So any of you who to go the Strip Club have GF/Wives? if so,do they mind if you go? do they even know you go?
So any of you who to go the Strip Club have GF/Wives? if so,do they mind if you go? do they even know you go?
also,is it cheating for a non-single guy to get a lap dance? and is it cheating for a "taken" stripper to give one?





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Somewhere in the cobwebs of the blueside there is a similar post but it is eluding me at the momment.
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Is it cheating if a guy is married and gets a high mileage (i.e. groping tits, ass etc.) lapper?All depends on your relationship, if you don't tell her just to avoid DRAMA-yes it is still cheating in my book. If you know she disapproves and still do it YES it is cheating in my book. If she knows about it and doesn't have issues with it then NO it is not cheating. If a stripper is "taken" for lack of a better term and does lappers for a living, then it all depends on how the SO deals with it, and what the two parties can MUTUALLY agree upon; often it is "we can agree to disagree". From my experiences many strippers are in very unstable and or don't have serious relationships. Sometimes the JOB creates unwelcome DRAMA in their lives, and others have DRAMA they bring to the JOB... BTW, I wouldn't consider it cheating and would strongly disagree with my SO if you get some pastie only lame ass 6 foot air dance even though the lustful thoughts are still inside your heart and mind (similiar to viwing a porno); as you have not acted on any physical contact to satisfy your fantasy in time...
You make it sound like there is a big humongous contract involved.Originally Posted by laplover69
"Honey, we're going to meet with the lawyer and the stripper today, sign a few things, then the boys and I are going to have a boys night out."
Believe it or not, cheating has surprisingly little to do with strip club visit. Or the lapdance. It has to do with the emotion behind it, and the respect you portray for your SO while engaging in anything with a level of intimacy. Purchased or not.
Each marriage is different, but if you are trying to tell me a guy does not take his wife into account in when/how much/how often he goes spends and revists the strip club, you're crazy.
The hardcore fact is, if you're engaging in an act that your significant other would view as cheating, it's cheating. Doesn't matter if she sat on your lap and gave you a boner, or you drove your mind out in her in V.I.P. or even just talked to her, the hurt would be the same. And if you know your SO would be hurt by that before entering the SC and you do it anyway, doesn't matter how you argue it, she's still going to feel cheated on.
But there is also, a just-as-easy bright side. There are women out there that don't care, there are wives that are so secure in the relationships with their SO that they have very little fear of disrespect. But that's earned through consistant action and unwaivering respect. It only takes one fuckup to ruin years of that type of trust.
People are not ruled by their memories.
This question comes up periodically. I guess I'm more curious what motivates you to ask the question then I am in reading the (many different) answers again.Originally Posted by greentea
so i am a stripper...but i am also someone's girlfriend.
i'll say that i don't mind as long as he isn't going there to fulfill some sort of need that i should be taking care of...like an emotional need.
i know who the custies are, i know why they come here.
a lot come to fill the void in their sexual/emotional life. and despite the stereotype that these things are seperate for men, i'd say for a lot of regulars the two are indeed tied together very strongly.
many of these men are ostensibly single.
others tell me they don't like/love/desire their wives.
if you dont' like/love/desire me, then just leave.
so, if a long term, serious boyfriend still needs other women to fulfill those needs on a regular basis, well then that is cheating and he's kicked to the curb.
if he goes out once a month and has an exciting experience with one or several good looking girls, who cares?
even if he blows a grand, if he can take me out and make me feel loved, i don't care.
but really, i don't want my significant other filling a void in our relationship with other women instead of fixing it with me. there is no cake and eating it, too.
i'll also say that if one day i lose all desire for sex (like if i had a hysterectomy or some sort of medication) and there is nothing we can do about it then i'd probably still want the companionship of my husband...but i'd even dial the escort line for him so he could at least get his rocks off once in a while. that's different, see?
nonetheless, i agree with the earlier post, if wifey doesn't like it, then you are cheating.
if that's a big deal to you, you can't take it...suck it up or get out.
i would hope the person i marry has the same moral outlook as i, so this wouldn't be an issue. i will not take the plunge without confronting, head to head, these issues beforehand.
one customer, a traveler, told me how he'd kept this sort of thing a secret from his wife for twenty years, and now he could never tell her. i told him things could have been different...if he'd been honest twenty years ago.
I bring them to the SC. A good time is had by all. I really couldn't be with a woman that didn't enjoy strippers--I just don't need the hassle.
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I wish my SO enjoyed stripclubs, but she doesn't....and I've long ago stopped asking her to go with me.
I still go myself, and don't tell her about it.
For me, it's better that way.
Well, I think this is a hypothetical question, because what idiot would go to the club and then come home and admit it or confess?
I would be willing to bet there are a thousand things wives and GFs do that we don't ask about.




Addressing this from the perspective of a dancer in a relationship: When I was stripping, my girlfriend was okay with the idea conceptually that it's just a job, but I learned very quickly not to speak of it in much detail. She usually didn't want to hear about incidents or customers I enjoyed nor about nights that everything was a royal hassle. It's still a sore point with me because, although I think I was very good and confident about what I was doing and therefore generally enjoyed it which is its own reward, it was hard work and I felt she didn't really appreciate what I was doing to support her.
There were times when I was happy to leave work at work, but other times when I wanted to share or rant about something but didn't want to make her uncomfortable so I didn't. Even when I was able to broach a work topic and get a generally positive reaction, I could feel a point in the nature or length of the conversation when the icy shield came up and I should just move on to other topics.
I came to realize she was very insecure about the whole thing because of a feeling that I was going to find someone better than her within the social atmosphere of the club and be gone. There were many times when she would express her trust in me, and other times, when she was feeling bad because of her chronic illnesses, that she accused me of things I wasn't doing. There's an underlying reason for that insecurity, besides the sexually charged nature of the strip club, that I won't betray here. Fortunately, we're forgiving of each other's "issues" and that's one of the reasons our relationship works.
-Ev





well, sometimes it's not that simple. there may be kids involved, she still might be good company. of course, there's always the threat of being financially ass raped by her lawyers in court.Originally Posted by bellyflower
yes, there is...it's only cheating if one gets caught.Originally Posted by bellyflower
Is it not a problem that the woman have a smaller brain than a man? The government scientist Dr. Yamuka has proved it is size of squirrel. - Borat
Alan Marciano: Oh, man...(to himself) Why did I get mixed up with that bitch?
Lt. Vincent Hanna: Cause she's got a great ass and you got your head all the way up it! - from the movie "Heat".
Millions, billions...Originally Posted by Sitri
Of interest...
If you've ever watched the Sopranos, Tony Soprano constantly has a mistress going on the side, but he doesn't give a shit about them. He fucks them, grows bored, and moves on. On the other side, his wife ends up emotionally involved for a year with one of Tony's goons, but she never has sex with him. Which is the greater offense? Tough questions.
That's probably one of the most common situations. Guys like their wives as companions, but it's more like living with a buddy then a lover. They've grown apart emotionally, intellectually. Factor in kids, the cost of getting ass-raped in court, taxes, etc.,Originally Posted by mr_punk
Damn youOriginally Posted by evan_essence
Do tell!
I try to keep the SC hobby invisible - sort of like area 51.
I date strippers, especially if they love to model for me.
Parker
My SO is usually the one asking to go to a SC, so I believe I am in the minority.![]()
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