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    Ok,so when I go to the SC dancers ask me for dances all night,which is normal,every guy goes through this.However I usually lie and say "no thanks maybe later" if I am not attracted to them.

    I am really only interested in Asian and Latina dancers,so my queston comes in,should I be honest with dancers and say "hey Im real sorry but Im only interested in asians n latinas"? or is the line "maybe later" better?

    I dont want to hurt anyones feelings,from a dancers perspective which is better?

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    Tell them that you are just not interested in them. That they are not your type etc. It will save her time not coming back to you again.

    "Come back later" to most of us girls really means just that. Do us a favor as well as yourself and be honest in a nice way. That way the wrong girl isnt taking up time you could be spending with the right girl.
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    say you like asians or latinas....that's what I'd prefer if I wasn't your type.

    I'd rather be rejected than have my time wasted. This isn't real life. We don't care if you turn us down....EXCEPT if we've committed time to you or you led us to believe you might get a dance with us. Then it's not about being harsh. It's about being rude and inconsiderate.

    Plus she might get you one of her friends who is your type.

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    I agree about saying what your type is upfront. At the very least say "no", not "maybe later" when asked for a dance.

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    Definitely be honest. Many of us read "maybe later" as "maybe later" (not "no"), so honesty is appreciated -- we won't waste our time.

    If you're really worried about hurting a lady's feelings, just say, "Sorry, you're really (cute/sweet/nice/beautiful/sexy/whatever) -- I'm really into Asian and Latina ladies." You may get a few looks and nasty responses (the same as with any rejection); you'll also get plenty of "Aw, you're sure? Thanks for the compliment. Would you like me to send [so-and-so] over?"and that sort of thing.

    Just remember, no matter how nice you are in rejecting a lady, some people will take it personally (unfortunately); the rest of us will appreciate your class and your honesty.

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    I guess I'm secure with myself and understand guys have their own tastes, just like we do. So for me, a "no, thank you" saves time and needless blabble.

    (I mean, some guys offer to pay 200 dollars for u to wear the same panties for an hour a day for two weeks (not washed!!)and then give them to him, so when he has different tastes when it comes to skin color, that doesn't really suprise me in the least :p)

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    you could simply say you're waiting for another dancer thats supposed to come over.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greentea
    I am really only interested in Asian and Latina dancers,so my queston comes in,should I be honest with dancers and say "hey Im real sorry but Im only interested in asians n latinas"? or is the line "maybe later" better?
    Whatever happened to "no thank you"? Its more honest than "maybe later", just as simple, and one less syllable to speak no less.

    And it's not a friggin' date. You don't need to justify a reason for a rejection.
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    Like Doc said, just say "No thanks".

    If you feel the need to provide an explanation, you can also say, "You're a very attractive lady, but you aren't my type". Unless, of course, the dancer isn't attractive but that's very rare.

    Every experienced dancer understands that many customers usually have a certain type of entertainer in mind when they come to a club.

    I never say "maybe later" unless I mean it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish
    Whatever happened to "no thank you"? Its more honest than "maybe later", just as simple, and one less syllable to speak no less.

    And it's not a friggin' date. You don't need to justify a reason for a rejection.

    Right on. It's the customer's prerogative to say no to the girls he doesn't want dancing for him. You can be polite and still turn down a dance.

    As for finding the asians and latinas, look around and when they are on stage approach them with a nice tip and tell them to come see you when they get done. It's easy peasy.
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    Oh gawd, yes, tell her that you prefer asians or latinas. I'd rather you not waste my time and tell me to come back later.

