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    Hi Ladies,

    My boyfriend and I have been frequenting a couple different strip clubs as of late, and I had a question. If you work in an open concept club, where there are table dances that other non paying customers can see how do you feel about that?
    I ask this because I was recently at the Sundowner Inn in Niagara Falls and I really didn't enjoy myself because I felt like the girls were being exploited. Now I don't mean that in some crazy feminist way, I just mean that the girls were working really hard for one table that paid them but then there were HUGE groups of pushy rude gawkers watching the same show for no cost. And beyond not paying the girl they're watching, it's taking business away from the other girls working as well.
    Anyway, my boyfriend couldn't understand why it bugged me so much so I just wanted to hear first hand from you ladies how much this bothers you, or if it does at all.
    Also on a related note, I was wondering how you feel about dancing for couples?
    Thanks alot!

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    sometimes having a crowd gather can be good for business, othertimes not. i think the guys that you are talking about (the ones just in it for a free perve who'll mysteriously vanish when clothes are back on) really do annoy me but at the end of the day, we have to expect that every now and again, come on....they're men. if it's the right type of crowd, they'll all be clambering for a lap dance for their own share of fun when you hop off stage so it can be profitable too.

    As far as dancing for couples, I don't mind it but a lot of dancers tend to avoid couples because the female partners tend to get jealous or clingy when we approach. Some can be flat out rude and ignore you or try to cut you down, and the drunker female patron are, the more headache. Dancing for a couple can also be a wonderful experience. The best thing a female customer can do is make sure she makes eye contact and smiles to the dancers she likes. This can give us an indication that you're approachable and won't claw your boyfriends/husbands eyes out for looking. Make sure you tip girls you appreciate on stage as well. It doesn't have to be a lot but it can indicate to a dancer that you're willing to spend and be 'a good sport'. If you do decide to go for a dance, please don't feel your partner up while we're getting naked, by all means, enjoy the dance together, but don't make us uncomfortable by making out to prove your love while we are naked. Show affection but don't get raunchy, save that for later at home.

    don't think that because you're female, you have a right to grope. If a dancer want's to get raunchier with you, she will, but only if you've shown respect (which it sounds like you would) she'll do it on her own accord.

    most of all, relax and enjoy yourself and don't worry too much about us, we're used to the gawkers
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    Default Re: Gawkers???

    I recently read a book called "Read by Lips" by Terri (I was given it by another dancer to have a read so I have no idea how to purchase the book) ......anyway... in the book the term for the type of patrons you are referring to is "seagulls"

    They're an unfortunate side-effect to "open planned" strip clubs. Just as AprilLeigh has said.. it can be a double edged sword: it can be a blessing and a bane. A blessing as it can make you look popular and this can result in more tips and/or lap dance sales at the end .... a bane when these patrons disappear once the 'show' is over (they're even too cheap to even give you a compliment! let alone tip or even possible-ly take you for a private dance).

    So when I find myself working in a club like this.. I dance a certain way so as only the paying client(s) get the best end of the deal or I actually will stop ("cover myself up" as best as I can) and stare at the seagulls (or even actually say something to them if it comes down to it).

    As for couples and/or female patrons - this topic has been covered already so just do a search and you should find enough information on it.


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    Yuppers, if they aren't buying dacnes they drive me nuts. I have sat down in my custy's lap, leaned back and whispered in his ear "That guy over there is staring while I dance for you, lets move" And I let the "seagull" see me do this. That way he knows I am talking about him, and the dirty look he gets not only from me but my custy confirms it.

    That's usually how I handle it...although, one night I did this, told my custy that some guy was drooling all over himself over the dance...my custy looks over and says rather loudly "Hey Fag, wanna quit getting a boner over MY lap dance and go find your own?"

    Me, I LOVE dancing for couples on two conditions. 1. the female should either like or at least be comfortable with other girls. 2. Expect the same treatment as a man would get...and be okay with that

    I always feel a little weird when couples come in, very nice people, ask for a dance, very polite and then suddenly it is SO obvious that the woman is straight...arrow straight...and not very comfortable with another womans breasts in her face, turning her head like they might bite her nose off! Those women I wish would just look at thier hubby and say "Hey, I'm not into TnA, so you go on and have a good time, see you after, come back horny."
    (my mini rant)




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    Some people have no manners! On more than one occasion I've had to shoo off gwakers mooching in on anther customer's dance.

    Twice, the offending patron just pulled up a chair and started offering dance suggestions to me! Both times the guys didn't know me or the customer I was dancing for.

    What goes through people's head's?


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