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    Hey ladies,

    This is something that has confused me from the moment I first put those stillettos on and stepped on the stage. Why would a man get up from his seat, stand up at the stage, tip you and then not want a dance or company from you when you get off your set? I feel that if someone is tipping you then they're interested. So why would someone who's not interested in you, bother to go up to tip you? Does anyone have any good reasons or ideas on this one?

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    Some guys tip to be polite or because they like your show, but they aren't interested in conversation or lapdances. Believe it or not, I know a lot of guys like that. My boyfriend is one. He'll go to the club if friends are going, but he's not really interested in lapdances. He just tips onstage because he knows the girls don't work for free.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    some people would rather get a 10 second tittie slap than a dance. i tip lots of girls that i know i not going to get a dance from & if i do want a dance i let them know

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    a lot of guys feel more comfortable tipping stage rather than having personal entertainment. and sometimes a guy thinks you are very hot but feels obligated to his atf or has preconcerted with another dancer and just drops you a nice stage tip for looking so good.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    Sometimes when I'm in the fav's club she is busy, so I have to entertain myself somehow. So if I see another dancer who strikes my fancy I'll get up, move to the tip rail, and have some fun. This is especially true if there isn't anybody else tipping or if its obvious some guys are just sitting back getting a free show. This does make for some akwardness at times when I have to explain that I'm not interested in anything else.

    At other clubs I go to, I may tip in order to get closer the dancer. Sort of a mini audition. This is especially true when I don't wear my glasses into a club.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    i have a few customers in our club that tip purely because they appreciate your dancing and want to show it. they know that a few kind words don't mean much unless accompanied with cash in this industry.
    tell, me,,,, if they were to walk up to a girl on stage just to say, "you dance very well and i enjoy watching you".... how many girls would say, great, wanna dance? if he then says no, that compliment just came from some 'tightass' who wanted a perve, in her eyes.

    If a guy approaches you on stage, slips a few dollars in your garter, smiles, then walks away, how good does it make you feel? You feel appreciated and not like just another piece of meat that someone wants to check out. It's lovely knowing someone appreciates and admires you just for the way you move or look up there on stage. without wanting anything in return.
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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    Ahhh, makes sense, never thought of that before!!! Thanks for the info! It always confused me before and now I know!

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    i take it as a very huge compliment. more so than someone buying a dance for me. if someone tis me on stage, when i get down, i go straight to them and thank them for the tip. i will ask if they are interested in a private show if i've never met them, but if they say no i just thank them again and tell them to enjoy their night.
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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    I tip quite a few girls whom I have no intention of getting dances from. Not only is it polite, but it shows to other girls watching that you're spending money. And it beats sitting there on your hands.

    In some instances a gal may be "on the bubble" for dances, but I need to gauge from my interaction I have with her whether she'd be a good candidate or not. If she's warm and inviting, I'll probably tip her again and invite her over, if she's cold and aloof, I probably will turn her down even if she does come over.

    And yet in other instances, I just won't buy dances because they're too pricey or have otherwise undesirable terms of sale. After a disapointing trip to my home club last week, I hit another place across town and enjoyed the eye candy, tipping girls at the rail.

    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876
    I feel that if someone is tipping you then they're interested.
    That's a good policy to follow. Its always more mathimatically sound to go over and find out. Even if they're not interested, you can always thank them for their courtesy.

    And be sure to drop them your stage name so they remember it. Next time they're in, they might go for that dance.
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    I've heard enough criticism about the guys who sit and watch and don't tip. I'm going to get up and tip now and then whether I have interest or not.

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    One thing we must remember. No customer OWES us anything. Everyone has a different budget. Some guys feel it is disrespectful to buy dances if in a relationship, so they will tip girls on stage.

