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    Up untill Friday I never faced this.

    Twice I was denied lap dances because they were married blah blah blah.... I thought maybe it was just me but then I noticed these guys didnt buy any dances (from ANYone), just stage tipped but didnt failt to tell me how attracted they were to me.

    What do you say to this? I told them "You do know I am entertaining you by dancing for you and you are not cheating on your wife"

    I myself am engaged (and yes I wear my ring to work)

    I just dont get it.... If its a lame exscuse then screw them but I need a way to get these guys to get dances.

    Whatever I get from here always seems to work... Exspecially the thread about "what do I get for 20 dollers" the advise in there has doubled my dances but I'm really stuck with this whole married thing. Is there something that might work or do you just give up on those guys?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Collegegirl
    Up untill Friday I never faced this.

    Twice I was denied lap dances because they were married blah blah blah.... I thought maybe it was just me but then I noticed these guys didnt buy any dances (from ANYone), just stage tipped but didnt failt to tell me how attracted they were to me.

    What do you say to this? I told them "You do know I am entertaining you by dancing for you and you are not cheating on your wife"

    I myself am engaged (and yes I wear my ring to work)

    I just dont get it.... If its a lame exscuse then screw them but I need a way to get these guys to get dances.

    Whatever I get from here always seems to work... Exspecially the thread about "what do I get for 20 dollers" the advise in there has doubled my dances but I'm really stuck with this whole married thing. Is there something that might work or do you just give up on those guys?

    I wish I could be of more help, but honestly, this has never happened to me. I cannot tell you how many guys I've danced for that were married and I noticed a band on their finger, so it really just depends on the guy and what they're comfortable with. Honestly, if it were me, I would just respect their decision and move on- *unless* it was happening several times a night over a long period of time, then I would begin to get a little suspicious.....

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    Guy: I'm married ( shows me his ring )
    Me: Soooooo, if you are so married what -are- you doing here?

    Guy: Unnnhhhh..
    Me: Unhummm, Well, have a nice time.


    Guy: I'm married ( shows me his ring)
    Me: Thats nice. Your wife knows your here then, spending the household funds on expensive beer so you can talk to strippers?
    Guy: Unnhhhh..

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    Well this happened to me but never botherd me usally when it happend the guy was with a bunch of work frieds I live in a military town where guys travel to to train they go out as a group ussaly the married guy is the desginated driver and if your sweet to him he will by you a drink or two and stage tip you. Its not a big deal realy.

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    Love Crow's comeback...LOL!!!!!!

    "You're married! That's TERRIBLE!"

    "You're married? Are you bored yet?"

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    "I'm married."

    "Congratulations! So am I. Let's have some fun."
    "That's okay! Even married people can have a good time."
    "Well, I won't tell her if you don't." <wink>
    "Your wife is going to love all the nasty things you'll do to her once I get you going."

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    ^^^Love it

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    this is one of those guys that you can rarely convert (because ultimately, it's about the money), so don't even waste your time.

    Have you ever noticed that these "married" guys that can't buy dances are always trying to grope you while turning you down?

    So basically all I say is (as I smack his hands off), "I feel sorry for your wife that she's got to put up with this every night."

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    I was married when I spent my most amount of money in the strip clubs.
    But I was paying to get from women what my ex-wife wouldn't give me.

    Interesting Conversation.
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    yeah, married guys are my best customers (that's a retort I ocassionally use, and it's true)

    or if he looks rich, "I'm less that that SUV you bought your wife and I won't treat you like shit"

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    She did say they were tipping on stage. At least they are spending some money. I can respect that some guys don't want lap dances. I'm cool with that. As long as they are spending some money for the show. I work at a high-grind club. When guys buy a LD in my club they are going to get butt grinded and boob grinded and possibly boobs in the face.
    Lots of couples have a "lookey-no-touchy" policy. It's just rare to find a guy following that unsupervised ITC.

    Then again maybe he is cheap and full of shit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    Have you ever noticed that these "married" guys that can't buy dances are always trying to grope you while turning you down?
    Totally true. If they start doing that stuff Im outta there. Sometimes the guys will try to pawn you off on their unmarried buddies. If youre good with the group of married and unmarried guys you might be able to pull dances from some of them.
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    I think it's probably just his "nice" way of saying no.
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    i'd say i can sell dances to 80% of the guys who first turn me down with the "married" excuse. usually i'll start by saying something like "well then, why are you here?" then i'll go into the general... it's just fun.. it's not cheating.. it's no big deal.. or i say "so being married means you can't have any fun at all?" of course, this only works when the "i'm married" line is the real reason they aren't getting a dance. if it's because they just aren't interested or are cheap you're pretty screwed. good news is, it only takes a minute to find out. i just assume that if they're there, even if they tell themselves it's ok as long as they don't get a dance, it onyl takes a tiny push to get them to cave.

