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    Sad Oh No!!!!!

    Oh my god. Oh. My. GOD! Fuck Fuck fuck.........
    So my roomate and I attend a VERY small catholic university. Accordingly, I have chosen to hide my profession from everyone at my school, including her.

    A big reason I keep it hidden is because I am afraid of losing scholarship $, etc.....

    I thought I was doing a pretty good job concealing it (I told her I was a waitress), but she must have found out because she is now telling EVERYONE that I'm a stripper. I can't believe this!!!!!
    WTF?!!!!! I don't know what to do.... Should I confront her? She is from a very conservative/affluent family and seems to have had everything handed to her... So I'm sure she would have a hard time understanding where I'm coming from.

    I want to curl up and die Oh god.

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    How did you find out everyone knows? Yes, I would definately tell her that I do not appreciate her telling my business. I'd also get in her face and tell her to keep my name out of her mouth!

    I dont understand why people do stuff like this..sheesh! Good luck with whatever you do.







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    My advice- corner her in the bathroom (make sure no one is around), say, "Listen you [insert expletive here] I do not appreciate your sh*t-talking. You better shut up or you'll be sorry."

    Add physical punctuation if needed.

    I bet you money she'll suddenly fall quiet.

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    When the cat is out of the bag, it can never be undone. Don't ever believe that anything you do will ever go undiscovered. In today's global instant communication and people tripping over each other, and cameras all over, everything you do will be seen.

    The rule is, "If you can live with it being published in your local paper, then do it."
    If not then .......

    I am so sorry you were found out. I know it must be incredible painful.

    I don't know if you are in N.O. but I know that many a young lady from Loyola has been outed in the quarter.

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    damn... thanks for the input guys. maybe I'll just suffocate her in her sleep (j/k)

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    I had an incident like this happen to me last year.. not as bad as yours. (i go to a huge university..) I pretty much told her this: Only one person knows what I do for a living (not true) and that person is you. so if i EVER hear that anyone else knows I"ll know it was you right away." of course after a few months she started runnin her mouth and I just told her to "keep my fucking name outa her mouth and what the fuck I stopped dancing 2 months ago!!"

    this way theres nothing else for her to tell since i supposedly had stopped dancing. lol. i guess it helped a lil that i had an assault charge awhile back that she knew about. LOL.

    keep us posted on when you confront her!
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    A guy from class saw me on stage last year. And my department is miniscule (but so is the city, so I knew the risk I was running). He never said a thing...we've never spoken either, but he won't make eye contact with me now. Hee hee.

    Uhm, a couple of other people I know at school know I'm a dancer. One asshole likes to ask loudly about 'how business is going' every time class starts. I don't care. No one listens anyway.

    I guess I'm a fatalist that way. If all my profs found out, whatever.

    You just have to ask yourself what's the worst that could happen? Would everyone really BELIEVE it? Just DENY DENY DENY if the knowledge really would ruin you (could they actually expel you on those grounds? It seems pretty backwards?). Seriously, DENY it until it's proven to be the case, and how could she do that? She saw some shoes or something? Just say it's for a costume. Anything like that. Unless someone that has picture proof, you can deny. If someone saw you at a club, say it must've been a girl who looked like you.

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    Agreed: deny deny deny.

    A guy in my building spread it around to my condo council (of which I'm now prez) that I'm a stripper...(he came into my apt to install security software and Stripperweb was up, lol). Then another lady saw my costumes in the laundry. So I told everyone I do pyrotechnic shows at downtown clubs, and pointed out that I can't be a stripper because I have small boobs.

    Feature costumes for sale!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay2006
    Well looks like no school money. You can just be a stripper for life now.
    You ARE a stripper, if so much to lose is at risk then maybe you shouldn't have been a stripper.
    Fights and threats are going to make matters worse. Want a criminal record or a scholarship....but thats just my opinion and I could be wrong.
    Wow harsh but kinda of true.

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    OH for F*ck's Sake.

    Plenty of people have things to hide. It's not fair that women get fired or kicked out of school for being dancers. But "life's not fair."
    I still vote you "put the fear of God into her" (heh) OR claim she is totally jealous and insane. She saw you naked accidentally and ever since she has been acting weird. She's attracted to you and you thwarted her advances, hence her crazy lies. Hell, SHE might end up getting kicked out of school in the end. LOL

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    Jay is being as asshole. Don't listen to him.

    If you get confronted by the school and they have incontrovertible evidence, you should try the repentent sinner routine. Catholics eat that shit up like its pizza with holy water as a topping.

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    wow, i didnt think there would be people like jay on here. thats real cute.

    before i started dancing, i waitressed at the hustler club. i was student teaching at the time, and apparently other girls started talking, and my supervisor said something about it. she tried to pretend like she didnt care "as long as i wasnt going to my school in a bunny costume or anything" but if she didnt care why would she have said anything in the beginning? its retarded, dont they understand that we do this because its good money, flex. schedule, and everything else? its not like we're 2 cent hookers on a corner somewhere and i was prostituting myself to the kindergarteners!

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    Jay is indeed being an asshole by suggesting you have no other option in life now. Good going. Look into off-campus housing so you can avoid this nonsense next semester. If confronted deny that you are dancing at this time. You can say you're trying out various odd jobs. Don't think this will automatically end your studies.

