...Or whatever the phrase happens to be. My French is bad.
It's just what I get when I say "NO kissing. NO kisses. Not on the boobs, not on the stomach, NOT on the CHEEK". I don't care if it's 'zee culture'. Bullshit. You don't kiss your car salesman, do you monsieur? I just get so much flak from refusing the customary both cheek kissing thing after the dance. Hard enough to keep mouths off me during the dance. I know it's a relatively accepted thing around here, but I can't handle it. I won't (not unreasonable). Even if it's on my cheek. It's not the family party cheek kissing anyway. They try to make it all wet and gross and pervy (like the 'continental' hand kissing crap they try). Keep the spit to yourself, misters.
So last night I back away and say "no, sorry, I was raised out west. We don't do that" (a half lie...technically Ottawa is west of Quebec, right? heh).
That was just a rant I guess. Sometimes I think their being offended by my refusal to allow this stuff is even more offensive to me. Strangely though, by saying that I'm just not used to engaging in kissy culture (like it were my short coming and not their's for being gross) was far less offensive to the guy than my usual (uh, no...why? because I don't like it, that's why).
So I guess to excuse my complaining as a roundabout reason for writing this- uhm, what are the 'least offensive' ways to personally enforce certain boundaries that are not common? I keep reading many of you on here saying you manage to swing less contact than is the norm in your region, club, or whatever. How on earth do you do this without alienating customers who expect more (as in, the majority of customers)? Like, how do you say 'no' without causing offence (re- without losing dance money)?



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