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    Default Need help please. . .

    I've never stripped or anything like that, but I had a guy approach me at the bar last weekend who would like me to hold a private party for he and some of his friends.
    The truth is, I've only "thought" of ever doing this. Never thought I'd consider it, but he promises it's good money. I need that!
    What are some steps I should take to set up a private party? Also, I have no one else to do this with me, and I am married(and don't wanna ruin that), so everything has to be on the DL. Are there any precautions I should take as well?

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    you've never stripped before, you know NOTHING about the industry, and you're thinking about doing a private party for some random guy you met at a bar? are you crazy??

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    Gotta agree with Darcy on that one. 'Nuff said.

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    He's offered me $500 up front. I'm good at dancing, and I've watched. I was also in ballet growing up so I'm pretty flexible. I know the guy, and I'm pretty comfortable around him. I plan on doing this, but I wanted to know possibly what to do my first time around.

    Everyone's been there, so . . .

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    'watching' strippers hardly equates to being skilled enough to safely perform a private party. how long does it have to go for? what level of show do they expect, ie is it a straight show, a bath show, a dildo show, a masturbation show? have you ever attended a private party before? it's VERY different to club dancing, you'll have to be prepared for a much higher level of crowd interaction.

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    So, I should turn him down? $500? It's a straight show. A bunch of firemen.

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    When I spoke to him earlier, he said all he wanted was what he seen at the bar...minus the clothes. . . .He said that others that he works with wanted to see it too. Just to "be myself."

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    Gotta admit that sounds pretty risky to me too. Aside from what's already been said, you know this guy, so maybe he knows your husband too? Perfect recipe for loose lips to sink ships. Anyway, IF you do it, DO NOT go alone!! Take a beefy friend you trust, hire someone, whatever, but have someone at your back.

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    Okay. Thanks everyone for your suggestions!

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    I have a friend who is willing to back me on this. She wants to know though what the going rate is?!

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    this sounds dodgy. why doesn't he hire a stripper if he has $500 to spare.
    it's not like at a club with security. you are putting yourself in serious danger of being raped: group of men, alcohol, mistakedly believing that they can do what they want with you.
    if you do it, you need to take a male for security, preferably an experienced one.
    even if you know how to dance and you are obviously a hot sexy woman, you will need to work out some sort of routine or you will probably find yourself running out of ideas as to what to do next.
    i have heard guys say before "it's tradition to sleep with the stripper" at bachelor parties etc, there are misconceptions like that out there so be cautious.

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    Yes we all started from somewhere in the private party business however most of us started out waitressing or in a strip club so as to get a feel for the private party business... so as to be able to watch alot of shows and get an idea of what is expected (what is liked, what is not) and so forth. I only started doing a shows a year after I started in the private party/agency dancing as I was working in clubs prior to that and wanted to get an idea of how shows were done (etc).

    I don't think you answered the question as to how many private party SHOWS have you seen ? Seeing shows done in a strip club is totally different to seeing shows done at private parties. One major difference is that the shows at the private parties are usually more raunchy and more interactive. Plus the fact that you are going to be doing this in an unknown environment therefore you really need someone to "watch your back, clothes and money" for you.

    Granted, it does sound like you have your mind made up. If you are serious about this, then do a search... there are threads about in this section of the forum that will cover games and stuff you can do at the party.

    Are you sure that for $500 that your good friend won't be expecting you to do MORE (ie toy/dildo shows) as part of the party ??

    Around here (S.E.Qld) ... $550 buys you a duo a show for 30 minutes (generally) and a xxx toy/dildo show for 30 minutes is usually around the $300-350 mark...


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    So. . .I'm gonna do it.

    I have security (my beefy girl friend who's put two people in to a coma before--so no worries there).

    I am going to buy an outfit and all that, but now I need some ideas on what to do for my first show. I have a feeling this won't be the last, so I wanna keep it simple...kinda tease them for more.... Could you give me some ideas?

    I will be the only dancer.
    Props?
    Ideas for show?

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    do a search.. you will find more then enough information on props and ideas for shows.
    Australian Strippers WWW.MILD2WILD.COM.AU

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    Teasing them for more is for strip clubs. In parties, you want to give a good show to get more people wanting to show others that good show.


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    Plus you want to wear a decent costume/outfit as you want to make a decent impression. You still havn't answered us all about how long this show is expected to run .... that will help us give you information on what you can do during that time.

    Otherwise, if you are serious, do the search around in this section as there has been plenty of postings about props, themes, games, etc you can do.


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    And the male perspective...

