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    Am I over-reacting? (I really need ur input)

    Ok so Wednesday night was my first night back at my home club. We have an unwritten rule within the club that if you work full-time or are in school, you are on open schedule, or at least you work 2x per week. Ok, so I go into work and as soon as the manager sees me he says "we gotta talk" Make a long story short he tells me he has 10 girls already on open and I cant' be on open schedule anymore, and that I must work 3 nights per week because 1/3 of his girls are on open schedule.

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    When I'm leaving for the night he tells me, "you know counting you we have 3 black girls working here now" So I say, "yea well I usually make more money when that happens" (which is true for some reason) So then he's like, "well you know this club can't support 3 black girls. I don't like one of them and I'm trying to get rid of her. So yea, if she wasn't such a problem I wouldn't have let you back."

    Now, by what he said, I was hurt. First off, he's never spoken to me like this. He was being so arrogant about it..Secondly, in my mind I'm thinking ok you woudln't let me come back to work in this club (which is going downhill anyway) because you got 2 more black girls that work here now? I've only been away from the club for about 1 month now, so obviously they were not here before I left. Most WOC do not stick around in my club because of the rednecks that frequent the darn place..So, your'e telling me that you'd rather not bring me back after i've been a dancer here for almost a year over 2 other girls that may tough it out for like 2-3 months at most?! Am I wrong for being pissed?

    Right about now, I just wanna go in tonight, work Saturday and never return. Would you do the same, or am I over-reacting???







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    You never know. He could have been just having a shitty night. Feel it out tonight and tomorrow. See how the manager acts. You never know what was going on with him when he said all that.

    If he's still pms-ing, then maybe it's time to look for another club where you won't get that kind of managerial bullshit.

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    I tihnk he was out of line by saying anything like that for SO MANY REASONS! You have to tihnk about what is important to you , the money or the fact that this guy is acting like an ass and you would haveto work for him??

    Me personally? I'd go for the $$ right now and see if maybe he goes back to the way he used to be. (you said he's never acted like that before)






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    i sense a little racisim going on at your club. I know thats how my club is.. what a shame that your asshole manager is being like that...

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    Can't 'support' three black girls? Wtf?


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    yeah im confused about the "support" part of it????

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    What a jackass! He was out of line, but the fact of the matter is that he's not the one who pays you. Yeah, your manager is an asshole but alot of managers in this business are weirdos, assholes, drug addicts etc. If you make money at this club,(and there is not a better option nearby) I'd stick it out and just try to stay out of his way as much as possible.

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    I agree... Feel it out... make a decision after your Saturday shift..............however if there are not any better options locally/near-by then you may just have to try to avoid him as much as possible.


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    My oppinion is that he knows you pull in money, that means you pull in a crowd..So he's an idiot, and said what he thought would work best to keep you from staying away too long again.

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    Deja Vu policy is to make you come in and pay their housefees as much as possible. It seems like corporate must breathe down their necks pretty hard when they don't have enough girls on schedule paying housefees, because the mgrs seem to resort to anything to keep more girls on schedule and paying. That seems to be the norm - beg, plead, fine, threaten, etc, to get girls to keep coming in and paying those fees. Fuckers

    At the Deja Vu I was working in Seattle, it was ok - the GM was a pretty hands-off type of guy and that's just the way I like it, but it was obvious that corporate wanted as many girls on schedule as possible at all times. The day manager would call girls who weren't on schedule EVERY DAY to try to get them to come in to work He admitted once that it was his daily assignment. I commented to him once about how they must be really needing that housefee income, and he didn't quite get the joke. Heh.

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    Your manager was being a total asshat. Who knows what his problem was, but I can't believe he was picking on you like that! I'm sorry you have to put up with that shit... If you can find a better club, do it... But I'd stay if the money's good... If he just sucks, maybe he's on the way out anyways.
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    I agree with the person/s that said he's trying to encourage you to work more. He's using the infamous General Motors scare tactic is all.

    He wants you to feel expendable, so you say "o yess sir, massa sir!, I gon be here tollin' erry night you need me boss!, I can even bring you some shur fine collards and fried gizzards too!"

    Seriously though Cin, he's tyrying to make you feel grateful for having one of the token slots, in an effort to have you there more often is all.

    I'd just avoid his ass, and pull the shifts he requested, since there isn't a good alternative for you nearby.
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    yeah that was pretty rude.

    i say jus work, make yer $$ and ignore him!

