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    Okay girls, I have a major problem with dancing in general. First of all, I quit cold turkey in the winter of 05. I was just so burnt out. I wanted to get a normal life. I notced people with them normasl lives dont have to deal with such craazy-ass drama we have to deal with in our daily lives. So, I was willing to give it all up. I gave up my house, brand new car.. everything, you name it. I got a career in Real Estate, which has been really slow, simply because Im just starting out. So I also picked up 2 other side jobs! I work at a fitness center, plus house clean on the side.
    AND YOU KNOW SOMETHING?? I dont even pull in 300.00 a week and work like 40hrs !!!!!! I am struggling! It is soo rough out in the real world. It frigging BLOWS! . Gurls.. you have no idea how bad I wanna hit that pole again!$$$ lol. Stripping is like a frigging drug, I swear to god!! I miss making atleast 300-500 a night sometimes $1,000 --EASY. I really dont know what to do. I promised myself I would never go back. If I go back I will feel as if I failed and I gave up everything 4 nothing. uh-. But I feel as if thats my only choice other than filing for bankruptcy!!! Im a single mom too. Thats the #1 reason why I feel the need to go back dancing, is because I miss that extra time I have w/ my lil girl. I need some real life/dancer advice here. I am being pulled from both angles. ----Please Help

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    Strippers might be a bad group to ask in regards to a stripping addiction...

    It's like going to a cocaine party to ask what you should do about your drug addiction. hehe.

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    I relate to you more then you know i am not dancing right now either. I gave it up cold turkey a little over a year ago and its tough to be away for it not just becuse of the money but the addiction factor. I gave it up for the better of my marriage and my family we struggle with money but I am content becuse i don't like what danceing dose to me i tend to get cought up in lifestyle not drugs or drinking but the high stress part of the lifestlye I become so focused on it i take take time for whats important and the i don't miss the stress i put on myself to always be top girl everynight wich i was it was great for money but the stress and the drama that went with it was killing me. If you go back i say be careful and start just going part time to see if you can handle the stress and the drama. Talk to noone but custys to keep your drama factor low. I struggle with not dancing becuse i miss the stage and the enviroment so much sometimes but i look at my life and how good it is and know its not for me anymore. I am proud i was stripper but i am just as proud to be where i am now. This is a choice you have to make i would step in slowly and see.


    For those of you who pay attetion to my posts i did dip my toe in agine this summer when i moved to ky but i quikly stopped myself and quite agine i mainly just wanted to see what was in the louisville area and to add a club to my list i keep of clubs danced in i will probaly always dip my toe in the water in a new city just to see.

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    Stripping is an addiction. Its the party lifestlyle and you make great money most of the time. I know a girl that has a master degree in something or other and she danced her way through school.

    She is still a dancer and she has been ot of school 2 years. She tried a normal job but makes better money as a dancer and doesnt have to do any paper work but her taxes.

    I'm going back to school next year. I'm just doing a little at a time so I can continue dancing. I'm 30 in June and I've already been doing this 6 years. I know my time is limited as a dancer, so I am finally going to get my degree in culinary arts. I know I might never quit dancing completely after I become a chef. There may be a weekend here and there just to say I can still do it and I still got it.

    We just have to think of our futures. Dancing is not a lifetime career unless you count this chick who is 50 and still doing it. I dont want to be her.


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    I say go for it. I talked to a woman who stripped through the 1970s & 80s (when it was great $$$ but very taboo) because she had 3 daughters to take care of & her husband was dead. She can live with herself now because she was doing it for the right reasons.
    Considering how hard life will get for you if you have a bankruptcy on your records & a daughter to care for & help through college.....go back to stripping, just on the weekends. Maybe something else will come up & you'll be able to retire for good. Where there's a will, there's a way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gemini_Syn
    We just have to think of our futures. Dancing is not a lifetime career unless you count this chick who is 50 and still doing it. I dont want to be her.
    That's always on my mind. I'm 32 now and might have five good years left in me to dance. I have a degree, but there's no way I will make any real money with it.
    I'm saving up my dollars, but you can only save so much, and any real savings goes quickly once you stop pulling in the big bucks.

    I think sales would be a good field for me (and probably a lot of you). Someone I know does radio ad sales. I barely know her, but if I get to talk to her some more I might ask her what kind of background she had to get hired into something like that.

    What would be nice is if I could go into a job interview and say, "Look, I have been a stripper for 12 years and have sold more than you can imagine. I've got the look, I've got the brains, and I can sell the hell out of your _________."

    Now, where could I go that honesty like that would be appropriate? Therein lies the challenge.
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    ^^ I did radio ad sales yrs ago. Qualifications were basically.."hi can I have the job"?

    Seriously..if you have ANY sales experience..SOME station willl hire you..start at a crap station and move up to the #1 in your area. The money aint great though and like any sales job, you will bust your ass all hours of the day and night(whenever your clients can meet with you, you have to be avail.) to make your money. Usually low or no salary...you get paid with commissions.

