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    Default Another Observation.

    I was sitting in Detroit airport on my connection to St. Louis today when I was gifted by the conversation of five gentlemen.

    Not going into detail about the conversation and it's buildup, but the bartender/waitress (whom I was heckling about hiding the pancakes from me on the menu) and I where intrigued by the comments four out of the five gentlemen where making.

    The conversational material was "My wife sucks, don't get married because your sex life goes to hell"

    Now, the conversation was aimed at a young gent who was apparently single. While listening to this conversation (3 out of 5 where decent material. No #4s. No #2s...more like the guys frustratedbunny would like) it was noted to be very ciclical. 4 Complaints and 1 Dispell of the complaints followed by the Dispeller (correct grammar?) praised his live in girlfriend, followed by 4 similar justifications and then repeated.

    Of course the waitress/bartender, now knowing me, dared me to say something. And those who know me, know I carry very little shame and am intrigued by these types of conversations anyways, so I interject:

    "So you're telling me, I shouldn't get married to this woman I tell repetedly is the most amazing thing ever?" (Note, I'm not seeing anyone, fresh out of a divorce really. But what do I care?)

    4 answered. Not even JOKINGLY said some form of don't do it.

    One gentlemen, probably the best looking one, went so far as to profess the fact that he has to start an argument with his wife in a gamble to hopes to have "make up sex".

    I addressed him directly at first.

    "If it's so bad, why stay married?"

    insert bullshit answer.

    The one dude that is happy with his girlfriend looks at me and says "I honestly don't know what their problem is." And I replied "Well that's obvious, my new friend. These gentlemen are challenged by your happyness in your relationship and it magnifies their issues in their marriages. Which I am sure they are just blowing out of proportion, probably cause you're dating a smoking hottie."

    And this kid says "Ha. Yea, she's a cutie."
    Guy1"I'm telling you, marry her and she'll just not care anymore."
    Guy2"And if you like having sex, keep the ring off."

    Then I looked at Guy2. "Why do you believe that?"
    Guy2"Cause they don't have to try to keep you." (now I decide to be funny)
    Mast"Oh cause you're an amazing catch."
    *Laughter*
    Guy3"Well you put on some weight since the marriage yourself Guy2!"
    Guy2"Yea but not that bad"
    Mast*taps his collar* "You getting this Miss Guy2?, Sir, Could you repeat what you said louder?"
    Guy2"OH SO YOU'RE THE REASON SHE'S BEEN HAPPIER LATELY"
    Mast"Are you insinuating I'm porking your wife?"
    Guy2"Well I'm not"
    Mast"Can we take Guy2 down off the cross?"

    Then Guy4 said something I don't remember what, but the kid whom was dating was like "You're all just jealous"
    Mast*Points* "Ding, tell him what he's won"
    Guy4"Who are you?"
    Mast"The spanish inquisition. Seriously, I just want to know. How long did you guys date your wives? I mean if you want me to leave fine... I'll go, but I'm getting married and I want to know if I'm doing the right thing."

    And they started telling stories of praise of how awesome their girls where.... I went over to the waitress, leaned in and said "Apparently your sensuallity is an asset that depreciates over marital assets" she replied "What assholes. I'm actually hurting for their wives" I said "Naw don't they're probably 90% talk just to look big. Misery loves company"

    So I asked pointblank....

    And I ask the people of SW

    "What is it, why is it that when you're dating, you all compare your significant others to their grater values before you're commited to them legally, then you compare them based upon their faults?"

    I got answers, but a lot of them bailed out and said "Well she's not that bad." or some form, and guy2 (the loudest of the bunch) said "I just like busting her balls." And I told him "Well sure, I understand that the grass is greaner on the other side of the fence, but I know more about your sex life than ANYONE should. I mean c'mon! Keep it to yourself man! People only know what you tell him" And that fucker replied "Well you don't know much, cause there aint a sex life." and everyone still laughed.

    I don't get it. I do from a imaginative stand point, but not in my own shoes. Even in my horrifically wrong marriage it took so many people to convince me to see her as a negative influence. I just want to know...why is it bragging rights while dating yet misery-penis-size comparison after marriage...sounds so unattractive.

    Now, of note, I keep things funny, the conversation was no where near as bad as it sounds, but I like to do shit like that, it's entertaining to me. But the observation is still there. Again I know this isn't any other case, just these guys. Why do they try to prove who settled the most after marriage. Women, when you over hear your man talking like this, do you address it?

    Open for discussion.
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    Default Re: Another Observation.

    "Familarity Breeds Contempt."
    "Monogamy=Monotony."

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    Default Re: Another Observation.

    I like #2 and #4? Did they look like Alec Baldwin?

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    Default Re: Another Observation.

    When people are in a relationship and not married, everyone, including them, remembers that monogamy is an option, not a requirement. So giving up *in a guy's case* all the pussy he can get for one pussy, puts him in a position to be heckled by his friends. So, he always comes back with all the good things his girl has to offer to get his friends to shut up and remember they're jackasses.