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    I just say "it's awesome that your wife doesn't care where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home". It's never failed me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Caylis
    I just say "it's awesome that your wife doesn't care where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home". It's never failed me.
    I love it!

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    Most guys that come in are married. Ones that emphasize it and use it as an excuse not to buy dances are usually doing so as an excuse.

    My response to that is to play with it for about a half a song and if they stick with that "I'm married, no dances for me" then move on to someone wanting to have some fun.
    I comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow
    Guy: I'm married ( shows me his ring )
    Me: Soooooo, if you are so married what -are- you doing here?

    Guy: Unnnhhhh..
    Me: Unhummm, Well, have a nice time.


    Guy: I'm married ( shows me his ring)
    Me: Thats nice. Your wife knows your here then, spending the household funds on expensive beer so you can talk to strippers?
    Guy: Unnhhhh..

    Hahahahaha, I love you.
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    50% of the time, "I'm married," just translated to I'm a cheap asshole. But sometimes it means I don't want my wife to know I was at the titty bar, so I can't get a dance because I don't want to risk getting perfume/glitter/make up on my clothes. Thats about 30% of the time. 10% of the time a man really does respect his wifes look no touch policy and its just NOT ok to get a dance whether she actually finds out or not. 10% of the time they can be converted into getting a dance, where 90% of the time they will grope all over you. I don't waste energy on "married" guys. NEXT!!!
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    ^^Yep. NEXT!!!

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    "I'm married...."

    "Well, we're not makin' babies hunny, it's just dancing!"

    Then I usually tell them they will have to come up with a better excuse the next time I come by or he's getting dance, add a wink and wiggle away.....

    The next time I come by he more often than not will buy a dance. Works for me!




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    Oh please, that's a loud of bull!!! If the reason why he isn't getting a dance because he is married, then why is he at the club in the first place? He just didn't want a dance from you. That lame excuse was the only one he could think of. Trust me sooner or later, he'll be escorted to the vip with a dancer he wants. Some guys frequent clubs for days before finally getting a dance.

    Once I had this guy tell me a bunch of convictions mixed up with bs for the reason why he couldn't get a dance. Some girl came over and whispered something in his ear and he was gone quicker than 1,2.......

    I have an idea on what she said, but I won't go there.

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    CG, lots of great feedback thus far on how you might be able to turn around a sale. I'd say give a few of the suggestions a shot, but if the guy still declines move on. But before you leave, be sure to invite him to your next stage set. You might not get a dance, but you can still try for a stage tip.

    I've read a lot of "well why are you in a SC then" remarks. I think a little context also needs to be considered. For example if the guy is alone in the SC, well then that thought may be more appropriate than if the married guy came in as part of a larger group. Does that make any sense?

    For myself, and some of my married buddies, I agree with what avacheetahs said in that many couples could have a "look but don't touch" policy. Yeah, some might see "I'm married" as a lame excuse, but I'd like to think that in some cases it is actually ligitimate. IMO as long as they're tipping stage, than there really shouldn't be a problem with any customer married or otherwise not getting dances.
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    Quote Originally Posted by verfolgung
    For myself, and some of my married buddies, I agree with what avacheetahs said in that many couples could have a "look but don't touch" policy. Yeah, some might see "I'm married" as a lame excuse, but I'd like to think that in some cases it is actually ligitimate. IMO as long as they're tipping stage, than there really shouldn't be a problem with any customer married or otherwise not getting dances.

    I agree if...1) he IS tipping on stage, buying girls drinks..SOMETHING to make his presence there orth our while and 2) he qualifies that statement..and I have had guys say this "I'm married and I promised my wife I would look but not touch". THATS a valid excuse.
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    I get these all the time. It's like a cult here in Iceland. THey all go: Blablabla, just having a beer, checking the girls... blablalba, -because I'm married-. Yeah, ok. Go suck on an egg, your friend's, to be specific.

    It pisses me off because there's nothing you can do about these guys here and they are like 40% of all the guys that walk in.

    Absolutely mind numbing.

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