    And I've met some radio owners and managers who would count stripping as a plus for sales if you presented yourself articulate and proffessional!!
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    Seriously. I currently work for a company where I sit behind a desk all day long. I don't even get to mess with the telemarketers cause my secretary picks up all my calls. I work full time m-f, plus one weekend a month, plus two or three dinner meeting a week. Time wise- I'm f***ed. And how much do I make? What I could make in one, maybe two (who am I kidding- definately two) nights of dancing.

    So basically, in the little free time I currently have, I could dance and essentially more than double my income. Of course that would leave me with no time whatsoever. But...

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    I am going to go to real estate school in January, and continue to dance as long as I can, or at least until I get my real estete biz going. That might be a good plan for you, too. Then you will have anothr job to slide into when you are done dancing.


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    I've always thought that people with 'real' jobs had it easier, but i've come to realise that this couldn't be further from the truth. Shit money, no free time and way too often, asshole superiors. Oh, and the easy weight gain. It's so back to dancing for me. This time with appreciation.
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    ^^^don't forget that you have to wait to get paid. I had a job for 2 years that had MONTHLY payday. I'm too impatient.

    Dacning is a healthy addiction....unless you consider financial freedom a bad thing.

    Yeah, you can't do it forever, but it's like hitting the lotto. It's short-lived, but it's still a gift nonetheless. You can go back to plan A later.

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    Consider when/if you go back: BALANCE for you, your life, your family, and friends. Anyone working in any profession needs balance. If you can handle working 40hrs a week stripping then sure but from your post you cant. Instead of working full time try part of 3/4 when/if you go back. It will give you a chance to enjoy your riches and life itself if at least 2 days a week youre not at the club.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    Dacning is a healthy addiction....unless you consider financial freedom a bad thing.
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    My thoughts exactly. It would be better for you to have the time w/ your kid and the money. How is that failing?

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    You know I'm so silly. I already posted but should mention this:

    I was a real estate agent here in NY. I thought it would be the smoothest 'out' for me from the adult world. But I ended up not having any motivation for it because it takes so long to make good money. And since with real estate you're an ic (in the true sense, not like strippers are considered an ic) you truly can go in at 3 pm or just a few days a wk and no one questions it.

    I had planned on dancing two or three nights a week while working the real estate five days a week. I ened up never going in on time as I was too tired from the night before. Before I knew it, I wasn't going in to work at all. I was making more money elsewhere and it takes so much work to make money in real estate that I felt it wasn't going to happen that next day so who cares if I went in. Almost two months later I bucked myself up to go to work- and they gave my desk to someone else! lol at me.

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    Tell me about it...

    I'm resigned to being a lifer now, because honestly, I'd have to be a moron to forgo the money potential and freedom. I want a regular job too, but nothing wrong with dancing part time. I sometimes think of stripping as my hobby more than anything else.

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    As long as you don't get caught up in the whole scene and stress you should be ok. When you feel overwhelmed, take a week or two off. Don't look at going back to dancing as that you're failing, use dancing to your advantage as a stepping stone until you can achieve your goal in real estate or whatever that is. Instead of the other 2 jobs, replace those with dancing like 1 or 2 nights a week. That should give you a minimum of $500 extra per week, an extra $2,000 per month. Work on your "real" job and be dedicated to it, don't get lazy with it because you're making great money dancing. Use this time as an opportunity to go to school, increase your clientele with real estate, maybe take a higher real estate course (if available) and you'll have extra money so you won't stress about it constantly and extra time for your daughter.

    I have a college degree that I've been doing for 7 yrs and I am now 30 and just started dancing. I struggled for years to make ends meet and for the first time in my life I didn't constantly worry about being able to pay this bill or that bill. I know I can't dance forever, I don't want to, I'm using this time to get out of debt and to save up money for my future.

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    Thank you girls so much. Your advice made so much more sence to me. My "Normal/Real world" friends just ALL would tell me the same thing; "DONT GO BACK! Youll get caught up!" bla bla bla. Rather, Your advice to me seemed more realisic.
    Its like what do most people believe anyhow?? Money grows from trees or some sh*t?? lol. Daamn. So, It looks as though I will be taking advantage of my job at the fitness center, getting my body as tight as it was, which wont take too long, and Ill go back dancing like once or twice a week. My club wants me back, soo we'll seee.... Thanks girls SO much
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    Um... I would reconsider. There are several girls here who are hyper-together with the whole stripper/handling money thing. Most girls/women aren't. Just a fact. They tend to think, though, that everyone is advantaged the way they are, both in the money they make and the various investments they make with it. Most girls aren't. (Me, for example. I'm retarded about money. Katrine, Emily and Melonie would collectively kick my ass and skin me if they knew what I did with my money. Just on principle). So yes - upsides: the potential for a lot of money, and a lot of freedom. If you are good, if you are on the ball, if you tough and if you make it. Downsides: you might not. Generally, if you have to ask - you are not on your ball. Not judging, just saying. And the "real job" is not going to get easier or more lucrative unless you invest in it. That is, you have to more than "start out." And 5 years from now you will likely be in the EXACT same position as now except 5 years older.