    When they are married, they aren't 'allowed' to have other pussy, so, they heckle their friends that aren't married, because they're insecure, unhappy, jealous, or just plain bored about settling for 1 girl. *insert jokes about lack of sex, weight gain, etc*

    Also, no one wants to admit that their relationship isn't going well because of something they did. It's much easier to say "oh i never get laid, i got married" than "i gained 50 lbs and can't find my penis anymore, so i don't get laid".

    Add all that to the fact that once one guy starts the rest are gonna follow, and you've got a full on boy's night out bitchfest
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    Quote Originally Posted by sxybrat0
    Also, no one wants to admit that their relationship isn't going well because of something they did. It's much easier to say "oh i never get laid, i got married" than "i gained 50 lbs and can't find my penis anymore, so i don't get laid".
    True that. When my fiance's boys start hassling him about getting married, they always bring up the bad things. Nevermind that these asses have allowed themselves to go to shit in the past few years, it's obviously monogamy's fault their relationships suck.

    The problem, as I see it, is that people go into marriage with unrealistic expectations. No, it isn't going to be as easy as it was the first few months/years of dating. No, your partner isn't going to look the same as they did (in my case, I got sexier ). No, you aren't always going to feel like fucking the same person for the rest of your life. All the crappy things about your partner are still going to exist and they're still going to bug you.

    The point of marriage is to find someone that can be your best friend when you're at your worst. A best friend for whom you can have big, squishy feelings. If you can manage to marry someone with whom you can fight and cry and communicate, you're pretty well set. If not, you end up in a bar, bitching to your friends about how your sex life blows and you hate each other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FrustratedBunny
    I like #2 and #4? Did they look like Alec Baldwin?
    Re-read what I said. No #2s, NO #4s they where all your type

    Sexybrat07: True enough. That's the obvious answer, I'm curious about the fallout though. This was outright whiny. Not that I'm sure I'm not guilty of the same, but I see more though. I mean don't you think it's nothing to do with the relationship just a common past time for a bunch of males to get together and bitch about their wives?

    I mean if you make the right investment in stocks and become rich over time, I know it's different, but you brag brag brag...
    Bitching about what essentially is the investment of your emotional "dollar" seems like a setup for failure. I mean, how can your partner expect to make you happy when you use the exaggeration of your lack of a quality relationship as an invitation for pity.

    I know I'm digging a bit to deep into it, but I'm doing it just for the hell of it really, since, to a degree, it's out there.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    i think bitching is for guys who were railroaded into marrying a shocker and are paying for it for the rest of their lives. i'd bitch too, in their shoes. it's like you can date a shocker and still have the option of getting away -- a lot harder in marriage. their stupid fault for marrying the wrong girl.

    guys who marry smokin' hot babes generally put up with a lot more crap and are happier about it for longer.

    my two cents.

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    Mast, I know a lot of guys that feel the same way you do. I will occasionally meet them in the strip club and they would sit and tell me how awesome their wives are, and say how beautiful she is and how her looks can blow away any woman in the strip club etc.

    I think it is sweet and cute that these guys love their wives so much and are just stopping by the strip club because shw is out of town and they are feeling a little lonely. I also think that if anyone dared to insult their wives, there would be hell to pay. You'd be better off insulting the man instead.

    I think you just ran into some guys that are clueless about how to communicate in a relationship. My husband has a bit of time telling me how he is really feeling, so I just beat it out of him (using the fur covered paddle, of course). Maybe if those guys at the airport bar would speak frnakly with their wives, there would be no issue. Unless they are being unreasonable, of course.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus
    their stupid fault for marrying the wrong girl.

    guys who marry smokin' hot babes generally put up with a lot more crap and are happier about it for longer.

    my two cents.
    God bless you. Ultimately my opinion however, I seek a higher understanding than my own mind wis willing to hand off as such.


    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Mast, I know a lot of guys that feel the same way you do. I will occasionally meet them in the strip club and they would sit and tell me how awesome their wives are, and say how beautiful she is and how her looks can blow away any woman in the strip club etc.
    Now that is just how I assume I would feel. However what you state is surely out there. And it's all in how they say it whether or not you can tell its Penis Shit or truth.

    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    I also think that if anyone dared to insult their wives, there would be hell to pay. You'd be better off insulting the man instead.
    Elaborate where that fits in, since one of my direct observations is that this describes the uncontrollable hurt that the spouse would suffer through when walking through the door to overhear one of these conversations. Yet when made known of it as an after thought it's chalked up to them just bitching. But I shit you not. Anyone of these dudes wives, if overhearing some of this shit, would be a stoic goddess to not be hurt by some of those things.


    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    I think you just ran into some guys that are clueless about how to communicate in a relationship.
    That's as obvious as your avatar is hot.
    smooth?
    No?
    Ok.

    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    (using the fur covered paddle, of course).
    This both scares and confuses me. Explain. In detail. Don't spare the dirty words where necissary.

    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Maybe if those guys at the airport bar would speak frnakly with their wives, there would be no issue. Unless they are being unreasonable, of course.
    This, of course, is always truth, unfortunatly the second sentence is always referenced as the reason no matter how small the issue. It's the reason why the man doesn't have balls, and prefers to bitch rather than solving the issue.

    This is a moment in progress only. Something will change to or against their favor.
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