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    I met this awsome customer the other day he was younger (24) and he was just the best we had a great time just talking and he was so genuine and eeerrggg I cant stop thinking about him..... He gave me $50 just so I could go home to my homework (He heard me talking to someone else about it..) but asked if I would just sit and hang for a minute and then I woudlnt have to hustle before I needed to leave.

    I'm engaged I'm not looking for ANYTHING but is it bad I sometimes think about customers... Like I crush on them?

    Its always the younger guys who are there after work with the guys from work. Just blue color guys you know not the older perverted ones.... I guess I'm pathetic. Any guy who treats me with respect I swear I crush on them.... Like the ones who sit on their hands during dances and ask about school and my tattoos and are just so sweet.

    Please someone tell me its normal right? I mean it doesnt effect me at home or at work but I feel like I'm doing something wrong like hoping certain custys (its only been like 2) come back NOT for them to spend money on me but so I can see them...? Its normal to make good friendships and have crushes.... right?

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    Default Re: Is this wrong/unhealthy?

    you're human, right?

    of course it's normal! But...be realistic

    Don't waste your time on customers that aren't giving you money. There is nothing beneficial that can come of thoe relationships. i try to avoid cute customers for this reason. I find it distracting and lose my sense of purpose.

    I get crushes too. I'm single, but usually they are not, so it's pointless. Right now I have a huge crush on this one customer. A pro athlete....sooooo sweet and generous. I hope he comes in, but I insist on money. I jsut like the way its earned in this case.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Collegegirl
    Any guy who treats me with respect I swear I crush on them....
    I think that's the key right there. We as strippers get so used to being treated like objects or worse and I think all of us would be prone to "falling" for the nice, caring ones. Just remember they are still customers, they pay you for your time. That doesn't mean you can't devolp a friendship with them. Don't let them take advantage though...

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    Its normal to get high school type crushes - like so and so is cute and they are so nice to me etc....

    Just don't ever take it to another level besides $$$.

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    Oh God, I got crushes every week on someone or another. Just make sure you don't confuse things...get paid above all else. Much easier to crush when they're giving you $$.

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    I've had crushes on customers before. One in particular was in his 50's and a doctor, and not either attractive nor unnatractive, but very funny and sweet even though he was hella perverted. But he is genuinly caring toward the girls. Since then we have become really good friends, and have even done some traveling together along with my best friend. He has become really protective over me in a sort of way, and will tell other guys, if he hears me getting upset with them, that they'd better respect my wishes. It's weird, the crush thing is actually gone now, but I feel like he is one of my best friends, and that I could depend on him for anything. Is that weird?
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    No, this isn't wrong or unhealthy. Don't beat yourself up!! It's good that this is happening. Maybe this is trying to tell you something.

    I think perhaps you should take a moment and reflect on whether or not your fiance is the right one for you. Does he treat you with love and respect? Do you feel ready for marriage? Do you think he is honestly the one for you? Are you really in love with him?

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    I may get a bunch of flack for this, but:

    I was working one night and there was this Guy. Oh my god. Physically, exactly my type. He was there with a bachelor's party. I went and did a dance for the bachelor. I went back to where the group was and I was nervous as I sat down next to this guy. We'll call him 'A' for the time being.

    Anyway, he was not only my type physically. I developed such a crush on him just talking to him. I wanted him so bad. Another custie of mine actually walked over, interrupted, apologized, but said that he really wanted a few more dances with me before leaving. A said to go ahead and that he'd hold my seat. I go dance for other dude. Before he left he actually gave me a twenty to give a dance to A!

    I go back to A and tell him what happened. He's says great let's go. I didn't want to! I was so nervous! But what was I gonna do? It was paid for after all. So I'm giving A a dance and just feel so silly in the middle. I end up giggling and sitting on his lap staring at him for half of it! When it's over, I said, sorry that was so weird, I can't give you another.

    He convinced me to do one more for him (I really did want to get to writhe my body all over him, but was afraid of what I'd to to HIM!!). I did and it was weird. I had to get away. I went back a little later and got hi number from him. We talked on the phone that night while I was driving an hour home, and the next day to. We got together the week after and our date was awesome!!

    We were talking about when our second date would be when he mentioned the next night I worked. I told him I was going to be working so it wasn't good. He said, I just want to see you ASAP so if I need to pay for your time I will. I got so freaked out that he was still offerring to pay for what I was giving him for free. I told him I felt really uncomfortable with him being there while I worked and he understood after I told him that.

    We ended up dating for a few months. He only spent money on our dinner after that.

    This is a rare exception to the 'don't have crushes on your custy' rule though.

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    Katherine, no worries! When I first started dancing, I was soo nervous about the whole "losing sight of what I'm here to do" aspect that I made a very strict no-outside-contact-with-customers policy for myself. Well, as I continued, that rule gradually began to fade away and I've occassionally given my number out to customers (as I'm sure a lot of other girls have).
    One time, I met a TERRIFIC guy who was here on vacation, and with whom I could tell I had an instant connection, and he bought a string of VIP dances from me (which I had trouble giving, too... he was SO hot!), and we ended up exchanging numbers. I felt really guilty, but answered the phone when he called anyway, probably because I figured we could hang out and I'd never see him again, and I ended up hanging out with him 24/7 until the end of his vacation. This was a little over a year ago, and since then we've remained excellent friends and have seen each other a few times in non-SC-related contexts. I can't imagine not having him in my life, and I'm actually GLAD we met inside the club!

    ...so sometimes, yeah, there are exceptions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Collegegirl
    Just blue color guys you know not the older perverted ones....
    Personally, I like the green colored guys-lol

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    Crushes are pretty normal I think. Just don't lose sight of what you're there for, and remember, a LOT of guys seem great at first. Of course you can still find a man sweet, attractive, funny, and everything else, we are still human ya know!
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