i've been dancing for 3 months and i live with my mom while i attend graduate school. i told her i was working as a waitress at a bar/restaurant called chowderhouse. that has worked well up until now.
she asked me today why i got off of work at 2 a.m. when "chowderhouse" closes at 10 p.m. apparently there is a real restaurant called chowderhouse in san francisco. after prompting i told her that after i got off at the "restaurant" i worked up the street as a cocktail waitress at the "chowderhouse bar" *smacks forehead* until 2 a.m. and that i dress in flashy clothes and high heels.
she reprimanded me for lying, saying that she was disappointed in me, etc. she asked that if she needed to contact me while i was working would she call chowderhouse to get me on the line. i said that i always had my cell phone on me and could call whenever she wanted and i'd check messages on my break (true). she spun off on the "what if you're not there when i need you" line.
oh man.
i asked my friend about what to do. he strongly suggested honesty and that things like this have a way of becoming known somehow. plus, that i should brush it off as no big deal. i'm just afraid that i'll get kicked out of the house (not because of what i do but because of how much i earn [which isn't that much yet]) and she'll always be harping on me about my work and safety, even though the bouncers take really good care of us. i work at a topless club and don't really take off my clothes. i don't do extras. i always say no to offers for sex. sadly, those things don't ease a mother's mind.
my strategy that i've been thinking of is to in a week "quit" working at the "restaurant" and the "bar" and get a "job" cocktail waitressing at a "gentleman's club"...that way she can call the real club i work at and ask for me. how does that sound? any advice? or is that more trouble than it's worth? i hate lying and i hate the stigma of my job...but i love my work. agh!



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It has been my experience that the 'general public' has a great misunderstanding about this industry. Alot of people who have not been exposed to this enviroment have nothing to go on but what hollywood (the movie Showgirls is a great example) has told them. Sex and possibly orgies in the VIP room, drugs, multipule sexual parteners, drugs, booze, drugs, prostitution, and drugs. The general "uneducated" (key word) public, in my opinion, has this idea that every S/C is a hedonistic free for all. That's not true. It's a job. That's probably what mom needs to know. If she loves you, & I'm pretty sure she does, she will understand your reasons for dancing. 

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