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    I met this great dancer a few months ago and we hit it off the first night. Since then I go see her when I can at her work and we go out quite a bit and have a great time. She has even asked me to move in with her. I'm just worried if it will work since we come from such different backgrounds. I love her personality and don't care what she does but I'm a "white collar" professional and have to maintain a certain lifestyle with my clientele.

    Anyway, anyone had any good experience with relationships with dancers?

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    It happens, but odds are against you. It usually gets too complicated either on her behalf or yours.

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    Mast? Mast? Are you fuckin with us again?

    White collar lifestyle.

    Does she pick her nose at the dinner table?

    You should already know if she is gonna fly in public with your clientele if you have OTC relations with her.

    Don't you marry her until you run a background and credit report on her (and that goes for everyone!)

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    I could just be extra sensitive but it sorta sounds like you are saying "I'm worried she's not good enough for me" Do you respect her enough to have a serious relationship?
    Last edited by PookaShell; 11-07-2006 at 05:32 PM.

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    so you're asking us if YOU can handle dating a woman who dances?

    Let me get my Magic 8 Ball....

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    No this isn't me. I'm too busy being all bonkers over this ball-busting truth-hopping breast-covering mod.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    On the short note

    Uma'sPlaything:
    It's actually coming across rather rude that you're asking a ton of people if this stripper you hit it off with could basically behave in your lifestyle. You're objectifying. It's cool though, we ALL fuck up somehow...

    but honestly we don't have the answer. Sure it can help. It's best to take your time, and the truth will come as long as you're not being a complete ass in manufacturing a relationship that isn't there.

    Just do HER a favor. Be a good customer, A GREAT customer... be the BEST DAMN CUSTOMER EVER, until SHE tells YOU that you're no longer a customer.

    Patience, and realism are your sanity. Money is your muse.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    This dude is the Politician Superhero from NBC's "Heroes." (Nathan Petrelli)

    IMO you don't have enough spine to date her if you're so scared of what others think. I've dated rich scaredy-cats. I respect them less than dirt after they tuck their tails between their legs when they have to man up......

    Just pray her alter-ego Jessica doesn't come beat you up when you dump her over the phone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine
    This dude is the Politician Superhero from NBC's "Heroes." (Nathan Petrelli)

    IMO you don't have enough spine to date her if you're so scared of what others think. I've dated rich scaredy-cats. I respect them less than dirt after they tuck their tails between their legs when they have to man up......

    Just pray her alter-ego Jessica doesn't come beat you up when you dump her over the phone.
    Wow, I thought phone was ok... but txting was shameless.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    Wow, I thought phone was ok... but txting was shameless.
    I'm a messenger service man myself. Just that little touch of humanity ya know.

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    It's not a breakup until it's done through email via an anonymous sender.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    It's not a breakup until it's done through email via an anonymous sender.
    Process server with a restraining order?

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    A restraining order is just another way to say "I love you"

    I'd put up a profile on myspace.com listing all her flaws, her job history, an address with phone number and a list of all her fears. Then send her a message telling her I'm not good enough for her.

    Or I'd just bring her home to my parent's house and tell her that's where I live. Extra points if my parents run field while I get naked in spongebob sheets.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uma'sPlaything
    I love her personality and don't care what she does but I'm a "white collar" professional and have to maintain a certain lifestyle with my clientele.
    Sorry, but I have to say that your comment irked me just a bit. Are you trying to say that just because a girl dances, she doesn't have enough "class" to fit in with your white collar lifestyle?? It is these kind of stereotypes that just make me livid. Granted, there are dancers who live up to the trashy/drug addicted/psycho hose beast stereotype, but there are quite a few of us who do NOT. There are so many dancers I know that are college educated (I, for one) or are using dancing as a means to work their way through college/grad school or to save up a sizable nest egg for their future. You are NOT defined by your job, and it is what it is-just a job, nothing more-a means to pay your bills, and I absolutely hate the fact that dancers seem to be the only ones who are portrayed as being defined by what they do for a living.

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    Quote Originally Posted by virgoamm
    You are NOT defined by your job, and it is what it is-just a job, nothing more-a means to pay your bills, and I absolutely hate the fact that dancers seem to be the only ones who are portrayed as being defined by what they do for a living.
    That's not quite true.

    It might be true for women regarding stripping - but men are pidgeon holed by their careers all the time by everyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol
    That's not quite true.

    It might be true for women regarding stripping - but men are pidgeon holed by their careers all the time by everyone.
    Yeah, that's a good point you made, Deogol. I just get a little pissy when people assume that just because we are strippers we don't have any class or-God forbid-be educated and articulate.