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    NO NO NO!!!!!! Please DON't say maybe later, just say no thanks. Dancers HATE being given false hope for a dance. If you know you are not going to get a dance with a certain entertainer then don't make her assume that you will later or now. Its just inconsiderate. Be polite and just offer a no thanks if offered if a girl is just asking for a dance. If she comes over and sits just cut it short. Say, "You're really nice/pretty, but I'm waiting for______ and I'd feel terrible wasting your time." You dont need to over explain. It is your money after all. But its just wrong to waste a gals time. A "No I'm all set for the night hon," will usually do the trick too. As long as you are polite its ok. If a girl does get pissy thats her problem
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    It's amazing that a guy would even question an honest upfront answer as being too harsh. Look sweetie, dancers get lied to on a daily basis and rejection is apart of the business. I think it's quite pathetic how the majority of men in the SC find it necessary to give dancers false hope. I'm always hearing a "come back later" or some other BS line when they really mean "hell no die." It saves us a lot of time and effort if you quickly assert a "no thank you" or "I'm waiting for xyz." Please tell your friends and anyone else for that matter. Stop kicking the bucket around and just be frank. It would make our job alot easier.

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    Default Re: Is this too harsh?

    Maybe later means exactly that "maybe later", so she came back later. Tell her "No thank you" simple as that.

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    The other day I was sittin on the couch at my local strip club,waiting for the Japanese dancer to finish her conversation with a different customer,and this blonde caucasian dancer approaches me and wants to chat it up,.I told her "sorry,Im waiting for the Asian girl,talk to you later"..seemed to work better! =) thanks.

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    You see, isn't better to be straight up and honest. Saying "maybe later" only wastes her time, distracts you from your real goal.

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    You'll save us both time if you just nicely say no. That way I won't bother you again and I can focus on other people I have a chance with.

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    I usually just tell them I'm waiting for someone. If I'm not really waiting for a specific girl and they ask me who I'm waiting for I'll say, "I don't know for sure yet but I'll know her when I see her." (Sometimes it turns out to be them. )

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    Obviously, "No Thank You" is the better choice. Maybe later means come back in a little bit and we'll see. You can say no thanks, but i think you are beautiful, and give her a couple bucks. If you tip her, then tell her your "type" and she'll probably get a girl more to your liking.
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    What, it's ok for the dancers to play games but the customers have to be honest and upfront.
    I think turnabout is fair play.

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    ^^^But why say "Maybe later" when you KNOW you don't want the dancer to come back at all?

    "No thank you" is clear and easy and doesn't waste anybody's time. "Maybe later" sounds so irritatingly wimpy to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greentea View Post
    The other day I was sittin on the couch at my local strip club,waiting for the Japanese dancer to finish her conversation with a different customer,and this blonde caucasian dancer approaches me and wants to chat it up,.I told her "sorry,Im waiting for the Asian girl,talk to you later"..seemed to work better! =) thanks.
    I think you've got your answer. I'd only add one suggestion, especially relevant at new clubs you visit. To "no thanks," add "I'd like a dance from an Asian (or whatever) gal. Might you introduce me to one?" Enjoy!

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    I think most strippers would prefer if you just say no thanks Sure, some will get offended and pissy - they'd react that way no matter what when you turn them down, so might as well save everyone time and just get it over with.

    "No thanks, I'm really interested in Asian and Latina ladies" - I would give you a smile, "have fun" and move on to the next guy. If I happen to run into a hot Asian or Latina girl along the way, I'll tell her to give you a try. Everyone's happy.

    The maybe later line is the most tired and annoying one of all. Just don't use it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by no stress View Post
    What, it's ok for the dancers to play games but the customers have to be honest and upfront.
    I think turnabout is fair play.
    LMAO. Yeah, if you read this site much, you know we generally don't condone "playing" custies in the negative sense. We advise playing the games THEY want to play, but that's what they come for. You sound bitter. Maybe you should quit going to strip clubs

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    LMAO. Yeah, if you read this site much, you know we generally don't condone "playing" custies in the negative sense. We advise playing the games THEY want to play, but that's what they come for. You sound bitter. Maybe you should quit going to strip clubs

    Exactly. I don't play any games with customers. I don't tell them I will call them, go out with them, etc. The point of the strip club is to come look at or talk to beautiful women. For a fee. Wasting someone's time is inconsiderate and rude. It is like walking into the shoe store and trying on every shoe, knowing you are not going to buy anything.
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