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    That fucking sucks. I suggest you bust ass for a few days, and make amazing money. Once that's done, call him aside and say "we gotta talk".

    Tell him you felt very disrespected by what he said the other night; you're a hard worker, repsonsible, good earner blah blah, and your options are not limited to this club (assuming they aren't). If your hard work over the past year hasn't earned you the right to receive a bit of respect, then perhaps it's time for you to move on.

    Besides which, Deja Vu sucks.

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    Sound advice. Earn what you need then move on to the trip.

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    Yeah he wants you to feel grateful which is bs. So when he told you he needed you on more days he also told you that you wouldn't be there except blah blah blah...
    He's an uneducated idiot is my guess. You don't try to keep people that way. He should be kissing your ass. If there are other options use them. If you can go somewhere else get the bookings and then tell him you didn't really want to go ,but the other club is willing to work around your schedule and seemed really happy to have you. Esp since you have such a great work ethic. Just rub it in.
    If you're stuck there right now, just bite the bullet and get what you need to out of it. Stripping can really suck when some moron gets put into a position of authority.

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    I would be really offended, but I wouldn't let that stop me from making money there.



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    As one of the girls in my club told me upon seeing what pathetically thin skin I have (on a bad day, anything/everything can get to me) "you're here to make $$. if she/he doesn't pay your bills, then fuck her/him."

    I agree with her sentiments in this circumstance. Take the 3x a week if it won't interfere with school or work (I'm sure one of the 10 girls on the open sched. will leave sooner of later, this job does have a fairly high turnover rate, you'll be able to drop a night soon enough) and IGNORE him.

    success is the best revenge- ignore his ass until you've again proven you are top earner statues again (ESPEcially top african-american earner- if that's his category for you then play on his racism and don't let him get away with it) and after proving your "worth" to the club, off-handedly tell him you didn't appreciate his blatantly discriminatory remarks during your rehiring process. just like that. don't make a big deal out of it, don't give him an opportunity to respond, just let him know that YOU KNOW, and that you won't take it happening again. (of course, if you see it happen again between now and this point, by all means, LEAVE, and spread the word about this guy)
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    Em, that sounds like something Desire would say. Girl can bank, too.


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    I don't think you're over-reacting at all. I'd be rather upset if I was in your shoes, but I don't think you should let it stop you from making your money if that club is your only option right now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    Em, that sounds like something Desire would say. Girl can bank, too.
    no, desire quit! though it does sound like what she'd say... i think she's in vegas. i am a day girl... this was Moni. blonde, huge tits, porn chick?

    Anyway- Cinnamon, the Other Thing that really bothers me about what you said is that your manager TOLD YOU he didn't like the other black girl working there....

    no manager should be talking shit to dancers about other dancers.

    that is EXTREmely unprofessional, for one, but also probably meant to put you on your guard for more discrimination. beware of this guy, speak only when necessary to him, remember you're there for your customers only, no one else, and each time you see him picture him attempting to swallow your 7 inch heel. ... that's what i'd do

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    Quote Originally Posted by susie2
    My oppinion is that he knows you pull in money, that means you pull in a crowd..So he's an idiot, and said what he thought would work best to keep you from staying away too long again.
    Last night, I talked to the 2 highest paid girls in the club...man they are so hot. Anyways, when I told them what he said they just laughed and told me he's said the same thing to them before, and that's his way of saying he needs you, cause he knows you pull people in here to see you. She said if you aren't a money maker in this club, he could care less whether you come/go as often as you want..but when you're making money he wants you here all the time.







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    I would not pay attention to him! Infact I would keep my distance from him! Do not let him play mind games with you! Go out there and make your money.
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    Ck, that's kinda what I was trying to get at - that it sounded like he's trying to use some backwards psychology to make you work more, because he wants more of the money you make of course It seems Deja Vu mgrs are totally trained to do that.

    I would have been offended though. It was an asshole thing to say. But, as Lena said, if it's a good money place for you, I wouldn't let it stop me from making my money

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    I don't think you're overeacting. He's just trying to intimidate you into thinking you could be replaced so you'll come in more often. We have an quite a few black dancers now at my club too. Just like anywhere else, some will sink or swim. The ones that sink will go away. Theres not really a such thing as being unable to "handle" 3 or 4 black dancers. My manager does the oppossite and calls me saying, "hey you wanna come in, I saved you a spot on the list and I 'd rather have you and not the other black girls" Geez deja vu is stupid. I haven't been to work in a week.
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