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    So, Sunday I worked (Sunday isn't a bad day to work here). I went in all pumped and ready to make money...I turned down dinner with a friend because I wanted to go make money, I was totally in the mindspace.

    I got to work, did my first show, it was a good show, fine. I went down onto the floor to do dances and...froze. I couldn't do it! Talked to one guy, didn't even ask him for a dance, and just booted it to the changeroom! I spent the rest of my shift, except for my shows, watching CSI.

    What the hell? This is so not like me, and I don't understand what happened! I'm usually the one who's ALWAYS on the floor. Nothing went wrong, the competition wasn't fierce...I just wasn't mentally able to hustle. At that particular time, the mental stress of hustling wasn't worth the almost guaranteed return.

    So...was this an anxiety attack or something? Has anyone experienced this? I'm worried, I don't want it to happen again!

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    It's definitely happened to me...though I think in my case it has more to do with my occasional inability to let men touch me/ look at me (every once in a while I get really weirdly sensitive). I just...can't talk to them. I'll sit in a corner, and if they ask for a dance, so be it. Or else I just go home if I can.

    I've had pseudo-panic attacks when dancing for guys before. It's horrible. My whole body clenches, my teeth start chattering, I jump and smack at their hands. They're just like "...the fuck?", and leave when the song finishes. I dunno what does it, I just snap. It's moments like those where I think I can't really be a dancer much longer...

    ...but that's rare, and it's not the hustling per se. I don't know if it's all that comparable.

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    I think everyone has off days.....it's like...the writer's block of dancing. Even the best of ever industry has their days. I don't really have anything wise to say about it or the power to diagnose an anxiety attack....but I hope it goes better next time...:hugs:

    At least CSI was on.

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    yeah, sometimes i'll read stripperweb and then go to work all excited to try out some of the good tips. then i'll walk into the club and it'll be moderately busy, and i'll get intimidated for no reason and hide in the dressing room and make excuses to myself like "it's not that busy, i'm not missing out on any money" and then not even hustle or do anything!!! but these feelings usually go away in a few days or a week, and then i hustle my ass off and do awesome. so i think it's just being a girl, sometimes our confidence goes down or we just cant get in the mood. it is mentally tiring (for me anyway) to be a sex goddess every single freaking night.
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    well sometimes i sort of get like that. i get so sick of guys talkin 2 me or trying to touch me, ask me on dates, tell me im beautiful etc...that i just sit alone, drink a shirley temple and watch the tv. i dont smile...i probably look very unapproachable but i dont give a shit.

    haha thats usually thats at the very end of the nite. haha.

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    Yes, this happens to me occasionally too. And it's not just with stripping. It's happened with other jobs and with school. Everything will be going along fine and then I'll suddenly freeze up and feel incapable of doing any more. Luckily, this is pretty rare, but I think it's something along the lines of burnout. It's your body and mind telling you that you are pushing yourself too far and you need a break. It must be a defense mechanism or something. I think it's pretty normal, especially in high stress environments.

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    Well, I'm glad it's not just me. Embarassingly though, this was the only night I've worked in 10 days, and I'm not scheduled to go back for another 2 weeks. So burnout is a pretty lame excuse for me to use!

    I'm going to write it off as an anomaly and hope it doesn't happen again!

    Molly, your attacks sound terrible. Do you think they could be related to burnout? It's too bad you don't enjoy stage, because you'd be an amazing feature, and then you wouldn't have to deal with the customers as much.

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    Word jess, this happens with any job I think, definately had it happen on my 'normal' one too. I'll be doing my speil and suddenly I just blank out, forget my lines and/or very basic computer functions, annoying as hell, that's when I take my break lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver

    Molly, your attacks sound terrible. Do you think they could be related to burnout? It's too bad you don't enjoy stage, because you'd be an amazing feature, and then you wouldn't have to deal with the customers as much.
    Uck, it's just these weird anxiety issues. I've been on wellbutrin for a couple months now and that helps. I don't know if it's customers so much as when I'm in a state, everything is too much. I used to have mini attacks on campus too. Now that I'm used to school, it's better, so maybe I just need more time to get used to dancing. When I start to feel weird, I do math equations in my head and that distracts me!

    I don't know if that would help your kind of lapse too? Start doing stuff in your head to distract you from whatever is the bother, and so conversely motivate yourself to work?

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
    ...Embarassingly though, this was the only night I've worked in 10 days...
    Well put it that way, I definitely think it was some form of an anxiety attack.

    A friend of mine who has danced for over 7 years still has anxiety attacks during her first shift back after a short break. It's not an easy job, and sometimes you're mind and spirit just aren't in the right place to handle it. It can be especially hard to find that groove after a bit of a break. Definitely nothing wrong with you and it does happen from time to time to the best of 'em.

    Hope everything goes well during your next shift.
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    This happens to me sometimes during the week before my period. I get in this mood where I don't want to talk to anyone and I don't really care at all!! Normally, I'm one of the hard working higher earners in my club, but sometimes, I just want to sit in the dressing room and eat bad snack food and talk to everyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
    this was the only night I've worked in 10 days, and I'm not scheduled to go back for another 2 weeks.
    When I haven't danced in a while my first night back is usually below average. I also have freeze-up moments, usually early in the night when the club is slow and I'm not really in the zone. I'll sit down with a customer and attempt conversation and just get monosyllabic replies and no eye contact...later in the night I might be in the mood to coax him out of it, but sometimes early in the shift I'll literally run out of things to say and just get up and walk off.

    Don't sweat it. It was just one of those nights -- they happen to everyone. Next time you work, things will be back to normal.

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    yep they happen to me too. What sucks is that I can never tell when they're going to happen-it kinda sneaks up on me.
    I wonder if there is some way to detect them?
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    [QUOTE=xoxoGracexoxo]I'll sit down with a customer and attempt conversation and just get monosyllabic replies and no eye contact...later in the night I might be in the mood to coax him out of it, but sometimes early in the shift I'll literally run out of things to say and just get up and walk off.[QUOTE]

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    I went through a period where it would happen more often than not. I'd have to rely on money from my stage dances. Thankfully, this happened when there was plenty of money in the club.
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    This happened to me last night and it was horrible...and it's nowhere near the first time. Some nights the confidence just isn't there for me I guess...

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