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    OK my hustle has totally sucked lately but one thing that has been working great (that I learned here!) is when the song ends (during a lap dance) I say "Do you want me to stop, I will but I really wanna keep going"

    I havnt had anyone say no yet.

    When I ask if they want ANOTHER dance they tend to say no. But it seems like guys (exspecially when you can tell he was really into the dance and me) cant tell you to stop. Its like to hard.

    This one guy (who was wicked hott so the dance was fun) was buyin dances left and right and everytime I said "Do you want me to stop" he would just be like... ehh what the hell keep going!

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    I prefer...."shall we continue...."

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    Default Re: "Do you want me to stop"

    how about "can I do one more for you?"

    I like it because it shows you want to do one more and that it is going to cost more...and it's not as easy to turn you down as "do you want me to stop?"

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    I always liked to lean in very close, my body against his, and softly murmur in his ear, "Let's keep going."

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    So is the consensus to phrase it positively ("do you want me to keep going?"), or negatively (" do you want me to stop?")?

    I do the former...I feel like it's just generally harder to say no than yes, but maybe I'm off.

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    It can be complicated; beacause if you say "one more?" they may stop there. If you say "keep going?" they may say yes but not want to pay you afterward. I've dealt with enough situations where the guy argued over the amount of songs danced. I said all sorts of stuff, I dont think it makes a big difference. If he likes your dance, he will keep going.
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    Default Re: "Do you want me to stop"

    well i usually pull their shirt towards me, get close to their ear, and start to heat up the dance right before the end of the song, and say quietly and cute, "keep going?" or "more?"

    i guess theres all kinds of things u can say. i think its better to say any of these things than to say 'want another dance?' cuz its too..i dont know.

    well im no pro but thats jus wut i do..seems to work.
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    yea i always end either with my boobs in their face or watever and then whisper "lets not stop okay?" and they ALWAYS agree.. a few times i'll get guys that do say no but thats the buisness i guess. this aproach works way better then stopping completely and asking for another.
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    Default Re: "Do you want me to stop"

    If they do say to continue.... don't you have to stop and collect the money for the next set of dances?

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    I dont stop and collect until the end when we are all finished because I dont want to lose the momentum and give him a chance to change his mind. I know I may be setting myself up for problems, btu Ive never had one yet, guys have alwyas paid up.
    I did learn a trick from dancerwealth that has worked really well for me.
    Instead of saying you want me to keep going or whatever, I say
    Would you like me to keep going out here, or would VIP better suite our needs? That gets me a lot of VIPs. If we move to VIP, I always make sure to collect for the previous dances before we go in.

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    In Australia, Lexi, you get paid first. In America you get paid at the end. If I were you I'd get the money up front and give it to the hostess.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Collegegirl
    I say "Do you want me to stop, I will but I really wanna keep going"
    Okay, let's look at this from a very simplistic point of view from the language being used and how the brain, specifically the subconscious, interprets it...


    "Do you want me to stop..."

    It's actually a question. Now, while some may say no to this question, some may say yes subconsciously. While some guys are caught in the moment, you are using one very key word here that's like a nuclear bomb in rapport building..."stop". It's not even so much a negative/positive issue as much as it is an issue you've forced..."stop". You then reinforce this by saying...

    "...I will..."

    By saying this, you've now reinforced the "stop" in this guys' mind. Things like, "She can stop?", "Why sould she stop, I'm having fun here?" and so on are now running through this guy's head. By the time you get to the final portion of your sentence;

    "...but I really wanna keep going", you've already destroyed so much that anything else past that is going to be more luck-based.

    Whenever I create a somewhat unique sales pitch, presentation, call it what you will, I analyze it by the plain and simple language and see if it holds water first and then go from there.

    There's a book out there which I'd like to suggest everyone get. I'll make sure I list it in this thread tomorrow when I get some time as I don't remember the exact name of it but it's one of the most brilliant books you'll ever read on language and how important it is to really analyze the very simplicities of it to understand how it impacts larger things. I think it would be a great read for you Collegegirl.

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    I like to say, let's keep going, ok.
    When he says yes, I do another dance, then before the 3rd, I suggest continuing in the vip, a take on what Vegas said, " should we go do this in private, or do you like to be watched?"
    If he does say no to let's keep going, I'll say "well, I'm all warmed up now, so I guess I'll go find someone else to play with, unless you want me so stay and play with you somemore"

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    In Australia, Lexi, you get paid first. In America you get paid at the end. If I were you I'd get the money up front and give it to the hostess.
    That's what I thought lilith... always get the money first, however if you do collect the money you lose momentum. Because they might dispute it later.
    It's such a catch22.

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    I generally use: "You want to keep going?" (sounds like a question, but actually a statement) or "Keep going?" (sounds like a question, but actually a command) or "Let's keep going" or sometimes just "More?"