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    u think she might have seen on your computer history that you came to SW? when i visit my parents i have to make sure i clean out the history so no one will see i go to a stripper website. i mean if you try to look at it from the outside, clues do add up...your clothes, being gone all night/day...u gotta be on point more when your hiding your whole profession! i hope this dont destroy your whole reputation...if it does then dont do anything too bad to her...maybe just cut her hair off while shes sleeping or put bleach in her shampoo or something....ya know, not anything too dramatic

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    If she's conservitive, then she shouldn't be gossiping! Tell her off, and point out that spredding roomers, ture or not, is still a bitchy thing to do
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay2006
    And two why are so many strippers afraid to admit that they strip. If you're so afraid then find another type of job. To put it another way, if your life is going to change drastically if you're found to be a stripper, don't do it.
    i dont think its necessarily that we're afraid, at least not in my case. i have no problem telling most people, BUT i want to be a lawyer and go into family law. and we all know there are judgemental people out there. secondly, while it's my life, i would never want my parents or family to know, just becayse i know how much it would hurt them! what they dont know doesnt hurt them. but i, along with many other girls i know, are not afraid to admit it because we're ashamed or anything else like that. we just like to save ourselves the trouble of dealing with other people's nasty reactions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    OH for F*ck's Sake.

    Plenty of people have things to hide. It's not fair that women get fired or kicked out of school for being dancers. But "life's not fair."
    I still vote you "put the fear of God into her" (heh) OR claim she is totally jealous and insane. She saw you naked accidentally and ever since she has been acting weird. She's attracted to you and you thwarted her advances, hence her crazy lies. Hell, SHE might end up getting kicked out of school in the end. LOL

    Hahaha! That is what I was thinking, too! Maybe spreading rumors that she is a closet lesbian that is trying to black mail you into sleeping with her or something. Maybe even file to have your room switched because her constant "sex talk" about strippers and strip clubs is making you feel very uncomfortable.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay2006
    Well... (The rest of it deleted at request of author)
    That's more than harsh, it's just mean. Especially coming from a man. That's the last thing I'd want to hear right now. Life is not black and white. It's not Go to school or be a stripper. We can and will do both. Shit happens and you deal with it, you don't just give up on your dream.

    I agree she can't go kicking asses. Especially if this chick has money and probably parents who would be happy to sue if anything happened to their spoiled little princess.

    There has to be a more subtle way to handle this situation. Maybe find out some dirt on her. Start a rumor that could destroy her credibility. Move out at the very least.
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    It did occur to me that extreme force might be a bad idea. & Of course after scaring the crap out of Little Miss Blabbermouth, it might not be possible to share a room with her.
    BUT if you don't stop her she'll just keep on blabbering until too many people are wondering.

    I feel bad for you $$$magnet but do what you gotta.

    I really wonder why she would bother to start gossiping in the first place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by $$$magnet
    A big reason I keep it hidden is because I am afraid of losing scholarship $, etc.....
    What your roommate is doing is totally wrong and I'm sorry to hear you're going through that. But if you've received scholarship money based on financial need (a need that your school determined by you excluding your stripper income) I think you could have bigger problems on your hands than everybody whispering behind your back.


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    I agree with confronting her. I dont think you need to threaten, but definatly use firmness and looking mean like 'Dont fuck with me" as you make your point.
    Alternitively you could brush it off when people mention it with a carefree attitute (you dont have to admit to anything or answer to anyone btw!) and add "Oh my room mate said that? She's just a freak, you know she >>insert nastly / embarresing little lie here about her<< I wouldnt take anything she says too seriously. And wait for her to confront you (-:

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    would you seriously lose your scholorship thru your occupation? do you honestly want a freaking ascholorship from such a small minded group of people anyways?!

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    LoveSexMoney has a good point & so does mermaidnz. I'm assuming you can cover your tracks moneywise......but maybe it would be a blessing in disguise to leave such a small religious school. Did you just go there out of convienience, or did you really want to be there, studying something particular?
    You could be happier & have less trouble with room mates at a state school, which also tend to be freehanded with scholarships for deserving canidates.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mermaidnz
    would you seriously lose your scholorship thru your occupation? do you honestly want a freaking scholorship from such a small minded group of people anyways?!
    That is the kind of "Freedom" everyone in politics is screaming about in Washington DC, that we are fighting to preserve. Sure, you can be free to do anything you want, so long as you do what we tell you to.

    I lost a job once because another employee "caught" me dancing between two guys at a night club. It was considered "unseemly" behavior for a retail sales clerk of that company. Uh huh.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    How are they going to prove you dance, anyway? Is a representative of the school going to come visit your work? Your roomate doesn't know which club you're at, right? Very hard to actually prove.

    Furthermore, since we are dealing with a religious school, if you do get caught- and I mean red-handed, make a big deal about atoning for your "sins." Tell them you have sought counseling. Blame your childhood. Tell them you are now volunteering at a women's shelter or some crap like that. Basically take a cue from every celebrity/politician that has fucked up recently. It seems to work for them, no matter how heinous their wrong-doing.

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