    Some guys just don't buy dances. Every guy is not into blowing big chunks of money in a strip club. That does not make him an asshole. I appreciate guys who are courteous enough to tip. And when a dancer is friendly and gracious when a guy does tip, the next time he comes in he may buy several dances. I have had a lot of customers who like me, but aren't able to spend money every time they come in the club. One time they may spend $100 on dances, maybe more, and the next 2 visits they just tip me on stage. But when they build their money back up, since I am nice to them, will spend a chunk on me again.

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    ^^^ Excellent points Tina!

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    I actually encountered a situation like this not too long ago.

    I was travelling on business and happened to be near the first SC I had ever been in years ago, so I decided to drop in for old times sake.

    To be honest I rarely get dances any more. I appreciate the entertainment and good company aspects of the SC and don't really need to have a dancer grinding all over me to have a good time.

    When I entered I pulled up a seat near one of the satellite stages and just sat back and enjoyed the show tipping each of the dancers. I had arrived between shifts, and during the cross over a dancer arrived who I remembered from a few years ago. I always considered her to be "crazy cool" and she was (and still is) one of the best stage performers around. The club has a 30' clear height and stage poles that go all the way to the ceiling. She's one of the few dancers who would work her way all the way to the top and do pole tricks at the top of the club. ... When she came by I tipped her well.

    As one might expect she thought I'd be a good candidate for a dance so after her set she approached where I was sitting. Not wanting to waste any of her time, I mentioned that she was welcome to join me for a drink, but that I wouldn't be getting any dances that night. LOL - The expression on her face was clearly one of confusion. This went on for the next few sets ... she'd take the stage, I'd tip her well, and she'd come over to see if I wanted a dance. The idea that I was content to just tip her well on stage really just seemed foreign to her. At one point she even offered to take me back for a free dance, as if she owed me one for all tips she had gotten on stage. Eventually she realized that I really did just appreciate her and her stage shows that much, and didn't need to get a dance.

    As the night wore on, my tipping started to attract even more attention to her stage shows so she started to bank from other customers as well. Instead of looking for private dances she kept bugging the DJ to let her cut into the stage rotation.

    The kicker to the evening was when the club ran its 2:1 specials. At that club it becomes like musical chairs and the dancer without a customer is left having to do a stage set in front of basically an empty house while all the others are giving dances. While most dancers dread having to be the sacrificial lamb during the 2:1, she actually just started volunteering to do the sets right off without looking for a customer, knowing I'd be at stage side to tip her. LOL - I of course made sure she made more on stage than the dancers who were packed in on top of each other out back.

    On my way out just before I left I threw her a big money shower and she jumped off stage to give me a big hug and thanked me for making it such an easy night for her. Then with a wink and a smile she said next time I'm around to stop by and she'd treat me to a dance. LOL. Heheh.

    The moral of the story is don't discount those stage tippers.
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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    thanks for your tips everyone. I never discounted anyone who tipped me money, and I always smile, say thank you, blah, blah. I guess I was naive to think everyone who tipped mush obviously be interested in a dance. Now there was this exception, there's this regular at our club who's so nice and a sweetheart, he goes around to every stage and tips every girl a dollar and does this all night long and then gets maybe 4-5 dances all night. He comes in sometimes every week and sometimes it'll be every couple weeks. Now, he did like getting dances from me but it took him a while to be one of "his ATF's", when I first met him the one thing that always stuck out in my mind about him was that he tipped EVERY girl on stage a dollar whether he liked her or not, he wanted every girl to feel appreciated for working hard. I have to say that I guess I was naive to think that every other guy wanted a dance if they were going to tip.