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    You guys really took what I was saying wrong. I was meaning it more from her perspective. Say I take her to a dinner party and I introduce her to the mayor or even the governor and they ask her what she does. I could care less what they think but I wonder if she would be embarrasses. Of course I'll ask her before this would happen but....

    Also, she doesn't consider me a customer whoever mentioned that. Regardless of what it may mean I am defined by my job/career somewhat by choice. I know not everyone is but that is why I went to college and grad school for so long.

    Anyway, I respect her and am serious about her and just wanted some feedback nothing else. Sorry to stir the pot.

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    Umas your thread is providing entertainment for the masses. Thats why its still open...for the moment. Dont push it.

    FBR
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    Quote Originally Posted by Uma'sPlaything
    You guys really took what I was saying wrong. I was meaning it more from her perspective. Say I take her to a dinner party and I introduce her to the mayor or even the governor and they ask her what she does. I could care less what they think but I wonder if she would be embarrasses. Of course I'll ask her before this would happen but....

    Also, she doesn't consider me a customer whoever mentioned that. Regardless of what it may mean I am defined by my job/career somewhat by choice. I know not everyone is but that is why I went to college and grad school for so long.

    Anyway, I respect her and am serious about her and just wanted some feedback nothing else. Sorry to stir the pot.
    Okay, I feel a lot better now after what you just said-sorry for getting so riled up ...I would just talk it over with her beforehand and get her imput on how she would want to handle that kind of situation. If it were me personally, I would not want to tell someone of that high of stature what I did for a living, not because I'm ashamed of what I do-but I know how judgemental some people can be about this profession and I wouldn't want my partner to be seen in a negative light when hob-nobbing with people in positions of power/influence.

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    Im pretty sure she'd be able to deal with that, whether she wasnt to be upfront about it or whether she wants to say she does something else. We deal with this sort of thing alot anyway.



    Quote Originally Posted by Uma'sPlaything
    You guys really took what I was saying wrong. I was meaning it more from her perspective. Say I take her to a dinner party and I introduce her to the mayor or even the governor and they ask her what she does. I could care less what they think but I wonder if she would be embarrasses. Of course I'll ask her before this would happen but....

    Also, she doesn't consider me a customer whoever mentioned that. Regardless of what it may mean I am defined by my job/career somewhat by choice. I know not everyone is but that is why I went to college and grad school for so long.

    Anyway, I respect her and am serious about her and just wanted some feedback nothing else. Sorry to stir the pot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Uma'sPlaything
    You guys really took what I was saying wrong. I was meaning it more from her perspective. Say I take her to a dinner party and I introduce her to the mayor or even the governor and they ask her what she does. I could care less what they think but I wonder if she would be embarrasses. Of course I'll ask her before this would happen but....
    You're not for real. If you were all that with caviar on the side, you wouldn't be asking this. You would have found a way to deal with it.

    & Unless she had a hole in her head with brains leaking out of it....she'd find good answers for situations like the one you listed.

    EDIT- check out the avatar. Troll is getting a herpes dose from Paris Hilton.

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    yeah, any chance you had of being taken seriously went out the window when you changed your avatar

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    yes, dating a stripper can be a really nice experience and it can also be a horrible one that will ruin your life.

    get to know her. If she is one of the drug addicts, dont date her. If she is educated and going somewhere with her life other than the strip club, then go for it.Either way no one will know she is a stripper.

    and whatever you do, dont think about marrying her. at least not now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    yeah, any chance you had of being taken seriously went out the window when you changed your avatar
    Weird with how that works.

    Come on here act all humble, then just before they turn into self-proclaimed gurus of strippers community they change their image up to look like they're used to sex falling all over them.

    It's weird, really. I mean christ, you have my respect if you're trying to sleep between outrageous orgasms with piles of Bulk Women, but really I just don't care.

    And Guru Of Sin, I saw that, I don't think emily was talking about you. Nice try though captain buff.

    Me though? Woooooo I'd be all over you like a pack of dogs on a three legged cat. MMMM MMMM Teryaki ManSex.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GURU OF $IN
    yes, dating a stripper can be a really nice experience and it can also be a horrible one that will ruin your life.

    hahahah....

    like she can ruin your life just cause she's a stripper.

    Take it from me, my main avatar. A woman's ability to effect your life at it's core components has absolutly nothing to with her job. And everything to do with the poor choises we make as individuals and couples.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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