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    Default How Do You Deal With Rejection?

    I made $47 dollars last night. Part of the reason was because there were very few custys, but I won't blame it all on that.
    Because I started dancing around the time CH2 closed, there has constantly been a GLUT of girls. One VIP Host told me that there's 3x's as many girls as normal. As a result of the custys having SO much to choose from, by the time I get to them they're out of cash, taking a break, getting ready to leave, or waiting for a girl more their taste. The rejection, although I try my BEST not to take it personally, it has made me a bit gunshy.
    I'm a good stage dancer, great at table dances, and an excellent conversationalist. I'm not sexually aggressive, nor do I act like I wanna have sex; instead, I go for the whole "sexy-smart-wish-I-was-your-girlfriend" thing. It makes me feel like I'm not compromising myself. Yet, if it really worked, I would be making more money.
    SO...I've read all the articles, all the threads in Hustle Hut, but I need something else, something more. Any ideas out there?

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    Default Re: How Do You Deal With Rejection?

    Hmmm...All I can suggest is perhaps a new club. It's tough when there are more girls than custys.

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    Unless all those girls full of girls playing with the VLTs. It's not at all uncommon to see more girls with the VLTs than with the custies. It's all the wrong way around! Even a lame hustle at that point can get major results...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Clara_M
    Unless all those girls full of girls playing with the VLTs. It's not at all uncommon to see more girls with the VLTs than with the custies. It's all the wrong way around! Even a lame hustle at that point can get major results...
    What does VLT mean?
    I don't understand your point.

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    First of all let me compliment you on staying strong and not taking rejections personally. You can be a very attractive and interesting person and still just happen to not be the right type for a particular customer. It's certainly not a knock on you and you shouldn't think of it that way. Just stay positive and look for the customers you are the right fit for.

    Yeah it stinks that you're having to deal with so many dancers on shift and have so much competition. However, from what it sounds like (ie "taking breaks", "out of cash", etc.) at least it seems like customers are spending. It definitely sounds like you could use some help with your hustle. (In fact this thread may be better served in the Hustle Hut section.)

    Hopefully some others will be able to provide you with some helpful advice.

    A few suggestions I might try to throw out there:

    1) You mention your a great stage performer. It's always cool to start off your set with an interesting routine to attract attention, but I wonder if your spending too much time dancing for the entire club, and not leaving enough time to interact with specific customers. When guys come up to tip you, do you pause for a quick moment and introduce yourself? You may want to ask a tipping customer (especially if he makes a larger than normal stage tip) if he'd like some company when you finish your stage set.

    2) You may need to try to get better at working the floor and recognizing the guys who have an interest in you. As you walk around who seems to be checking you out, making eye contact with you vs. looking away, and who's smiling back when you smile at them. Becoming good at recognizing who's interested and who's not will help you be more efficient in spending time with the right customers.

    3) Have you established any working relationships with the waitresses or the bartenders? You mentioned having problems finding guys with money left to spend, and often times waitresses can be very helpful in pointing out who's got cash and who's spending. Be sure to tip anyone who helps you find a customer.

    Those are all that I can think of for now. Like I said, hopefully some others will have some ideas for you to try.

    Best of luck!
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    Slutty works, try it out!

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    I am relatively a newbie, 5months in the industry and I don't take rejection personally but it just makes me very self conscious about myself and I start to compare myself and I end up waisting money doing something to fix something. I did have this one day I go rejected for almost the whole night and I got pretty emotional. When I am feeling not so confident for whatever reason I just talk to myself and I complement myself until I am back to my old self. There is one quote I found a while back and I just love it cause it kinda makes me understand. I even say it to customers sometimes, "A man picked up a real 200k diamond, looked at it from top to bottom and threw it back on the ground." Basically you can't be bothered by people who are unable to see your worth and throw away a perfectly good diamond for a rock

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    Stripping is similar to an acting job. Where I work I have multiple personalities, 3 accents(british,american&local). Its not very hard to maintain because I spent a considerable amount of time in each place so I can provide accurate facts for those in doubt. Anyways the point of that is I think customers spend more if your just this hot girl who he is into because I just adjust quickly and I change into what I think is more attractive and suitable for the custie. Every custie comes to the club for different reason and sometimes he wants the opposite of what he gets at home or the same etc. So I just make conversation (being as neutral as possible) with a custie for 5-10minites max and after I have an idea of what he is like and what personality would make me more money. I tend to get some previous custies&I forget who I was (its kinda funny) but then I don't like having regulars at all!

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    I saw you're in DC. If traveling is an option GTFO.
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    ^ I agree. I fail to understand how anyone who's not OTCing on the side can afford to pay any of their bills out here.

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    Default Re: How Do You Deal With Rejection?

    ^ by hustling your ass off.

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    Isn't DC no contact? I'd be fucked.
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    ^ not only is it no contact, but a majority of clubs out here are no-lapdances clubs. I thought it was awesome at first, and now I'm anxiously looking forward to having the opportunity to do lapdances again.

    ETA: maybe some people can do really well with the super legnthy conversation hustle. I just personally find it freaking ridiculous.
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    Default Re: How Do You Deal With Rejection?

    I'm fairly new and I still take it person at times with rejections..

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    Move along. "Next!"
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I saw you're in DC. If traveling is an option GTFO.
    Well, that was 8 years ago when she posted this. She probably GTFO a long time ago.
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