go go gadget arms

    I have even told men this more than once "You know, your dance would get much better if I wasn't constantly defending myself....if you relax, I can relax. We both win"


    I have never really had a problem with guys touching my rear, as long as they stick to the cheeks...but when the hands start roaming I get a little fiesty. So I guess It's better to not let them touch at all...
    Eh...




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    Tart, I imagine trying to maintain non contact boundaries in a contact club would be difficult.

    eye seems to have a pragmatic approach or at least an understanding that many guys want to touch some parts of the dancer anatomy during their dances. Thats why they go to contact clubs as opposed to air dance clubs. Based on her tone I suspect she manages to satisfy that need and make money while staying somewhere in the vicinity of her personal comfort zone.

    In a perfect world, custys who are content with air would naturally migrate to clubs known for that, and in this fantasy those clubs would be populated exclusively with happy, moneymaking air dancers and satisfied air dance customers. High mileage guys would instinctively know where the dark side clubs are located and have all their wishes fulfilled there But there is ignorance and obstinance on both sides of the aisle, thus the conflict of interest in terms of mileage.

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    Those who do allow higher contact dances are sometimes simply not bothered by higher contact.
    This is true. The number of dancers fitting this category would surprise a great many girls on this site.

    But being half naked or all naked leaves us a lil' open for bad shit to happen and i can say this , a guy that respects us and doesnt try and touch EVEN in a contact club gets a hell of a lot better of a dance then the guy with go go gadget arms
    I find this to be true as well, even in high contact clubs with high contact dancers. If I let the dancer determine the level of contact even from the get-go, it's a much better time all the way around. If she's not meeting my expectations, I cut it at one or two dances and move on to other dancers. This system has worked pretty well for me for a long, long time.
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    Contact doesn't bother me until a bodily fluid ends up on me or any part of any body ends up between my legs or touching anywhere in the g-string area. Otherwise I'm good.

    But is also depends on setting. As a topless waitress I'd be DAMN pissed if you grabbed my boob because that's NOT my job. If I was your private dancer, things would be different.

    I guess my answer is:

    Depends on what you're paying for.


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    Quote Originally Posted by guest
    Of course, some dancers hate higher contact and still allow it, but this is because they feel that they don't have a choice if they want to make money. I've been in that position before, and when I realized how miserable I was and how much it was making me hate going to work, I changed clubs and forced myself to maintain my preferred boundaries. I'm much happier now, and I'm actually making more money than I was before. Nice, huh?
    that's exactly what has recently happened to me. i'm in a little to no contact club now (although i'm topless.. the last place was bikini) i have no idea why i waited so long. i'd rather be topless and not have to put down my boundaries than in a bikini where i have to compete with very hard contact. i don't mind some respectfull contact, but the kind of groping/molesting that some high contact places breed is just not for me. they tend to attract a certain type of customer as well. i felt a lot more like meat than i do now. when a guy is in tune with HOW to touch, is respectfull/gentle about things, or maybe even ASKS for my input, i don't mind much.

    also, no one tries to pull their cock out where i am now... and that's nice.
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    Touch any of my sensitive parts and there will be blood, oh yes, there will be blood.....


    I have 34D natural breasts with very large nipples. I don't really mind if they touch my boobs, legs, or ass, but if the guys are allowed to touch my boobs at all, they seem dead set on ripping my nips off - (leave my f*ing nips alone!!!!)- And if they can touch my ass, they often head straight for the crack.... Sooo... No two-way contact clubs for me thanks, any custie body part deliberately (on their part) comes in contact with my very sensitive nips or my precious cookie, is grounds for non-anesthetized removal of said custie body part. I let them know beforehand, and I follow through. Cuts down on clubs for me, but prevents me feeling the need to kick asses and/or scrub myself with a brillo pad after. I'll leave those places to the girls with higher tolerance, I just don't have it.

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    This is customer conversation. CO and I tried to keep it so. But it has turned into customer bash. So its locked. Any further thoughts take em over to SG

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