    Is there a way to tell by body language that they're not interested in dances after they tiip you? I always go around and thank each customer but I'm wondering if I should ask if they'd like a dance later on in the night to see if they'd be a tipper customer or a dancer customer or both.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    Well one thing I would say is that $1 tip is prolly hit or miss. Yeah, more likely to get a dance if he wasn't immediately at stage side and had to get up to give it to you. Better indications of interest are larger than normal stage tips, like $10 or $20+.
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    We complain enough about the guys who just sit around starting at us without tipping, we ought to cut the stage-tippers some slack. Stage-tipping is so uncommon where I work, that you can almost divide customers into stage-tippers and private dance-buyers. You're almost better off assuming that guys who tip the stage are ONLY there to tip the stage, and won't buy dances. If they tip me more than once, or more than $1 and act very interested in me, I try to find them and ask for a dance, but it certainly doesn't bother me if they say no.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tina
    One thing we must remember. No customer OWES us anything. Everyone has a different budget. Some guys feel it is disrespectful to buy dances if in a relationship, so they will tip girls on stage.

    Some guys just don't buy dances. Every guy is not into blowing big chunks of money in a strip club. That does not make him an asshole. I appreciate guys who are courteous enough to tip. And when a dancer is friendly and gracious when a guy does tip, the next time he comes in he may buy several dances. I have had a lot of customers who like me, but aren't able to spend money every time they come in the club. One time they may spend $100 on dances, maybe more, and the next 2 visits they just tip me on stage. But when they build their money back up, since I am nice to them, will spend a chunk on me again.
    wow... the voice of reason.

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    i like it when guys tip me onstage. Its not a common practice where I am--so I get bored and often feel like a piece of furniture up there b/c there is no interaction with customers. No one wants to sit next to the stage. Tipping makes me feel like you guys actually care...=)
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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    I must add that even a large tip is no indication. Multiple times, I've gotten tips over two hundred from a guy on stage who didn't want dances. You really actually never know.


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    I love stage tippers, even if they don't get dances. I get to keep all of it! Tip away, the more stage tips the better! I lament the passing of the days when tipping at the stage was the norm, being up there just wandering around while non-tippers gawk at you takes all the fun out of it and puts me in an unpleasant mood. It helps to feel appreciated up there. I also feel that guys tipping at the stage gets others more interested.

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    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876
    Hey ladies,

    This is something that has confused me from the moment I first put those stillettos on and stepped on the stage. Why would a man get up from his seat, stand up at the stage, tip you and then not want a dance or company from you when you get off your set? I feel that if someone is tipping you then they're interested. So why would someone who's not interested in you, bother to go up to tip you? Does anyone have any good reasons or ideas on this one?
    If I can see the stage from where I'm sitting or standing, and I've watched most of the dance, then I feel I should tip the dancer. I know she is working and the least I can do is tip a few dollars for the entertainment.

    Sometimes, I'm not interested in anything more. Other times, I use those few moments when I'm tipping at the stage to decide if I'm interested in getting a few dances. I'm drawn more to a dancer's personality than her looks (and I know I'm not the only man who feels this way); so a few moments of personal contact helps me make the decision to buy a few dances or not.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    I have found a lot of guys just tip (well) for the stage show but dont get dances.

    I understand that because as long as they are spending money on the dancers wether it be good stage tips or dances.... well thats all that matters!

    A lot of guys enjoy the stage show and just dont get dances.... I have a few custys that tip me up to $10 during my set but dont get dancer with ANYONE.... They prefer the stage show and I dont see anything wrong with that.... I like when they come up more then once to incurage other people to tip.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    To be honest,If a guy is only willing to tip on stage than your probably not really his type,he doesnt want to spend the big bucks to get a lap dance,but feeels your cute enough to deserve a tip when on stage.

    As a customer,I know if I tip a girl on stage but refuse to go into VIP,thats what it means.if Im truely attracted to a dancer,I wlll most definatly get a lap dance.

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    Default Re: tipping me on stage but doesn't want a dance, what's up w/ that?

    After a while, you see every possible scenario. I just don't worry about it anymore. I'm there by my own free will trying to make some money, and they are there to spend it as they see fit.
    I can't control individual spending patterns, but what I can control is the quality of my presentation and appearance. If they tip and want a dance, great. If not, whatever.

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