    I can't imagine a downside to giving up your hours cleaning houses to dance part time. I'm not arguing slippery slope. It's just that most of the girls who are really equipped to be career dancers.... already have the plan, you know? So, I would suggest that you keep your eye on the ball.
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    Join the Lifer club. As much as this whole profession can and has gotten to me in the past I stick with it as ultimately it has blessed me and continues to bless me. I'm now starting to be taken seriously as a showgirl over a waitress (and boy am I glad I put my foot down there!) so now I have some happiness back.

    Yes I don't work all that often (I'm only really working one day this week) however how many other forms of employment where you can work one day a week and earn $500 or more.

    Yes $500 is on the "low" end of earnings for a stripper however since I was on the Dole in my past I know I can easily live off this even tho' I prefer $800 to live comfortably... and $1000 per week to really make a go of saving money (and/or re-investing back into my business).

    In the end, I will leave however I'm hoping I will always be able to have a foot in the water because I want to teach lap dancing, strip tease and burlesque. Since I'm no pole monkey, I can easily team up with someone who is one and have them teach that aspect. Then there is one other thing I can teach as part of that business to make it a nice little "wholistic" school for not just professional strippers ... for the "everyday woman" and/or those who considering it as a business.

    On top of that I would love to own other businesses which do not require my involvement so much (be the owner not the manager) as well as invest in real estate and off-shore.


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    Do it while you're young and get as much out of it as you can. Even just part time.

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    It sounds like the part-time thing is really key.

    That's the only way I can do it, personally...I'm jealous of the girls who can dance full-time and not go berzerker, but I'm just not one of them. I do 6 days a month, tops, and even that's a bit much for me sometimes. My emotional state can't handle too much club exposure, I've learned that. You might be similar.

    The upside of not working much is that you're refreshed and ready for money when you DO go in to work...I can usually pretty consistently make good dosh when I do work; I push myself really hard because I know I'll have 3+ weeks off once I get through it (I do 6 days in a row).

    It's really what's best for you and your kiddo, but it sounds like you want ot go back, you just don't want to be the stereotype. But screw that, who cares.

    I do agree that you should not give up the day job. It'll be even harder to leave dancing if you give up what you've built- you'll have to start all over again, again.

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    I would only return to dancing if you can make a commitment to make it part time and keep your day job. My boyfriend is a succesful real estate developer, but he's in his 50's. When he was in his 20's he was making crap pay working long hours for someone else. When you're young, especially in this day and age, it's so hard to accept that there's going to be a certain amount of paying your dues if you want to get where you want to go. The problem with having worked as a stripper is that whenever something at your day job sucks you think to yourself "Screw this, I could make more money doing lapdances". That's the infamous stripper trap you hear about when you start dancing, the one where you roll your eyes and think you're way too smart to fall into that.

    It's all too easy to have only good memories of dancing when you haven't been doing it. If you hated it that much when you left the things that bothered you are likely still there. I just returned to dancing one afternoon a week after having been away for awhile. The first two times back were "Woohoo! Stripping rocks!" By the third time though, after countless tongues in my ear, old man lips on my neck, and the guy who stared only between my legs for the whole song muttering "Ooh baby, I wanna hit that, I wanna hit it, I wanna hit it, I thought -man, this job is gross. I still see an opportunity for that one shift a week to get me where I want to go but I couldn't do more than that at this point.

    Stripping can be an opportunity but you have to stay focused. Live on the cheap like you are now, let it help make your career move along more smoothly. Be careful, if you just drop your job to start dancing again as Jenny pointed out you could end up at the same place you are now only 5 years older. Very few dancers have both the tolerance level for working all the time and the financial discipline to make it worth it in the long run.

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    I made a good transition into a financial sales-type job from stripping. Of course I've always had other jobs in the real world, ran my own business,etc....

    Let me tell you, its fucking HARD to manage your money when you work on fees and commissions that you don't even receive for two weeks! Plus, if you lose commissions, you have to pay it back out of future earnings. And I bust my ass. Its awful two work 120 hours over two weeks, and get a check for $900.

    So stripping is a unique sales job. I can handle salary, and I could handle stripping. I can tell other people what to do with their money and how to improve their savings strategies. But its been tough for me personally.

    When you dance, if you look good and can hustle, you can stay for another shift or work at multiple clubs to make the money you need. You can work as many or as few days as you want. Taxes aren't coming directly out of your paycheck.

    BUT, those great aspects about the career also can destroy us. We are still responsible for saving for taxes and personal goals. Not having a schedule can cause laziness, especially when we have a great night at work. The customers, other trashy dancers, drugs, etc., can really get into your soul. Good luck whatever you do!

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    you are smart, you should become a computer geek. easy to earn 6 figures

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    Quote Originally Posted by gameover
    you are smart, you should become a computer geek. easy to earn 6 figures
    Uh, no its not that easy. First of all, she may not be inclined that way. Second, she would need to learn, get some certifications, and STILL start out pretty low. With outsourcing these days and the time commitment that most IT people have to give to their company, its not really that great a career. Plus, what do you mean by computer geek, that's a pretty vast field these days.

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