Here's something I've never understood....when a girl is dancing for me and does a move, pose, or position I really like, I'll usually say something like, "Wow, that was awesome...that little move just about took my breath away!". The problem is, no matter where I am or who the dancer is, they never seem to bother to repeat the move that I commented on. Just for the record, I'm fit, clean, young-looking, very respectful both verbally and physically with all dancers (I don't touch even in clubs where it's allowed...it's a respect thing with me), and I tip generously. For example...the other night, a girl did a unique move in VIP where she sat on my lap facing me and put her feet up on my shoulders while she looked me in the eye. I didn't make a move, reacting only by looking back at her and saying something like, "Wow, thanks for that. I can't tell you how much I appreciate THAT little move!" She replied with something like, "Mmmm...good. I like to hear that." But in the two dances that followed, se never did it again. Maybe I should have asked, but frankly, that would have kind of blown it for me, 'cause I like to reward dancers who obviously work hard and pay attention to business. This sort of thing has happened to me a bunch of times, and I shudder to think of the money I'd have parted with had dancers just paid a little more attention. Am I being too shy with my feedback? Do dancers think if they show us too much individualized attention we'll end up thinking we're something extra-special to them? Help a guy out here girls...I'm really into being a good custy.



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