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    Hi ladies!

    I am a newbie here, my name is peggy and i am a 27 years old francophone from Montreal. I have never dance before but have been thinking about it for a while now. The timing is perfect at this moment and to say the thruth i could realy use the extra income. I am fairly content with my looks(except for thoses them boobs...pfff!), have no problem with nudity or the whole flirty game. The thing is i have heard about how much strippers can be hostile toards each other. Girls watching you do your first stage, laughing at you. Hoping that you'll f*** up one way or an other. Giving you the wrong advice to see you get discourage.... Is that just a bad cliché? Did you experienced it? And if so how did you handle it...Any way to avoid this?
    I dont want unnecessary drama. I just want to make my money and be an empowering independent women!
    I would realy appreciate some feed back.
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    Yes. I have seen this. Girls can be jealous bitches. The best way to handle it is to ignore them and just go about your business. Don't let their negativity affect you. Take the high road, mind your own business, and before ya know it, Karma will kick them in the ass. I have seen it time and time again...and again... and again.
    In this business, as well as in all of life, you get back what you throw out. That is why you must stay positive. And if the girls are acting jealous and doing things to be hurtful, take it as a compliment. They want what YOU have, and, for as long as they behave like immature jealous douchebags, they never will be able to have it! Being bitchy reflects their own insecurities, and if they act this way in front of customers, they only make THEMSELVES look bad, not you. If you ignore them and continue to have a good time and make $$$, You'll be the winner. THEY will be the Losers. With a capital L.
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    Maria Callas said it best: "When my critics stop hissing, I shall know I'm slipping."

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    I would be interested in knowing how many of you are friendly with the girls you work with. I am not looking to make great friends at work, but would love to be friendly with them at least inside of work. I hate working in hostile environments where everyone fends for themselves. Im also very interested in performing with other girl on stage and double lap dances. This would be easiest if I didn't hate the girl or didn't feel I was competing with her...

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    yes! girls are like that when you enter "their territory" ignore them, they may try to scare you to make you never want to come back if they feel threatened! stand your ground and stick to your guns!

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    Yeah, they'll probably sit and stare at you during your first stage... not neccesarily hoping you'll mess up, more like seeing what you can do. I'm always friendly to the new girls, but I usually don't go out of my way to make them overly comfortable. If they have q's I'll help answer them, or if I see them doing something that looks ridiculous on stage I'll say something... but otherwise I just go about my business as usual.

    There are always mean and bitchy girls in all walks of life. Some are this way because they may be threatened by you (your looks, personality or whatever) and some are just this way because they are bitches.

    I'm pretty close with all of the girls at work while we're at work... when we open and we're empty we'll sit and chat, or we'll hook each other up with doubles or friends of custys that need a dance also.

    When I first started I didn't know anyone and it was a little nerve wracking at first, but you'll get over it REALLY fast... so will they. If they don't, fuck em'. You are really there to make money, not friends.

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    The girls where I am aren't bestest buds, but no one's been rude to me, and everyones nice enough. Not any cattier than when I was a waitress at Johnny Carinos.

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    Always be friendly, but don't make friends.
    Im nice to everyone at work, and I get along well with everyone, never had any problems,but I dont think one person at that club knows my real name.

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    Default Re: Bitchiness among girls ...Cliché?

    Also watch out for the girls who seem extra nice. Sometimes the girls who are all sweet and nice to your face are the ones who talk the most shit behind people's backs.






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    Default Re: Bitchiness among girls ...Cliché?

    you mean you didnt have to deal with it in high school?


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    Quote Originally Posted by DestyDoll
    I would be interested in knowing how many of you are friendly with the girls you work with. I am not looking to make great friends at work, but would love to be friendly with them at least inside of work. I hate working in hostile environments where everyone fends for themselves. Im also very interested in performing with other girl on stage and double lap dances. This would be easiest if I didn't hate the girl or didn't feel I was competing with her...
    I don't like that type of environment either. But to be better safe than sorry, it is best to keep to yourself. I have small chats with a few dancers I work with- but that's it.

    Sometimes I wish I could go and hang out with them (I just moved and don't have any friends here)...but the funny thing is- after a while they know each others business and won't hesitate to discuss it out in the open when one of their *friends* aren't around.
    So I get to overhear who's selling pussy, who's going home with the manager, who's sleeping with another dancers ex, who's habit is getting out of control, etc.

    Times like that I'm glad only *I* know what my life is like.

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    In my club we are, overall, friendly with each other. And it's great when everyone gets along and has fun, because then we all make $$$. But if there is a girl who others are jealous of, then the jealous bitches will do everything they can to bring her down, only to destroy themselves in the end. Karma. Gotta love it!

    Just goes to show...don't put the hate out there if you don't want the hate right back!
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    Maria Callas said it best: "When my critics stop hissing, I shall know I'm slipping."

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    Seriously, the club is like high school to me and the only way to survive is to keep to yourself and trust no one. Competition brings out the worst in people, add to that, the crazy world of stripping and you practically have a Jerry Springer episode. Don't worry so much about what everyone else is doing, if you're looking to start dancing your best bet is to focus on what you need to do to sink or swim. You can always make friends later. Good Luck!