    I think the technically correct affirmative-response statement would be "You want to keep going, don't you?" but for some reason this feels awkward to me.

    I love the idea of offering "keep going"/VIP as an either/or at the end of the second or third dance. Seems like even if they didn't want VIP, the other choice is another dance, so you'd end up getting at least one more.

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    Okay, I found the name of the book I mentioned earlier. It is:

    Language in Thought and Action by S.I. Hayakawa.

    It looks as though Amazon.com has it for around $10.00 in paperback which is great.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MelbourneLexi
    That's what I thought lilith... always get the money first, however if you do collect the money you lose momentum. Because they might dispute it later.
    It's such a catch22.

    hi lexi, I'm in melbourne too so i know what our customers are like, normally as i end the dance, i lean in and say "baby, i don't want to get off track here but our time's running to an end, shall we play a little longer or are you gonna make me put my clothes back on?"

    It makes it sound like i want to keep going but it's their choice, 'making' put my clothes on is a "bad" thing in everyone's eyes so we usually "Play a little longer". Once they've verbally commited that they want to keep going, They'll usually just pull out another $50 but some will ask how much to keep going? I just respond with "i can play all night but it depends on how long you want me..." they'll then name a time as in 5/10/20minutes so i can quote them. So i don't lose too much momentum, while i'm waiting for them to organise their money, i'll sit back in my chair and play with my breasts and legs so i'm not 'idle', throw them cheeky smiles and say "now i can get really hot!" it makes them anticipate what's coming.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DancerWealth
    Okay, I found the name of the book I mentioned earlier. It is:

    Language in Thought and Action by S.I. Hayakawa.

    It looks as though Amazon.com has it for around $10.00 in paperback which is great.

    i just looked up that book online here in australia. it's gonna cost me AUS$40!!!! (and that's in paperback) to get that here....um...
    is it REALLY worth it??...... i'll be pretty annoyed if i get it shipped here and it's not gonna teach me anything i don't already know...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aprilleigh
    i just looked up that book online here in australia. it's gonna cost me AUS$40!!!! (and that's in paperback) to get that here....um...
    is it REALLY worth it??...... i'll be pretty annoyed if i get it shipped here and it's not gonna teach me anything i don't already know...
    I don't know what you know, so I can't answer that. All I can say is the book is absolutely brilliant. It's not so much a "sales" book and yet if you really want to get a huge grasp of the English language, it's a must. Even for $40.00, it's a steal. You might want to check some major book stores in your area first though as they may have it already. It's a pretty popular book.

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    "We can do another....?" as I'm nodding my head yes.

    1. It's easiest to simply agree with it.
    2. It's not exactly a question
    3. There is NOTHING negative in it - all positive.
    4. It's almost like mind control
    5. I can't remember the last time I only got one dance from a guy. It's rare for me to get less than 4. Most times I clean them out

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vegas_dancer
    I dont stop and collect until the end when we are all finished because I dont want to lose the momentum and give him a chance to change his mind. I know I may be setting myself up for problems, btu Ive never had one yet, guys have alwyas paid up.
    I did learn a trick from dancerwealth that has worked really well for me.
    Instead of saying you want me to keep going or whatever, I say
    Would you like me to keep going out here, or would VIP better suite our needs? That gets me a lot of VIPs. If we move to VIP, I always make sure to collect for the previous dances before we go in.

    I do the same thing. After the first dance I ask if theyd like to keep going, if they say yes I upsell the VIP and about 80% of the time it works bc Im in vip most of the night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    I always liked to lean in very close, my body against his, and softly murmur in his ear, "Let's keep going."
    Hell yes. That's the money, right there. I add in a subtle nodding motion as I'm whispering it. Works way more often than not.

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    My approach and Grace's approach are very similar. I often say "Want some more?" or "I want to keep playing. Can we?" while I smile and grab the inside of their thigh. Sometimes I turn up the heat right before the song ends so it's harder for them to say 'no'. If he is having trouble deciding, I sit back down in his lap and look him in the eyes and give him my most seductive look while I slowly grind my hips. Totally gets them every time.

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    no matter what you -say- the best advice i can give is to be close or in a provocative position and still doing your dance while you "ask". keep the momentum going. if you stop moving and then say something it makes it *49 times easier for them to say no.

    *49 is an estimate.

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    Yeppers, ask while you are "in the dance" for sure... Our dances here are alwys timed exactly, so I know when I am at a certain point the song is about to end, I make sure I am facing him, arms around him or some bady part, and then I say "this is fun(hot, sexy, steamy, etc.), let's do it again!" It almost always works.
    I really like the idea of working into the VIP, I think I'll try that tonight! Thnx!

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