    (I sometimes take a dancer to this sort of do).

    Be very aware that most guys at this party are not going to see you as a person doing this to earn some cash - they're going to see you as their stereotypical fantasy - the STRIPPER!!!!!

    Be prepared for some very personal comments, attempts to grope you, and determined attempts to get you to come to "the party afterwards". You may find the way you're treated makes you feel very uncomfortable.

    Also, be very careful that this doesn't get back to your normal circle of friends, cos the news that you've done a strip may well have a signficant effect on your existing friendships.

    In short, you can make $500, but think carefully about the emotional baggage that goes with it. If you're comfortable (and safe) doing your private party, fine. It's your decision to make. Just be aware that the consequences of you doing it may reverberate on for some time.

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    Thank you Phil-W. I realize that there is always the emotional baggage. BELIEVE ME...been down that road too many times. I haven't let anyone control my feelings in over five years. Even in my relationship now, I still hold the keys to my heart. . .but thank you, I am sure I will be in shock at these men that I know, and their behavior...but they are in much higher ranks than I (meaning hold prominent seats within my city and surrounding areas.) AND they are married. :S

    GOLDCOASTGIRL- I have had my "friend" tell them that it will only be an hour long. I found some good ideas on here. . .but I'm not sure of the music I should have. . . I'd like to have some interaction with them because I for one, I want to, and two, because they have seen me in public, and I know this would help me build on this $$opportunity$$

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    The guys being married or whatever has no bearing on how they will act and re-act to the whole situation as remember they are male first and foremost. Okay... as for music... try the Music Mix section of this forum for song suggestions.

    In all honestly only the first two songs really would be "in theme" after that it is purely a good mix of music. If you want to go the lazy route you can even just purchase one of those CDs with over an hour worth of music on it and just have them play that.


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    Be careful! guys want an ALL OUT show when they want a priv party.. they want MORE contact. they want what they cant have at the club. Stay safe!



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    Okay...I actually found some really good songs from the music mix section. Now, my question is...how do you transition from one song to the next? In a private party, where you have several men watching you, do you play the songs somewhat in a storyline? or do you have breaks between each one? do you talk to them? do you play games in between them? . . ..

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    you'd want good music playing the whole time, while you're talking and playing games

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    As a very happily married dancer, I can tell you DO NOT lie to your husband about this. It will come out! I met my husband while I was dancing to pay for college and told him the truth about my occupation and the only reason our relationship works is I have always been up front about my work. This enables him to trust me. Once that trust is broken he will think "what else is she doing?" especially in this kind of situation.

    Also, are the guys firefighters or local gov officials and businessmen. High powered political or businessmen are the WORST, they seem to have a god complex and act like you should be thrilled that they want to sleep with you. And don't count on them being nicer because you know them. Some of the people that I have known that have come to the club to see me have been bad (and they were very nice people outside of the club). They will expect favors because you are friends.

    I think you should take a big guy even if your friend if beefy. Men will respond differently to another man in a situation like this.

    Parties require lots of talking, so I would hit a local club for a night and check out how the girls deal with customers. It will provide some insight as this is totally different than how you would interact with a guy at a nightclub.

    Good Luck!
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    The music is background noise and gives you (the dancer) some sort of indication as to where you are as for time. If you are doing your job properly, the guys won't even "hear" the music nor remember it.

    It's more professional to have the songs "bleed" into each other/have no breaks IMO. I've seen dancers here do shows where there are breaks in the songs and it is a little wierd to have that silence even if it is only 10 seconds of silence ... it is still weird. Keep the music and thus show flowing.


    Whilst I am willing to give you all this information as it seems you are stubbornly set on doing this even tho' you obviously have no experience (all your questions show that you haven't seen or experienced what you are about to do) ......... I still will warn you against doing it until you have seen enough private party shows and/or at least visit a strip club so you can get an idea of how to handle men.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jasmine
    I think you should take a big guy even if your friend if beefy. Men will respond differently to another man in a situation like this.

    Parties require lots of talking, so I would hit a local club for a night and check out how the girls deal with customers. It will provide some insight as this is totally different than how you would interact with a guy at a nightclub.
    I'm quoting Jasmine as I agree. You require a male security as, take it from me who started out with female security, the guys do react differently (and generally more favourably) to a male presence as your security over a female (even if that female can easily hold her own).

    Also please do visit a strip club for christs sake. Your newbieness is showing. Talking to guys in a sexually charged environment even if they are your "friends" is totally different to a nightclub.


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    how do you sell a dildo or masturbation show at a club?

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