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    Sunshine73s reply was awesome. i agree with it all the way!

    if they are rude to u, they are jealous. why else? unless u did something to piss them off.

    i try to mind my own business. i dont even GO in the dressing room, everyone just hangs out in there and talks and talks and talks. i change in the bathroom haha(well my locker is in the bathroom too so i dont look like a complete weirdo)

    but i jus smile, be friendly, but mind my own business. i dont talk bad bout the other girls. i dont know if they do 2 me, but i dont care. i dont give anyone dirty looks. sometimes ill shoot the shit with em, but nothing too personal. i dont think its a good idea to give any girl any personal info bout yerself. i try to avoid convo tho, especaily when im dressing(because u cant really leave, yer dressing!)....most of the girls at my work who i dont even KNOW that good at ALL, TALK AND TALK to me about their problems! i jus half listen and give nods and "that sucks" and try to get out of their presnese ASAP without seeming rude. this one girl sits in the bathroom and shows me texts or voice messages from her boyfriend or guy she likes. tells me what she thinks bout them or what i think bout it. im thinkin 'who gives a flyin fuck? i dont!' i jus giggle and say "oh yea" then excuse myself.

    but i say stay positive...dont start being rude just because everyone else is. it will make u look bad to customers, and of course, karma is real. jus be friendly, but not too much of a pushover. dont let anyone treat u like shit, but be nice about it.

    goodluck. dont worry bout it, dont let it stop u from dancing. alot of clubs have rude girls. if u really dont like one club, u can always switch. goodluck
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    Maybe I've just had really good luck, or I'm great at flying under the radar, but I can count the bitchy girls I've encountered in clubs on one hand. I've found it's nowhere near as bad as I expected.

    Quote Originally Posted by Windy
    i jus smile, be friendly, but mind my own business.
    Exactly! I do the same. That's the best way to handle co-stripper interactions.

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    Thank you, Windy

    I agree with Windy says too (we seem to think along the same lines ). Smile, be polite and friendly, but mind your own business. Never say shit about another dancer, even if a customer does. If you DO say something about another dancer, make sure it is something nice and complimentary and genuine. Never be a drama queen. It's very immature and can backfire on you.

    And if a girl is rude to you for no reason, just don't pay attention to her. Why get caught up in her little drama? You're there to pay attention to customers and to make $$$. Who cares what the girls say/do behind your back. Like I said, they are only screwing themselves over.
    And, unwittingly, they give you the upper hand.
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    Maria Callas said it best: "When my critics stop hissing, I shall know I'm slipping."

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    Wherever there are a bunch of women in one place there will be drama. People talking behind backs, stupid little catfights, jealosy....blah blah blah. you will not like every person you work with, and you may really get along with some of them.

    I am friendly to everyone at work, and there are a few I don't like, but they will never know that, and neither will another girl, or a custy. I don't tell people my real name, and I don't hang out with girls OTC. But when I'm at work, I act like every girl there is my best friend, and the guys love that! So just ignore the drama, and try your best not to get involved in it
    With all the stupid things guys will say, stay cool.

    "Her apartment is littered with soggy G-strings and cheap 8-inch heeled shoes, along with empty tubes of body glitter, mascara, prescription drugs, zit cream, Aqua Net and Polaroid pictures of her and her "friends" engaged in some drinking and dancing on St. Patrick's Day last year. " My God....

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    Personaly i havent had anyone try to like wreck my night or anything like that but i have had some girls "steal" customers. They talk behind youre back alot. I dont make friends with the girls at work there may be 1 or 2 girls i share a taxi with after but that is about it. Just eep to youre selfe, dont give them any personal info about youreselfe like where you live or phone # inless its a cell. Dont give the youre real name because they may tell custys. I have had that happen and a girl back home acualy told a custy my fucking address! guess who came knocking all drunk one of my nights off? STALKER!



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    Wow ...so many response! Thanks for the help!
    I guess i am just feeling insecure since i never dance before and i am scared that some girls will sense it and want to use it against me. But i prety much got it. Do my own thing, friendly but discreet and NEVER fall in the gossiping blabla thing. I concider myself a prety mature 27 yrs old so i guess i'll just follow my instict and use common sense. With the anticipation i probably just blow out of proportion certain fear i have.

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    ^ I was a little worried about it when I first started, too. Just be nice to them. Don't expect them to be rude off the bat, I'm a firm believer in self-fulfilling prophecy. (But don't say or do anything stupid.) Read the posts on this forum and learn all the stripper etiquette and you'll be fine. You'll definately run into the drama at some point, but not necessarily right off the bat.
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    All good advice here. I will say that although there are many immature, jealous, back-stabbing bitches galloping around, I have met some great gals too. But even as far as the cool girls go, keep the relationship professional, and don't get involved in the business of others. Polite and professional is the way to go.
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    i persoanlly treat the bizz as money source thats it!...i have met a few girls that are very sweet and do have a heart of gold..which i stay very close to.. but for the most part, i dont associate with anybody (OTC)..i dont trust anybody ( ITC) or belive in anything they say.( ITC)..the dancer are just as much hustlers as are the custi's, if not worst.......

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    Absolutely do not feed the tigers, so to speak. Some people seem just wired to be up in everyone's business, to gossip, to compete, etc. Frankly, certain personality types seem drawn to certain jobs, and with stripping appearing to be a non-stop party for the extroverts, you can imagine who will be among the employees. It gives certain people energy to cause conflict, so don't give them their energy! They will lose interest in you and move on to someone else.

    Myself, I am more introverted and I am very good at being on good terms with people but little else. I still made money and still had customers (yes, even with the A-cups!). Just be professional, make your money, and go home.

    Besides, everyone...EVERYONE...was new once! Accept it for what it is, without judgement, and learn all you can!

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    Do you have a regular job?
    One thing you have to consider is the fact that most of the girls in the clubs rely on that for thier entire income. You are competition!!! Especially if you look good.
    If you have other means of income, you are not as stressed as the other girls and can have fun doing the job.
    I have a real career, and just do it for fun and "extra" money. I'm kind of living my own fantacy when I'm dancing.
    The best way I've found to deal with hostility from other girls is to ignor them.
    I just do my own thing and don't get caught up in the drama. You may have girls that you get along with in a club but rarely are they your friends. You are after all "the competition".

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